Best friend has accused me of being stingy.

[YourWorthyBee]

My best friend left a relationship a year or so ago and got himself a new girlfriend a few months back. I am genuinely pleased for him as in his previous relationship he was cheated upon regularly but his new flame is really nice.
His new girlfriend has a son and it was recently his 21st. I was invited to the party. Having never met the boy before, I turned up with a bottle of prosecco and a card with £50 in it. My best friend told me that he was really disappointed in me and that I should have given more. I'm not exactly Jeff Bezos in terms of money and as I hadn't met the boy I thought I was doing good. AIBU?

How much did your friends girlfriend spend on you for your last birthday? Or your children?

Your friend is a grabby twat op. £50? That's wedding gift territory!

Haven’t rtft but I’m known for being very overly generous. I wouldn’t give prosecco & 50 to my friends girlfriend’s son. Absolutely no way. And more so a few months in.

My nephews and nieces mean the world to me but I wouldn't spend £50 on their birthday (and I'd be told off if I did). For someone I didn't know, it would be a cheap bottle!

Similar here

I gave my niece £50 when she graduated and she was over the moon. I don't get such entitled attitudes. That was extremely generous @YourWorthyBee . Your friend is really rude and I would be telling him that. He was very direct with you, why can't you be direct with him?

Honestly I think £50 is OTT for someone you don’t even know!

Your mate is a dick. £50 for some kid you’ve never met before is very generous.

He is not a friend sorry

Agree with this.

very relevant question. Friend is a twat

How ridiculous! £50 for someone you’ve never met and are only distantly connected to (friend’s girlfriend’s son!) is extremely generous.

I'm not sure "true colours" take over 30 years to be exposed.

No, it sounds like the OP's friend has lost his mind. This outside the bounds of normal behaviour.

Are you sure he wasn't having a joke with you? £50 is generous so maybe he was jokingly saying you should have given more.

You left your husband and married a woman, having ditched the handsome guy at the swinger's club?

Eh? I don't get it ... 🤔

Advanced search of the OP's user name.
Something sounded slightly jarring in their 2 posts, so I looked for previous posts/threads.
I'm not sure what to make of this one.

Ah! Interesting 🧐. Thanks.

Yeah, this scenario is a bit too ridiculous.

Blimey on the years my parents did remember it was a tenner in a card an that was all!
Your friend was incredibly rude,

Rule 1 of a made-up online persona - remember the details.

If your friend is a really good and old one, I'd be blunt and say "What's going on Dave? I feel like this isn't about the card, money and gift - if you tell me what's reallyhappening, I might be abletohelp." Could potentially be something like the new gf doesn't like him having female friends (assuming you are indeed female), so he's trying to orchestrate a falling out with you? Only as it's such an odd reaction from him, I'm trying to think of a possible reason... Or he has early onset dementia you don't know about?

If he's not an especially good friend, I'd just put it down to "lots of people are dickheads" and not bother with him any more.

1.It was rude of your friend to call you stingy, whether she thought so or not
2.This is a great example of why it's almost always a bad idea to give money or a gift card.
3.Tell your friend that Miss Manners says it's always wrong to expect a present; in this case, I'm not sure any was called for.

I don’t know your circumstances or circle but for context all my best friends’ kids get £20 for their birthday and £50 for the occasions like 18ths/21sts.. and I’ve known them all for the whole of their lives.

£50 for a grown child you’ve not got a relationship with is very, very generous and if your friend can’t see it as a measure of your friendship with him then he’s an idiot! I do hope he pulls his head out of his arse and says sorry.

This is more about the person he’s with than the kid’s birthday.

I wouldn’t have expected my good friends to give my kids £50 for their 21’s birthday 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

That was a great present fr someone you don't know, extremely generous.

Your friend is being odd, what did he expect?

Is it possible that the £50 fell out of the card, was lost? That's just a thought, I'm probably wrong but such things do happen.

That’s insane. The bottle alone is a good enough gift for someone you don’t know, unless the party was free champagne on a private yacht.

And no offence, but if you were invited (whom he had never met) the guest list for the party must have been pretty long. If everyone gave him £50 that would be thousands.

Your friend is either entirely delusional or meant the comment as a joke and it didn’t come off.