No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

Why would you not go if she goes? It’s the perfect opportunity to ask her to send it you while shes there? Odd logic

I hate when people just ‘forget’ to transfer the money - they aren’t forgetting - they are hoping you just give up or don’t ask.

Id bring it up on the 80s night and just tell her you need it transferring

I had this with a very close friend of mine - nice restaurant, expensive, paid the bill on my card and she never transferred her half. I didn’t chase it because I do earn a lot more than her, but it’s still annoying - she chose the restaurant too so she knew how expensive it was

Brilliant, nearly spat my coffee out 😂

Definitely ask her again for the money on the group chat, everyone else has paid up so why shouldn’t she? It’s not rocket science to access online banking and transfer payment from one to another FFS…….they could all have done it on the night.
This sort of avoidance really pisses me off, rather like those who are selective in offering a lift to others but will happily take up a seat in anyone else’s car!
In future, refuse to bankroll anyone by paying upfront for all the food so you won’t get caught out like this again.
If the new person needed to wait until payday to be able to afford the food she shouldn’t have been ordering anything, you wouldn’t go to the chippy, order fish & chips and then say “I’ll pay you at the weekend when I get my wages” would you?

Doh, I was going through the thread so I could post this but as soon as I saw there was a link, I knew. 🙁

Just chase her again. She might have genuinely forgotten with going on holiday but she can transfer from wherever she is so just ask her. Why would you miss a night out with your friends over it. Alternatively it does sound like she’s overpaying for what she had so maybe she’s pissed off about it now and felt obliged to go along with a 4 way split? Chase her and if she doesn’t pay again ask her what’s going on.

Go to the 80s night! Perfect chance to get your money back
”Stacey didn’t pay me for hers last time so it’s her shout tonight, she will cover mine.”

Can you send a payment link from your bank? I know you can do it with some online banks.

Had a similar situation. Friends birthday. All had numerous drinks at a bar. Group left early as taxi turned up pronto and unexpected . I and another friend were left with the bill as we didn't get in taxi. Came to £150 for 6 of us so we paid £75 each (I only had 2 wines personally). Sent a WhatsApp the next day asking for the rest to contribute. They were mortified that they forgot to pay the bill but one friend needed a few reminders and took 10 days to pay. I think some people genuinely do intend on paying but just aren't very organised. Good luck OP. Send another reminder!

Obviously, she had curry & rice too

I suspect she's a bit peed off at having a 4 way split when she only ordered naan breads.

You think it’s ok to leave people waiting days to repay them the money you owe them?

@TheAquaCrab I’d be making sure that all the other group members know what a massive cheeky fucker she is and I’d be hassling her daily until she repays you. Then refuse to include her in any future outings.

How much were you asking her to pay, when her costs were £28?

But the post itself says no payment for 3 naans. I'm assuming like you that she did but the OP isn't very clear and why would they say no payment for 3 naans and not no payment for takeaway meal?

I've tried rereading it but it still isn't overly clear

You do understand that some people might actually really need that money.
That every pound they earn is accounted for and required for bills or food. And if that person doesn’t pay it back then they might be really struggling.

Definitely call her out in the group chat:

”Thanks @ Mary and @ Jane for pinging the money across for Friday 🍛! @ 3Naans - you still owe me £25 - here are my bank details again. Ta’”

Three naans Pam forever.

I voted YBU to not go to an event just bc she might be there. Don’t miss out on things just bc of her presence! She’s more likely to feel awkward about you going if she hasn’t coughed up the dough (lol) by then.

I also agree with previous posters who said to put a message in the group chat. I’d add your bank details and put “here you go, Naan Girl. Only waiting on your share now”.

Also don’t pay for anything of hers in the future.

You’re a cheeky fucker if you think it’s ok to leave a friend waiting days to be repaid THEIR MONEY. It’s irrelevant how much it is.

They might get away with that sort of behaviour in their twenties but carry on like that and people will start to mention it to their friends and then the CF will gain a bad reputation, others will slowly shun them and she’ll eventually find herself friendless and a social pariah.

How much did each of you pay? Just keep badgering her till she sends it. Or, if you have a group chat, group shame her 😂

Oh wow!
I’d just be as shameless as she is being.
Message her with, ‘You’re starting to embarrass yourself now, as this is the third time I’ve had to remind you - not fair that you’ve turned me into a nag. Please pay what you owe me!’

Agree with other posters . . . you need to ask for the money and be assertive:
Hi 3Naans
As you know I paid for the meals last Friday and everyone has paid me back. I am still waiting for your payment. I can't afford to pay for your meal as well as my own. I am relying on that money to pay for other things
Many Thanks

In future - ask people to make their choices in advance and to send payment and make it clear you cannot order until all payments received.

28 pounds just for three naans? That's a lot!

I'd ask her again when she gets back from holiday.

Bloody hell, how much did the naans cost? £28 it’s not an absolute fortune is it? Agree she needs to pay what she owes but seriously all this fuss over £28 ???

Lesson learnt, do not enter into this agreement with her again. If you go on your 80s do, then she pays for herself and you remind her why.

Greedy ganet. Stuff’s her face with a meal and two naans and takes a third home with her for a midnight snack,

Can’t believe you wouldn’t go to a night out because a friend of a friend owes you twenty eight quid. Personally I would pay straight away, but it’s only been 3/4 days. Just don’t worry about. If she pays you back great. If she doesn’t, give her a wide birth and warn your friends about picking up the bill when she’s around.