Why are people so impatient and nasty?

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Went to supermarket this morning - I always go early so it’s not busy. I was pulling a trolly out and was suddenly shoved from behind and told “watch where you’re going!”. I apologised but obviously didn’t realise someone was stood right behind me but this person was livid, was there really a need to be so angry and aggressive?!

So I’m stood in post office queue, temporarily distracted and didn’t realise the cashier was waiting for me until the person behind me literally barged past me and went in front. I expected the cashier to tell them I was next yet instead, she rolled her eyes and laughed with the pusher. And before anyone says I was daydreaming for hours etc, it was literally a few seconds of not paying attention.

So I’m back doing my shopping and I stopped and quickly checked my list on my phone - I then heard “excuse me!” And looked up to see an angry looking woman rolling her eyes. I moved out of the way and she snapped “I need to be in that fridge!” So I moved again. At this point I felt like abandoning my trolly and just walking out! What is it with people lately?? I’ve noticed an increase in snappy and inpatient behaviour recently, is it the fact that people in this country are just so generally unhappy these days??

There’s nothing I hate more than people who step back or start walking backwards (god knows why) in shops and supermarkets and then tread on me, usually big massive 6ft tall heavy men with big feet who do it too! It gives me the rage.

I know, I'm with you, I try to avoid going to the supermarket with him as I spend the whole time (I may exaggerate slightly!), checking he's not bumping into people 🤷‍♀️. I've tried, I really have....

Yes it’s frustrating. I once had some big 6ft tall bloke just take a couple of steps backwards while I was walking behind him in a bar. Which made me spill my drink all over myself and another woman who was near me. The man then continued to chat to his friends completely oblivious to the fact he’d even knocked me or spilled my drink all over! 😡

Men have to be the worst things at supermarket checkouts - always seem to be surprised that they have to get their phone or wallet out to pay for things and don't get me started on packing things 😂

Can't remember the exact expression, but it's something like "if everyone else seems to be the problem, maybe you're the problem"

Maybe you got unlucky, but the fact three people got annoyed with you for being inattentive says otherwise

It is because they are the most important people in their lives, and you (and other people) are merely an inconvenience! (Lighthearted, obviously).

Some people have no manners, and others have no time for dawdlers when they have a million other things to do that day. The world is a very crowded place, but we all still need to get along.

firstly, don’t start walking backwards without checking over your shoulder. Shouldn’t really need saying but apparently it does.

secondly, if someone actually walked around you in the post office queue, that suggests you were dolly daydreaming for more than just a second.

waken up, OP.

Unfortunately, dawdling is a luxury not everyone can afford.

It sounds like you are inattentive and unobservant to what’s going on around you. People should be more polite but I think you should try and be more aware. It seems to be a pattern and I can see why it would annoy others to be honest.

But your time keeping and commitment's aren't anyone else's problem??

Are you sure they haven't said excuse me 3 times first you sound like your on a different planet to the rest of us

Why are so many posters continuing to berate an OP who only posted once? She isn’t going to suddenly pop up to defend herself.

As someone who believes the appropriate punishment for getting in my way by dithering in a busy supermarket is kneecapping, YABU.

If you’ve got all day to faff about, lucky you. Feel free to waste as much of your own time as you want. But don’t waste mine, because I don’t tolerate that.

So I ask again (edited to clarify I’m asking - the poster who says it’s fine to dawdle) why can’t I do things at my pace simply because it happens to be faster than your pace and you’re in my way? Your approach doesn’t work which is why we need to both be aware and tolerant of those around us. Those who are polite by being more aware tend to experience more tolerance than those who don’t. Funny that.

I seem to be one of these people that have a sign above them saying 'pick on me" I don't go to supermarkets anymore and get all my shopping delivered. I suppose I'm too sensitive but I have had too many of these incidents exactly like the op has. It's not nice.

Because that’s how fucking irritating this type of behaviour is. And many posters saying it’s ok - we’re berating them too.

So 3x in one day and you think other people are the problem? You sound irritating and I don’t blame other people for showing their frustration. Everyone has somewhere to be, not waiting for you to wake up to your surroundings

How rude

If your time is so precious, get your shopping delivered, and spare us all that anger

So sad everyone is in such a rush and can't spare a few seconds to be patient. When I am i may feel impatient but always polite and considerate of others.

Driving is the same, far too many rude and impatient people who put their own reckless speeding before danger of others.

You just don't know what someone could be going through, they could just have suffered a bereavement, or some tragic event, or received a diagnosis of cancer or something. What if it was an elderly or disabled person? Surely then people wouldn't be as impatient then. The replies on here have shocked me, and made me realise that people are nastier than I imagined. I get that there are people who don't have the time, but they seem far too stressed and impatient. I wouldn't want to be like that myself. I'm with the op and not with anyone who left such horrible comments.i suppose I will get it in the neck now.

You're right. We don't know what other people are going through. The person in a rush may be en route to a chemotherapy session or dashing to get some groceries in while someone watches their sick child.

We all need to be mindful of how we treat other people, whether you are a dawdler or in a rush.

Yes it works both ways. Never thought about the person in a rush could be being impatient for the very reasons you put. I totally agree with you about being mindful of other people, whether a dawdler or in a rush. Well said there.

They’re probably the product of ‘gentle parenting’ aka no parenting. Been brought up to believe they’re the centre of the world. Be bold, OP and call them out on it.

I have mobility problems but can walk. I carnt just jump out your way just because you are in a rush😡 it's not just about you. I will continue doing my own shopping as long as I can to keep my independence. People like you need to show more patience.