No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

Do you ever bore yourself when you bring up Gaza for no reason?

Give it a bit longer then chase up on the group chat. Keep on until she pays.

It's a fair point

Has she paid?

WhatsApp group: ‘thanks everyone who’s paid back , @ Naangrabber, I think it’s only you left now, here’s my deets…, thank you ‘

You mean 'here’s my deets AGAIN'

No, an existing one for chat about the night out, including money owed from it.

Also, why are people fixating on/carrying on as if it's all about just the bread? She had a meal, like everyone else, and ordered a lot, but didn't share any and asked to take the left-overs home.

https://youtube.com/shorts/mMjMK3Z2qR4?si=jRuGQzyaeHlQ9Ir4

"Four naans Jeremy? That's insane."

I think I would just put it down to experience if you can afford it and not pay again for her. Happened me recently in work, I paid for everything and one girl never paid me. I just forgot about it but won’t be paying for her food again. Prob not the best way to handle it but I just let it go

Cheeky beeyotch. I’ve known so many guys n gals like this over the years, definitely grooms behaviour.
I don’t hold no truck with it anymore

*grooming, not grooms… see how far they can go with it and how much they can take, often acting surprised when you try and get your share back

Ah OK. Can't people just be friends and bung in a few quid?

Or the CF could 'be a friend' and PAY her bloody way?!!!

I always pay people back straight away if I owe them money. You never know if they need it or not, plus she is not a personal loan service.

Well, I misread it nan ,and nan is slang for Fanny.So I’m thinking is she on OnlyFan. Expecting payment for her 3 nan

Tell her if she’s not been able to pay before the 80s night, she can pay for you and you can sort any balance due either way at the end of that night!

I wouldn't want to write off £28. I earn decent enough but after all my costs are accounted for I have £100pm personal spending money. Why the should op let that go!?

Yes, the "friend" could be a proper friend and pay the £28 that is more than "bunging in a few quid"

Just ask for it again till you get it! But don’t send a daily message. Something random like oh my Amex is due tomorrow, do you mind sending the money so I can pay it off? No need to overcomplicate life!

lol, that’s a leap - what about my comment makes me sound like a jobsworth? 😂 I just find it laughable that people are so wound up about a couple of naan breads and a can of coke…

honestly, raise it again when she’s back from holiday, and then ask her in person at the 80s thing. Job done. If she still doesn’t pay back, then move on and don’t involve yourself with her.

Another key lesson is not to pay on behalf of people you do not know.

Well, it really puts things into perspective doesn’t it? I.e. there are worse things in life.

Also if OP was that skint, why is she going out for takeaways and 80s nights?

I am quite literally just another person in this world offering another perspective, but people on this thread really want to pile on me. It’s crazy. All for having a different opinion.

Me too.

Rolling my eyes at the pps who think £28 is pocket change everyone can afford to lose. Lucky you if that’s your situation, but how awful to just assume everyone is so fortunate.

Because to make a comparison like that, I can just tell you're difficult!

Are you the kind of person who tells someone they shouldn't be depressed as they have a roof over their head and should be thankful they aren't starving and dying?

Let people moan if they wish. What is a forum for? And I'd be pissed off is someone didn't pay me back nearly £30, I'm not made of money and I'm guessing op isn't either.

Well, it was tasteless to raise the Gaza tragedy to score a cheap point in a discussion about A restaurant bill. I winced.

No, I’m not actually. But as always, feel free to throw out all these assumptions about me.

Aye - it’s a forum like you said, not an echo chamber, so let people share their views, even if they don’t match your own. No need to get personal and arsey.