Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Why why why are they like this!!!

330 replies

Hellofrances · 26/09/2025 09:37

My boyfriend stayed overnight at my house for the first time on Wednesday.

We both had yesterday off so had a lazy morning watching tv in bed.

He broke wind really loud and grabbed my head and forced it under the covers, I couldn’t move from under them for about 10 seconds.

He thought it was hilarious, I told him I’m a 37 year old woman and don’t appreciate that.

I think it’s the fact we’d not long been intimate and he was being really jokey.

I told one of my friends who found it amusing and said it’s a sign he’s comfortable around me which is good, but I don’t agree!

OP posts:
SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 27/09/2025 20:02

This is the sort of thing teenage boys and really pissed grown men did to each other in the Sixties. Half wits who thought it was hilarious.

Unfortunately, this show of manliness is still live kicking.

Absolutely disgusting If he had done it to me l would have puked on him.

Ditch him. He is an idiot!!!

Didimag48 · 27/09/2025 20:02

DISGUSTING!

Airspice · 27/09/2025 20:20

Urggh that’s just so childish and unfunny, bad enough if he was 18/20 but mid to late 30s?? It’s a no from me.

Beaverbridge · 27/09/2025 20:22

Omg, I'm another one in the get rid camp. How childish to say the least!.

oldclock · 27/09/2025 20:39

Twinmum345 · 27/09/2025 19:27

do you stamp your feet and quit everything when something you don’t like happens?

op communicate with him he may have thought you would laugh it’s not a big deal. Tell him not to do it again

Show quote history

I'd leave a relationship after my partner demonstrated that he had the maturity of an 8 year old, and was prepared to use force to get his way, yes. Wouldn't you?

Pres11 · 27/09/2025 20:47

Disgusting!! I would be dumping him

Daygloboo · 27/09/2025 20:59

ComfortFoodCafe · 26/09/2025 09:49

I think hes comfortable around you, but that would give me the ick. Long as he doesnt do it again - i would give him another chance.

Yes i think it was immature amd stupid and gauche he needs to be told it'd stupid. But if he does anything remotely this ridiculous again you need to think twice . It might just have been a yucky mistake.

TheExcitersblowingupmymind · 27/09/2025 21:10

Horrible toad.

Slipperhead · 27/09/2025 21:14

Low class scum and very nasty with it.
Not normal at all.
He restrained you which is a huge red flag.

If you continue to see him, you have a world of grief ahead of you.

Consider the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

Tresamour · 27/09/2025 21:57

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 26/09/2025 09:47

Ah, the Dutch oven. Funny from an outsider's perspective, gross for the recipient. I think he's comfortable being with you and felt playful, and maybe just a little immature. Don't write him off yet.

You would accept that?! Write him off, already I would say!

PotatoLove · 27/09/2025 21:59

Dutch Oven ugh.

hindsightisuseful · 27/09/2025 22:07

its really gross of him

FioFioSILK · 27/09/2025 22:09

I'm 59. And no one has ever done this to me. It's brute force. In your own bed. How dare he. He's not comfortable he's testing you to see why he can get away with.

Slipperhead · 27/09/2025 22:13

FioFioSILK · 27/09/2025 22:09

I'm 59. And no one has ever done this to me. It's brute force. In your own bed. How dare he. He's not comfortable he's testing you to see why he can get away with.

So agree.
To do this, hold you down while so vulnerable, makes him truly scum low life.

So not normal.
Married 32 years and I cannot fathom such behaviour.

bakingmad123 · 27/09/2025 22:37

Disgusting. My DH will fart around me and laugh if it’s loud or smelly, but would never do that Dutch oven thing - it’s disgusting and borderline abusive

Yellowrose225588 · 27/09/2025 22:47

Yuck. I’ve had plenty of relationships and no man has ever done that to me. Being held down by force in any context is a big red flag to me. I would leave over this.

Rainbows41 · 27/09/2025 23:20

🤣

JMSA · 27/09/2025 23:46

I’d have HATED this. YANBU.

JCS1000 · 27/09/2025 23:59

Big red flag. I’m presuming he’s not a 13 year old child. That’s awful and very disrespectful. Personally I’d cut him off, no explanation needed.

Laurmolonlabe · 28/09/2025 00:19

Definitely a red flag- no one over the age of 8 should find that hilarious- you want anyone to be that "comfortable" around you.

feelingfree17 · 28/09/2025 00:43

What a pathetic, disrespectful, immature twat.

WatchingTheDetective · 28/09/2025 09:12

Hellofrances · 26/09/2025 10:14

Thanks all, this is the first red flag and out of the blue. I need to think about what to do now.

Surely the answer is obvious?

TheLastOfTheMohicans · 28/09/2025 11:22

He's a twat, get rid

Tuesdayschild50 · 28/09/2025 17:17

Can't stand men like this ....😫

Tuesdayschild50 · 28/09/2025 17:19

Slipperhead · 27/09/2025 22:13

So agree.
To do this, hold you down while so vulnerable, makes him truly scum low life.

So not normal.
Married 32 years and I cannot fathom such behaviour.

Show quote history

I agree with this in that he is testing you I'd say bye bye .