No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

Made me think of this

Mmm I fancy a peshwari naan now

Odd that she agreed to split it 4 ways, maybe she's a wet lettuce who didn't want to speak up? 3 naans + leftovers of coke and butter chicken is what, £15ish?

Edit: sorry, £28?!? How fancy were her naans?! Did you order from Dishoom where the naan rolls are about £12 each?

Make a WhatsApp group between the four of you and say, "Hi all, since Cheeky Fucker doesn't want to pay for her share of the takeaway, would Cheeky Fucker's Friend and Unfortunate Bystander mind transferring me an extra £9 each so I don't have to cover her costs on my own?"

I got the impression she ordered 3 naans, but also a curry to herself. And then took the extra butter chicken. So £28 is probably about right

Exactly!

3 naan bread to one person?? We go out as a group of 8 and order 2 to share 😂

I would probably just let it go for now and revel in the group jokes.

Next time you see her, nudge for the money.

Naan’s are bloody expensive nowadays!

🤣🤣 im cackling. 3 naans??? I wouldnt bother asking for the money anymore and take it as a lesson to not pay for any of her bits again, when you turn up to the event it will be even more embarrassing for her when she see's you

3 naans. How is it even possible for 1 person to eat all that?

She's probably still in a carb coma

I feel bad not returning someone money after a few hours! It's CF ish to know you owe someone money and ignore them after a few days. Especially in this economy. But then again I am an over thinker and worry about people's opinions so tend to avoid owing people money or pay them back ASAP without them having to remind me.

This. Only women do this, I’m guilty of it, ‘must be self deprecating in case people think I’m unreasonable when actually I’ve had money basically stolen from me.’

No need at all for you to skip the 80s night to avoid her - if she hasn't paid up by then you can ask her, in front of the group, to pay your share of the meal/drinks to cover the money she still owes you.

🤣

CF Alert.

Even if she is on holiday. She will still have her phone and can transfer it.
It's a crap excuse. If she owes you £28.. that means you probably paid nearly £60 for the pleasure of her company.

Keep texting and preface texts with "I'm so embarrassed to keep asking you but could you take the time to pay the £28 you owe me."

She's relying on your embarrassment in asking so always bring that up! and also relying on you thinking I have to wait until she's back from holiday and then feeling like its not worth the trouble to chase. It really sounds like she's done this before and got away with it. Its not the money. Its the principle.

As an American, I am always surprised by these threads. It is absolutely standard, expected, no hestitation, no feelings hurt, to just say "separate checks, please" at the very start. Unless one is paying for the other's meal, and the person who wants to pay is the one to say, "one check, please. I'll take it". That's it, and no surprises, no issues.

This woman ate two naan breads?

She deserves a medal just for that surely

I think it was a takeaway, so to avoid 3 separate delivery charges and waste time they thought they'd just get OP/one person to pay and then just transfer their share after.

The joint WhatsApp group isn't a bad idea

Especially if you take the piss out of her about it

You do the same as her don't you. I used to work with someone like this. Quick to borrow slow to pay back " Omg I was going to pay you, Don't go on about it. ".
OmG chill out, it's only money".
No fuck off.

Lovely assumption, but no - no I don’t.
I remember going out with friends for a birthday hike and my phone battery died so I had no way of paying (I rely on my phone to pay) a friend covered my lunch but as soon as I got home they text me asking for the money. It gave me the ick, esp considering it was my birthday. I had no intention of not paying but it was how immediate it was.

It’s just not how I treat my friends. In fact, I’ve covered things for my friends before and I would just say get it back for me in another way, like maybe get the coffee or the meal next time.

If a week has passed and she hasn’t paid back, I would be reminding them and would feel the way OP is, but not after 3 days…

What would be the point of you not going on the next night out? Go, and remind her in front of the others that she still owes you money. She probably has just really forgotten.

Complete CF. If she’s ever in a group order with you again, opt out of paying and say you just can’t afford to not be paid back for CF’s part of the bill.

go to 80’s night. Don’t miss something fun because of this rude person! See if you can get in a group order of something with her, then don’t pay her back. 😈

Maybe you can get her to pay for the entire order then stiff her when it’s time to reimburse!

Edit…I see I’m not the only one thinking this!