Why why why are they like this!!!

[Hellofrances]

My boyfriend stayed overnight at my house for the first time on Wednesday.

We both had yesterday off so had a lazy morning watching tv in bed.

He broke wind really loud and grabbed my head and forced it under the covers, I couldn’t move from under them for about 10 seconds.

He thought it was hilarious, I told him I’m a 37 year old woman and don’t appreciate that.

I think it’s the fact we’d not long been intimate and he was being really jokey.

I told one of my friends who found it amusing and said it’s a sign he’s comfortable around me which is good, but I don’t agree!

That is so nasty he sounds revolting.
Dirtbag - bin him

Sounds like physical abuse to me. I'd be extremely upset.

Definitely not all like this. That’s vile.

I'd absolutely hate that. Not only how gross it is, but I'm also extremely claustrophobic and would have had a panic attack at being held under the covers out of my control. Obviously that doesn't apply to most people, but even reading your post made me feel uncomfortable.
I've been with DH for 28 years and while we've both let out farts occasionally, we never purposefully do it. Nobody wants to smell someone else's shit. It's not even remotely amusing.

For me personally, that would make me end it. I can’t lie, that’s disgusting to me.

That is absolutely vile @Hellofrances This would be a dealbreaker for me. In 35 years together, my DH has never done that, and never would. I feel somewhat queasy even thinking about it. Hugely disrespectful and quite vile behaviour. I would be dumping him.

Not sure why your thread is titled 'why are they like this' (I assume you mean 'men?') as no man I know does this, or would ever.

Run for the hills! 😬

Definitely bin that one off! Yuck!

Why wouldn’t you make him an ex boyfriend after that? He doesn’t respect you and he’s a revolting scumbag.

If he's doing stuff like that to you then who gives a shit if he's comfortable around you or not?
Women don't exist just to make men comfortable.

Put him in the bin, now.

We would be done.
Absolutely a red flag.

Yes, it's the physical force and you not being able to move for several seconds. I would have lost my shit there and then.

Nope nope nope I would be leaving.

If a man did that to me, it would be the last time he saw me naked or came anywhere near my bed.

Yeah, echoing all the sane voices above, this would be the end of the relationship for me. Sorry you had to be subjected to that OP, horrible shock especially when you were probably feeling at your most relaxed with him. No one should treat a grown adult like this!

He doesn't respect you and probably doesn't respect anyone.
This is school boy humour and unless your shacked up with a teenager its time to end this relationship asap.
No grown man treats a grown woman like that. Its disgusting, unloving and hes showing you he's in control in a very immature way.
He will say your no fun, and you've no sense of humour, that jes sorry but my advice is if your hoping its going to get better you'll be disappointed.
Find someone whose decent ,cares and wouldn't want to inflict any kinda discomfort or pain on you.
Your worth so much more than this fool.

@Hellofrances please listen to posters saying leave. This was physical force used against you- it’s a warning and if you let it go, he’ll understand that you’ll let more things go (because that’s how it is). This isn’t a nice man.

The level of disrespect with regards to forcing you to smell his shit, coupled with the act of physical dominance/aggression in holding you down, would leave me fearful of what this vile animal would do to you next.

That would be the end of it for me, I’m afraid.

This may well be the first red flag and hopefully you take notice of it OP.

Exactly what I thought. At best, too juvenile, at worst.....

I'd dump him.

Also, OP, to answer your question, they very much are not all like this.

There are good men out there. Unfortunately, also a lot of arseholes like this one.

First night in your place? He's trying to assert dominance over your territory. Repellent. 🤢

Honestly it sounds a hint of abusive behaviour. It reminds me of the grooms that think it’s acceptable to smash cake into their new wives faces! So disrespectful. I’d get rid of him, if he can do that then what else can he do.

Do you really wanna shag him again Op after having been forced to smell the insides of his intestines?? @Hellofrances Ick. You can do better.