No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

Four naan?!!!

I mean, some people would rely on being paid the money back, especially at the end of the month before payday. It's not OK not to pay what she owes. Cheeky fucker.

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

So if her figure wasn't so amazing you wouldn't mind so much 🤔

I would go to the night out specifically to ask for the money and watch her transfer it.

I would be absolutely ruthless and would be texting her every single day.
I would also copy her friend who brought her.
She sounds like a CF and I wouldn't want to be around her again.
I certainly wouldn't be paying for people I don't know again.
Her friend should have paid for the meal.
CF's depend on getting away with stuff like this as they have no shame.
Let her see you are not to be messed about with.

I would honestly probably do this. But I'm over people who don't pay what they owe.

saw mosa what she did there!

FOUR naans, Jeremy?!?

You wait until the next evening? You don't know what you're missing. Nothing beats bright red, cold curry and rubbery naan for breakfast.

You’re rude to call me that tbh simply because I disagree with you, like get over yourself. There’s no need to get nasty and call me names.

It is £28. If you’re that hard up, then don’t buy order a takeaway for everyone in the first place.

I really don’t think this is a big deal in the grand scheme of life, but each to their own.

Of course you still go to the 80s night! And if she’s there and hasn’t paid you say cheerfully you can just pay me now.

@GimmieABreakOr3 Nothing to do with being hard up, just objecting to other people spending her money for them, for the CFs benefit.

I bet you think people should 'just split it' when you go out for a meal even when you had starter, steak, sides, dessert, coffee, wine and cocktails and your dining companion had pizza and a beer so your bill should be 3 or 4 times what theirs cost?

Don't bother messaging her again whilst she's away. Just ask her at the 80s night and she won't be ale to avoid paying.
Or if on a whatsapp group with the others, message her next week saying "did my curry money go on holiday souvinirs?" and she wil have to send it then!

Ooh, 😮 that’s a bummer.

How about 2x £48 electricity bill contributions from a house share in the 1980s. That was a week’s wages for me. Fuckers.

@Flakey99 is right. It isn’t the money, it’s the principal.
Its always people who never pay what they owe who have this attitude!

I hate this behaviour- if I owe someone money its in their account within moments I couldnt wait days!

@AutumnyCrow How were you (as a group) using that much electricity in the 80s?!

Don't forget that these are new friends whose group she has joined; it's not like they've known each other for 10 years and are 'cool' with the fact that "Sarah is always a bit hopeless when it comes to transferring her share to you, but she always remembers eventually".

I'm also guessing that the new person doesn't yet have an amazing idea of how well off the others are - and how able they are to temporarily subsidise her.

We're long past the days when you had to write a cheque to somebody and send it to them in the post; you literally take your phone out of your bag or pocket, tap a few buttons and it's paid in two minutes.

One person paid upfront as it's easier for the restaurant/takeaway to just receive the payment and then the diners sort it out themselves afterwards - a bit like when you put your paid-for shopping back in the trolley in Aldi to free up the checkout and then take a little while to pack your bags yourself after that. It was never meant to be a loan.

Post in a group chat if you have one or just keep asking her. These people rely on others being too embarrassed to keep asking so just keep on.

This, you could have just have everybody pay for themselves individually at the time.

I’m confused by this being a northern issue, southerners have nans! Only two though for the most part.

I think you’re being a bit hasty in planning to cancel future nights out, it’s only been a couple of days. Maybe she’s still digesting all that bread and can’t think straight.

I hate users like that. My guess is that she thinks you'll forget. Whatever the amount she owes you is irrelevant - it's the principle.

Keep messaging, don't let her off the hook.

Do you tell yourself that every time somebody doesn't fulfil their agreed obligations to you?

Payday at work comes and goes with no money reaching your account, and your boss tells you it might be a week or two late - or they'll just pay you double at next payday; but it's no big deal and nothing to fret about, as at least none of you are starving in Gaza?

What's happening in Gaza is truly horrific; but it doesn't mean that 'Stacey' can juxtapose and exploit the suffering of the Gazans to justify doing whatever bad stuff she likes to other people - on the grounds that it is nowhere near as bad as what is befalling desperate people in a war zone.

You would fall over with someone over a few pounds ? I find it weird to be honest .
just let her pay next time and tell her to pay your part ?

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance

I never do things like that because there's always one cheeky fucker who won't pay. If you are going to do that you should insist on everyone transferring the money immediately or giving you the cash.

Call her out on the group chat now.

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn't not go because of her. Why miss out because a newcomer to the group is a cheeky fucker?
I'd mention it on the group chat "Really looking forward to the 80s night but let's all pay separately because I'm still out of pocket from the takeaway last week and I can't afford for that to happen again".

It's not a few pounds. It's 28 quid.
That's a hell of a lot of money.