DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

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DD 27 and her boyfriend (also 27) are proper home bodies. All they seem to do in their free time is go for country walks with their dogs, meals out or Sunday markets 😂

When I was in my 20s I was partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

Last weekend they baked cookies and went on a long country walk with the dogs with a pub lunch. DD spends a lot of time reading and crocheting bits here and there. The boyfriend has started furniture restoration as a hobby. They’re like an old couple honestly!

DD got annoyed with me because I said to them they need to be out enjoying their 20s (and soon 30s) and not acting like a couple in their 60s. DP says leave them be but I just don’t want them to regret not living life to the full. You’re a long time old as they say.

AIBU?

Do they have friends OP? I sort of know where you're coming from I think. It's not about living a life of hedonism, but I'd be concerned if a 27 year old had nothing much in their life except their partner. Don't get me wrong, at 35 I spend most of my free time reading and walking my dog, but I've partied and travel a bit and have good friends. The way you describe it they have a bit of a one-dimensional life.

That’s what I hoped she’d be doing!

I really hope your dd doesn’t know you consider her boring :-(

You sound horrid and rude OP! I’m raising my children with the hope they are happy and fulfilled, you seem to have wanted to raise a carbon copy of yourself!

You know you're coming across as shallow and slightly dim, don't you?

I bet they have fairly good jobs too, yes?

Are you one of those "I'm mad me" types?

How sad that you can't just be happy that your daughter is living a life she enjoys

Sounds lovely, I wish I'd been that settled and comfortable at that age.

We have offered neither are interested!

Do they have stressful jobs, people who have very stress-full jobs tend to want very quiet home lives, they have plenty of time for travelling, maybe they are saving up for a property

Your daughter isn't you.
Let her be herself and do things that make her happy.
I went clubbing twice in my 20s and hated every minute of it.
I am 70 now and don't regret not partying, clubbing or getting up to all sorts in my 20s it's just not me.

It's their youth to waste. (But I agree with you. They have energy and vitality and are wasting it...)

Me too

You’re a bit out of touch OP, wholesome activities like growing vegetables, woodworking, baking are very big with 20 somethings online and irl, have you not heard of Cottagecore? They are picking the current trends that they fancy to follow just as you did.

Living a little, is different for different people.

They sound very compatible.

How stupid. That's all I have to say. Good on them.

This must be a wind-up because I don't know anyone who still regularly goes clubbing in their late 20s, I'd find that a bit tragic really. They sound like like a completely average, normal couple with average, normal hobbies.

OP your daughter sounds happy, content and fulfilled - surely you can’t possibly want more than that with your child??

At 27 I was very much a party girl, riddled with anxiety from the lifestyle. I’m so glad the youth of today often go for a simpler life!

You're very judgemental and mean spirited about how they live.

Maybe you set an example they don't wish to follow.

My dd is 24 and likes long country walks and crocheting - now she also could be on the U.K. drinking team but chooses mostly to be a bit more sensible. Nothing wrong with that. By 27 I had 2 kids

Being honest what is she missing out on ? What did you do/see that has enhanced your life.

Each generation finds its way to baffle and perturb the generations above. They can’t be partying and drinking as that’s what the old folk want.

I’m not taking the piss out of my DD. I don’t want her to regret not living a little.

OMFG

This has to be a wind up.

Describing her and her partner as boring just because they don't spend all weekend off their tits? Bloody hell.

I've got two DCs who are very different, one was like yours, one was a party animal .... I know who I stressed out about the most!

I'm late 50s ... when I was late teens/early 20s I much preferred a nice meal and a glass of wine to clubbing!

This is sad. Does she know you find her boring? I bet she does. Perhaps she's happy to have found someone who understands her.