Why why why are they like this!!!

[Hellofrances]

My boyfriend stayed overnight at my house for the first time on Wednesday.

We both had yesterday off so had a lazy morning watching tv in bed.

He broke wind really loud and grabbed my head and forced it under the covers, I couldn’t move from under them for about 10 seconds.

He thought it was hilarious, I told him I’m a 37 year old woman and don’t appreciate that.

I think it’s the fact we’d not long been intimate and he was being really jokey.

I told one of my friends who found it amusing and said it’s a sign he’s comfortable around me which is good, but I don’t agree!

Get rid now, it will get worse. He sounds revolting and your friend sounds like an idiot.

This isn't normal at all, I'm really sorry he did this (assuming this is a real post). One of those cases where 'you get what you settle for' might apply if you decide to continue with it, I'd be concerned about it escalating too.

Reminds me of my best friend's first serious BF who thought it was hilarious farting in a small room with the two of us stuck - gross character who later went on to occasionally beat her up and persuade her to borrow money for him in her name, eventually leading to her bankruptcy. I wish I'd told her what I thought of him early on too.

I wouldn't LTB over this as a one-off. Some couples do have a more jokey/matey sort of relationship, which is fine for them. But be clear that's never to happen again.

FWIW, have been with my OH for almost 11 years, and he's never done this. We are very comfortable around each other!

My husband do this to me early on in the relationship- massive red flag as I now know he’s a narcissist and abusive in all the ways there is

That’s feral. Maybe at 17 it’s funny but ewww massive ick. I’d be ending that one.

He physically held you down, using his muscular advantage.

You have to ask yourself, what kind of man uses his superior strength to do that? And what else might he do in future?

That's before you even consider his gross behaviour. He's utterly revolting.

It is absolutely a deal breaker, not because it was horrible and childish, although it was, or because it was disgusting, although it was, but because he used his greater strength to overpower OP and hold her in a situation she did not want to be in. I would never be with someone who would do that.

LTB

If anyone forced my head anywhere that’d be it.

This 💯

Even if it was intended as a joke it's so juvenile I would have instant ick.

The fact that he used force is concerning.

Save yourself some trouble and get rid.

What have I just read?

That’s not just something “they” are like or that you can laugh off.

That’s immediate end of relationship.

This. This was a violent act, where he used the advantage of his male strength to dominate you.

If, having had that explained to him, he was utterly contrite and deeply apologetic, I would perhaps consider continuing the relationship on the basis that anything even approaching a repeat of this behaviour would be the end.

If he minimised my feelings the relationship would end immediately.

Do it back to him next time he goes down on you...

What a vile thing to do. Do you really want that as a boyfriend? Massive red flag and god know what else he might do. I wouldn’t stay with him to find out. 🚩

The farting aspect proves he’s a juvenile immature prick but many posters are missing the most significant red flag that when a man physically restrains you against your will, even if it’s for seconds, that’s extremely scary and concerning.

He’d be dumped in a heartbeat. And I’d be telling him why on the off chance that he may reflect and change his ways and some other poor woman won’t be subject to that moronic and entitled behaviour in future.,

And OP ‘they’ are not like this - he is like this Never in my 59 years on the planet has a man behaved like this with me

I would personally never see him again. I'm not that desperate.

That’s something my 6 year old would have done to his little sister.
He grew out of it by about 9. How old is your boy?

Appalling.

Get rid.

“they” are not generally like this, past the age of about 13.
Your friend needs to raise her bar.

This ⬆️. He's using his strength against you, it's not funny.
That would be it for me.

I would not be impressed with that. That's gross and fairly aggressive. Red flag.

Same here. Never happened to me once.
Why is the bar so low for men?

This!!