Why are people so impatient and nasty?

[Puel]

Went to supermarket this morning - I always go early so it’s not busy. I was pulling a trolly out and was suddenly shoved from behind and told “watch where you’re going!”. I apologised but obviously didn’t realise someone was stood right behind me but this person was livid, was there really a need to be so angry and aggressive?!

So I’m stood in post office queue, temporarily distracted and didn’t realise the cashier was waiting for me until the person behind me literally barged past me and went in front. I expected the cashier to tell them I was next yet instead, she rolled her eyes and laughed with the pusher. And before anyone says I was daydreaming for hours etc, it was literally a few seconds of not paying attention.

So I’m back doing my shopping and I stopped and quickly checked my list on my phone - I then heard “excuse me!” And looked up to see an angry looking woman rolling her eyes. I moved out of the way and she snapped “I need to be in that fridge!” So I moved again. At this point I felt like abandoning my trolly and just walking out! What is it with people lately?? I’ve noticed an increase in snappy and inpatient behaviour recently, is it the fact that people in this country are just so generally unhappy these days??

Has anyone noticed a difference in this behaviour when they visit areas where there’s a higher proportion of non Brits?

I visit the Asian part of my city to buy certain ingredients as cheaper and better. The locals don’t move when asked, barge past you.

I'm in Denmark. Everyone cracks on and is allowed to take up space, but not at the top of an escalator. It took me ages to unlearn over consideration of what others might want to do. I realised how small I had made myself. I don't hurry to pack my shopping - I'm just as important as everyone else. It's been so liberating.

I can understand being distracted for a few seconds while in the queue, but I'm sorry OP but walking backwards without checking is my absolute pet peeve. It's so annoying when people back into me, please do watch where you're going when you're walking backwards.

Ooh the "stopping dead" one reminded me - people getting on the tram, and then stopping dead immediately after they are inside. Well fuck me I guess, let the doors fucking slice me in half before I'm walking home.

Im really not - see previous post. You don’t have to move more quickly, but there is nothing to say that you can’t be aware of people around you and pleasant to them. Notice them, acknowledge that you are holding them up.

I can’t control how little time I have. I wish I could. You are showing how unwilling you are to have empathy for those around you. Well done you

But how else do you get a trolley out from the rack without walking backwards?

Surely the only person behind you will be the one waiting their turn to get their trolley. It's obvious that you're going to have to reverse with it.

I have noticed that many people still hover too close to you when taking a trolley. When they could have got the same size trolley in the next lane.

Noticed one lane of trolleys are taken first. I take the first trolley from the other lane and nothing was wrong with it

@Mokel I just think there’s a difference between walking backwards generally and walking backwards because you need to
pull a trolley from its “nest”
I still don’t know how you’re supposed to get it out other than pretending you’re a horse in harness which would look decidedly odd.
everyone PULLS by walking backwards 🤷‍♀️

Of course the person behind needs to keep a reasonable distance and also needs to keep their eyes open 😬 but surely you also quickly glance behind your shoulder before you start pulling your trolley?

I am aware if people around me, I do talk to people. Where on earth have I said I don't?

People not paying attention, say in a queue, stoping dead walking, reversing out not looking, are irritating. You sound like a daydreamer, who doesn't concentrate on what they are doing.

Thank god the security guard in my supermarket knows me and asks if I need help. Thank god many customers know me and other to help because they know I carnt just move for them on a whim. Others customers who are strangers to me also ask if I need help reaching high up items, some even notice I'm struggling and push my trolley if they see I'm in pain. Thankgod I don't live in your world. If you talked to rudly or sharply the security guard my local supermarket would ask you to leave, they even employ the disabled. Your attitude wouldn't stick here.

Who's self important now?

I've never seen such entitlement. Go around calling people c*s but if they speak to you sharply, which everyone has said they only do if people are ignorant and selfish, you would have them removed by security!

It's honestly ridiculous. Posters keep saying it's not slow people that annoy them, it's ignorant people that get in everyone's way due to being selfish and not paying attention. You've said you don't do this so why are you making an issue where there isn't one!? No one has a problem with the disabled they have a problem with the ignorant!

Cuts both ways.

Grumpiness impacts on others too.

This. It’s annoying when people stop dead in front of you.

So I observed my soundings during today's supermarket shop. Lots of people in, all being friendly, waiting for others to choose items before choosing their own. Lots of browsing, no one minded just waited. Then in come 2 of the all important I'm in a hurry brigade. The first was going into the shop going through the security barrier, people with trolleys waiting their turn then woman in a hurry huffy and puffy and trying to barge her way in. Thankfully no one let her, we where all waiting not just her. Second an elderly lady choosing cheese, entitled woman trying to barge her way in, she was upset and while I was comforting her 2 teenage boys confronted entitled woman and gave her a piece of their mind. See given teenage boys get it

And breathe.
I understand it can be annoying. It seemed like every very elderly and retired person in the town would pop into the post office for a long and complicated thing at lunchtime when I had 30 mins to post a letter before rushing back to work. I used to joke about it. However, in reality, I know they are as entitled to be there as me. Unfortunately, it is sometimes necessary to make allowances, as one day it could be me in that situation.

It is also necessary to plan in buffer zones of time if you need to be somewhere else eg to pick up a child from nursery on time. It is unlikely that someone being a bit slow is going to delay you by half an hour, but roadworks etc could easily add ten minutes extra. That would be my issue, not anyone else's.

@GreenFairy93 as a wheelchair user, I can promise you it’s much much more likely that
1- it’s the abled around that will take no notice if the person in a wheelchair. Being in a wheelchair = bring invisible.
2- when I go in a shop, I’m like any other customer. I can’t be blocking the aisle just because I’m in a wheelchair. No more than someone with a trolley.
3- I regularly do go right on the middle of everyone because I often need to be perpendicular to the shelves to reach first stuff. That makes me in the way. And I’m afraid other people WIIL have to wait. Yes even if i take longer than an abled person etc…
4- please don’t believe that your 1 month in a wheelchair (where I assume you were pushed by someone or had someone with you to do said shopping) is the same than being in a wheelchair full time. I, fur one, quickly learnt that I had to stop ‘being nice’ and ‘letting people go pass’ etc… I’m not a burden or in the way more than anyone else doing their shopping. Even if abled around FEEL I’m taking too long (and therefore assume I’m daydreaming)

About 2 hours ago, I was driving to the speed limit on a road. A BMW X3 was flashing his headlights. Overtook me at a dangerous place. Then he jumped a red light. Then hit a car from my right turning right. Accident on the crossroads.

What he achieved was moderate damage to his £55k car, annoyed/upset the other car driver and increased car insurance for the next few years.