Why are people so impatient and nasty?

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Went to supermarket this morning - I always go early so it’s not busy. I was pulling a trolly out and was suddenly shoved from behind and told “watch where you’re going!”. I apologised but obviously didn’t realise someone was stood right behind me but this person was livid, was there really a need to be so angry and aggressive?!

So I’m stood in post office queue, temporarily distracted and didn’t realise the cashier was waiting for me until the person behind me literally barged past me and went in front. I expected the cashier to tell them I was next yet instead, she rolled her eyes and laughed with the pusher. And before anyone says I was daydreaming for hours etc, it was literally a few seconds of not paying attention.

So I’m back doing my shopping and I stopped and quickly checked my list on my phone - I then heard “excuse me!” And looked up to see an angry looking woman rolling her eyes. I moved out of the way and she snapped “I need to be in that fridge!” So I moved again. At this point I felt like abandoning my trolly and just walking out! What is it with people lately?? I’ve noticed an increase in snappy and inpatient behaviour recently, is it the fact that people in this country are just so generally unhappy these days??

Sometimes you can’t. They literally block aisles so that you can’t get past. If it was as simple as just being able to walk around them then we wouldn’t have half as many people complaining on here

Then just wait, we all have to share the space

As I have already given an example on my earlier posts, you can’t ‘just wait’ if a 2 year old runs off in a crowded place and some selfish ignorant twats cut in front of you while you’re chasing after a toddler and saunter along oblivious to everything while laughing and joking in their group.

I get that people are frustrated at times, but the nastiness isn't necessary. Who do they think they are? If they're not polite enough to be in society, they should stay at home or just be quiet.

You had a bad dose of vile human behaviour that day, OP

I walk slowly for a reason, my disability. I often get people moving towards me from behind and expect me to speed up when I'm already pushing a trolley. I carnt just speed up. Then people who ask me to move while I'm looking at items, I have to read labels because I can't eat certain ingredients with medications. I'm not just going to move out the way while I'm reading. Just wait, if you are in a hurry that's really of no concern to me, allow more time next time. Your shopping is not more important than mine. Just wait, I have to do that all the time for other customers, I completely understand that and I just wait. It's not hard.

Queues will be a thing of the past in the UK soon I reckon with the behaviour I see. Queues and manners.
I was at a uni open day yesterday and had grown men barge past me on 3 separate occasions over the day, literally shoulder barging me out the way going through doorways. The first one just about floored me and another woman.
Yes there are good people in this world but the pool seems to be shrinking by the minute.
You can even feel the rage of some posters here being made to wait patiently for a minute because their time is oh so precious. Patience is a virtue very few people seem to possess these days.
I'm looking forward to being one of those old people who hold people up trying to work the card machine. I'm going to be a rage inducing granny secretly enjoying watching people turn purple whilst I try to use my bus pass to pay for my shopping and it will serve you all right for being so bloody self important 😂

Because people are arseholes at times OP

Using a mobility aid makes no difference. It absolutely doesn't stop people from walking into me because they've got their nose in their phone.

I'm still treated like an inconvenience even with an aid for daring to ask for help at times

You can't walk past ignorant people with no special awareness who block the walkways. That's what we're all complaining about!!

If I can just walk past you I will and it's not an issue! I don't care how slow you walk if I can get past you, why are you making an issue where there isn't one?

Part of sharing the space is being self aware enough not to block the walkways. If no one can get past you and you're going 1 mile an hour, you are causing a problem for everyone else and being anti social because you're not sharing space, you're hogging it.

If you're walking 1 mile an hour while leaving space to pass, that is sharing the space responsibly and no one gives a shit that you're walking so slow.

Given how often this is happening to you id say you are dawdling daydreaming or just generally being slow i encounter people like this when out shopping and it is irritating . People have places to be and may of popped out during a break they don't have all day to wait around while you aren't paying attention

Yes I agre

also when driving when people come through gaps really quickly even though they should give way and don’t even acknowledge you waiting.

I try to be as polite and patient as possible as I don’t want to be like them

The OP gave the example of a post office queue. If the person in front hasn't realised it's their turn just say excuse me it's your turn. There's no need to get all huffy about it or barge past to go first. Use your words and be friendly. It's not their fault you are on a break

Do you think this is where we are now?

I had this twice today on the same road, one straight after the other who were coming up to a line of parked cars on their side of the road. I had right of way but one barged their way through, then as I was driving through an already narrow space, another came rushing through as fast as they could and nearly hit my car. Both in large SUVs and I find it mostly happens with SUV drivers who think it’s ok to bully people with smaller cars off the road with their pure arrogance.

I completely agree - people are so rude and awful nowadays. I get very anxious when out and make sure I stay out of people's way as much as possible and I've still had rude comments made to me. One example was in a busy lift, I needed to get out on the floor the lift stopped at and said something like 'excuse me, can I just squeeze past. This is my floor' and some young woman loudly went 'God some people are so impatient'. No one else was getting off the lift aside from me, if I hadn't said anything the lift doors would have shut and the lift would have gone up? Another recent example was in Primark. It was a busy Saturday with a constant slow flow of people walking through and looking at clothes as they walk past. I'm walking through and looking at some clothes and another young woman loudly goes 'God some people act like they've got all day. They may have but I don't' and brushed past me. I literally was walking the same pace as the people in front. It's a busy Saturday fgs.

I can think of lots of other examples where I've seen people being rude to others. I think the general public is awful, especially since COVID.

Exactly.
And patience is in short supply.
And a lot of people have a persecution complex.
I’m not saying I don’t feel impatient or annoyed by things I perceive to be holding me up. But generally, people aren’t don’t that to you on purpose.
‘I need this, I want that…’. Guess what? You are not the only person on the planet. If someone is holding you up or dawdling, be a grownup, control your temper and politely say ‘excuse me’ or whatever it is you need them to do.
Manners still cost nothing.

Yes you are right about SUVs that aren’t well driven and big vans sometimes with people on mobile phones and oblivious

Get your shopping delivered if other people annoy you so much

I just don't get all this rage, slow people, or blockers etc, just don't annoy me. Let them be

A lot of these ‘pressures’ of modern life that make you all such time poor, snappy, intolerant people are self inflicted martyrdom.

But you could say excuse me politely and get past. In the OPs examples, yes perhaps she was being unaware, but the people behind her didn't have to be rude and angry. There are so many ways that small social interactions can be handled calmly and politely so everyone gets what they need without someone feeling like they've been the subject of a hostile attack.

Why should I pay extra in delivery fees and ridiculous substitutions just because of pig ignorant people. I’ll do my shopping how I like thank you. I’m not taking advice from people like you.

Rotten experiences, particularly the post office. There’s the most godawful dragon that works in the one in my town, studiously ignores anyone waiting and snarls at anyone who dares ask her a question or if she might be serving.

A PP got it bang on, some types of people are naturally drawn to be rude to others when they detect vulnerability