No payment for her 3 naans

[TheAquaCrab]

We all got a curry, to cut a long story short(er).

4 friends in total, including me. Person who hasn’t paid is new to group. All happened last week.

I paid for the takeaway and said it’s fine, just everyone transfer me the money tomorrow when they get a chance.

We were going to share but this particular friend wanted her own. All fine. We still agreed to all go 4 ways, despite her not getting anything to share out, and ordering 3 naans!

Today is Monday and the meal took place last Friday. Still no payment. I reminded her on Saturday and she said she was so sorry, send bank details and she’d send it. So I did.

Still nothing. I messaged again this evening and she left me on read. Messaged friend whose friend she originally was… who said she’s now on holiday! I don’t even remember her mentioning that

We are suppose to be going for an 80s night next month. AIBU not to go if she goes? Told other friend and she said she probably just keeps forgetting

I wouldn’t mind but she asked to take the left over coke bottle and the last of the butter chicken. We all said yes because we were stuffed

Cheeky woman has an amazing figure to boot, so maybe I’m just jealous!

She is a total CF but to be honest I couldn’t be getting that worked up about it 3 days later, especially over a weekend. Yes, I would have paid already if it was me. But if I was the one owed money I’d give it probably a week or so.

And no reason to miss out on a night out because of this, especially when she is the one who is new to the group. Just let everyone else know.

Who the hell eats three naans to themselves on top of curry and rice? The ones we get here are huge and the curry portions alone could feed 2 people.

I don’t know how big those naans or the curry portions are where you are but if they are the same all over the country then she sounds like a greedy cow 😂 (I know, not the point of your thread).

Try getting the money back after she gets back from her holiday but if no luck after so long I’d chalk it up to experience and don’t bother with her again. Cheeky fucker.

Which friend introduced her to the group
I'd be asking that friend for the money she owes

I wondered that but I don't bother commenting about a takeaway last more than one meal on here anymore because of the tedious 'competitive undereating' comments.

But I agree with you that, if I ordered a main, rice and one naan, it would be plenty for two meals for me and by no means teeny tiny ones at that.

Yeah, I’m expecting some predictable remarks asking me if I eat massive salads 😜. Curry takeaways are usually very generously portioned and definitely feed more than one person with rice added, and the naans are huge.

I can never finish one after I’ve eaten the rest of the meal, never mind three 🤣. Just the thought of eating that much food is making me feel bloated.

She’s waiting until pay day at the end of the month when she will begrudgingly pay you. Or more likely hope you’ve let it drop.

she knows what she’s doing.

We see you Stacey.

Go to the 80s night and tell her she can pay your share to the value of what she owes you. I’d get this message to her in advance.

Don't skip the night out.

Post in the group chat to remind her. The comment about not wanting it to go on holiday souvenirs is perfect.

No reason why she can't send the money on holiday unless she is on a remote island with no phone reception Or a holiday cottage in Norfolk which in my experience also wouldn't have reception.

YANBU, I’d still go out next time but would absolutely not be paying. Next time ask her to pay for yours to cover the takeaway if she still hasn’t paid you back.

but did Stacey only order a chicken korma and then want to share someone’s bhuna cos that is just not on…

Hi Sarah cheapskate just checking that you sent the money to the right account as it hasn't landed in my bank yet (noticed this as I'm skint!) please can you double check you have the correct details. My account number is ........

Make sure it's in the group chat ...

So you're a CF. Got it

You should definitely go on the night out, if only to ask her in person for the cash.

And ask mutual friend not to bring her in future…

I voted YABU because I cannot for the life of me understand why you would not go to the 80s night because someone who owes you money will be there. Perfect opportunity to get your money back.

You've got her measure straightaway and good for posting. Take her at first sight. Don't offer to pay again and ask her friend if she can reimburse you first. Also, leave this new friend behind. If she is part of the group, just be superficial, help her in no way. She has shown her true colours. You may need to lose the money on the 3 naans. It won't break the bank but it is the principle. Good if you get it back and keeps forgetting is no excuse. She did not forget to go on holiday. These ditsy people need chasing. Good luck.

I’m impressed with you for already asking twice - I’d just be silently seething because I’m a bit pathetic when owed money.

I’m agog at her, because I’d be mortified to need one reminder, never mind ignoring two.

What a faff, just don't offer to pay for the group again, I really don't see how it helps for then everyone to transfer money to you and then you get these issues with some people dragging their heals or not prioratising paying. I don't do on line banking and it gets messy and I'm probably likely to be the late payer. As the new person perhaps she felt awkward saying she'd sort her own out . Restaurants are really good at letting each person pay on their card or by cash, just do that in the future. If otherwise she is good company don't read too much into it and go to the next event. Don't pay for the group again though.

Depends on the size of the naans. If they were those small naans about the size of a pitta bread, easily. If they were those giant table naans that get hung on a stand in a restaurant, she must have hollow legs!

@TheAquaCrab not read all but you should go just so you can get the cash back!

I’d message her again. Being on holiday is no barrier to making a payment in 2025.

She sounds like a cheeky fucker.

I would not pay costs for the group again. Just say that you had difficulty getting reimbursed so you won’t be doing it.

What the hell is a CF? This thread is a joke.

Cheeky monkey.

I’d defo go to the 80s night and while you’re there tell her she can just buy you a few drinks if it’s easier than transferring the cash she owes you. Tell her it’s embarrassing asking her again but you’re skint and it was 2 naans too far.

Thank you!

I take it this is the full amount and not just the naan breads. Does she owe you the full £28 or just the naan breads it's a bit unclear