No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

I don’t know if you’re unreasonable or not but it’s a great thread title. although first read it as 3 nans…my inner Northerner slipping out

Haha, thank you

I do love a naan! But I can’t eat 3 —and make someone else pay for them—

Other way round with the 80s night: I'd definitely go so you can get your moment back if she's still avoiding you. And steer the group away from any situation where one person pays again.

Don't use that last sentence as a way to diminish your annoyance or try and make a joke. She's a taker.

How much does she owe you? It's frustrating that she didn't pay over the weekend, but if she's on holiday now I doubt she will do anything until she is back, so I don't think further reminders will work while she is away. But you know not to pay for her in future, so that's a lesson learned. And if she hasn't paid you by the time of the 80s night then you'd be well within your rights to bring it up - you'd have your other friends are witnesses, and how is she going to avoid paying you there and then? It's not like the old days when you had to hunt out a cashpoint, takes seconds via a mobile phone, if she has her phone with her, then she pays up on the spot.

She ate 3 naans to herself?

Just keep asking her for the money

You dont need to avoid her

She took one home, but she did have 2

Is there a group chat? Call her out in that. Oi NaanGirl. Don't forget to send me the money you owe me! I don't want it going on holiday souvenirs!

I camt be only one who read the title as Nans. And thought how on earth has she 3 grandma's and why does she need to pay them

This seems familiar?

Just keep asking for the money and yes go to the 80s night

if she hasn’t paid ask her for the money then, and don’t offer to pay for her again. Next time the three sharing can pay and she can pay for her own

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I’d also go down the group chat avenue.

Why should you miss out on a night out though? She needs to pay you what she iwrs

I wouldnt miss an event - just keep messaging her. It is possible it slipped her mind with the stress of getting ready to go away. But its pretty crappy of her. I would not lighten up on her.

You three see it that there's a new member in your group; but she sees it that she's just found herself (up to) three new doormats.

It's an especially strange liberty to take with a brand new friend group, when most people would be sure to be on their best behaviour.

This isn't a one-off oversight; it's who she is and what she does. Be careful.

Is there anyway that she thought the friend that invited her along would be paying for her?

Personally, I hate this sort of thing and would ask people to bring cash along in future- rather than having to provide bank details and keep checking who has and hasn't paid.

Maybe she is on holidays, but surely she has internet and bank access abroad too? I call CF!

You should go to the 80's night. Why shouldn't you?

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Go to the 80’s night. Message her before saying looks like she’s having issues with her online banking, so she can just bring cash for you on the night

Imagine your poop after eating 3 naans…

So it’s only been 3 days?

She hasn't even just scored a free meal out of you - she's deliberately got you to pay for two meals for her! Arguably three meals, actually, as she didn't want to share her food, but was very happy to claim the rest of theirs.

Don't misunderstand me: we in our household are massive fans of deliberately over-ordering on the takeaway so that there's plenty left for a bonus meal the following evening; but we certainly don't expect anybody else to pay for it!

How much money are we talking? Ask her again in the group with the exact amount and your bank details.
If she still doesn’t pay I wouldn’t chase again. I’d write the £25 or whatever off and learn from the mistake that she’s cheeky f. No need to miss out on your night out, she’s the one who should be awkward about it - not you! But also no point getting too pissed off.

It's not an invoice from a supplier for goods or services rendered by way of a business agreement, though; it's money that has already been paid by an individual on her behalf.