Best friend has accused me of being stingy.

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My best friend left a relationship a year or so ago and got himself a new girlfriend a few months back. I am genuinely pleased for him as in his previous relationship he was cheated upon regularly but his new flame is really nice.
His new girlfriend has a son and it was recently his 21st. I was invited to the party. Having never met the boy before, I turned up with a bottle of prosecco and a card with £50 in it. My best friend told me that he was really disappointed in me and that I should have given more. I'm not exactly Jeff Bezos in terms of money and as I hadn't met the boy I thought I was doing good. AIBU?

Agreed...

Your gift was really quite generous - it's pretty much what we gave my DHs cousin who we consider close family for his 21st...?!?!

YABU for gifting 50 quid to your pals GF son who you have never met before

A bottle of Prosecco and £50 is super generous even for someone you already know. I’d have been happy just to get the bottle for my 21st. You are not being unreasonable.

Why are people so passive? Why didn’t you respond with ‘who the fuck are you talking to’?

I'm sorry. I call BS. No one in their right mind gives £50 as a birthday gift to someone they don't know.

Just 😮

I spend about £50 on family. £50 on a complete stranger is beyond generous.

You gave loads for someone you don’t know (or someone you do know)

Wasn’t he being ironic? And you took it literally?

I wouldn't go to a party of a new girlfriend of best friend's adult son. How bizarre to be invited to a 21st of someone you don't know from Adam.

I doubt that I would have gone to the party at all, let alone given him money. Too distant a connection.

You were more than generous.
He sounds like a rude ignorant twat.

Do you have kids? And if so, what has he given them for 18th birthday presents etc? Does he have bio kids? What have you done for presents for them?

He may be seeing this as a step child scenario in which case he is expecting you to treat him similarly to other kids. Whereas you’re seeing someone who you have no relationship with yet.

£50 cash for someone you don’t even know????? And you get accused of being stingy???? Time to find a new friend OP! Did you ask how much you were expected to give?

Same.

A shame you were too shocked to say, 'Well if my hard earned £50 isn't good enough, I'll have it back.' and then held your hand out with an expectant look on your face.

How weird! What did your friend get him?

My friend's girlfriend's son would be lucky to get a card off me, let alone £50! Your friend is being ridiculous.

Not sure i’d have even gone to be honest. But mine would have been a card and a maximum of £20. £50 is a lot of money!!! Nevermind for someone you don’t even know. I’d be having words with my so called best mate tbh. It’s grabby and rude and it’s not even his son.

Oh my gosh I would have only given £20. That was really nice of you! I'm sorry he behaved in that way. I think I'd avoid all future celebrations hosted by him, as he obviously expects too much! You'll have to be more more busy!

Wait wait wait.
Hold up.
Hold on just a darn minute.
The birthday boy is the son of your friend’s GF & he was a complete and total stranger when you arrived at his party with a bottle of prosecco AND a card with £50 in it???
What? WTF is your “”friend” high on that he had the absolute gall to call you out for such a lovely and thoughtful and APPROPRIATE gift?
What’s your friend’s name? Give me his number too. And give me his MOTHER’S phone number.
Your friend scolding you is SO FAR PAST INAPPROPRIATE that it can’t see inappropriate in the rearview mirror.

Cf, I think £50 is more than generous for someone you've never met, the bottle of prosecco would have been more than enough as a gesture, you've never met the kid!! I'd only give very good friends £50, but then iam not rothschild either.
I think your friend is a cf well out of order!

Absolutely this !!

I would set it out straight to your friend, say that you consider a bottle of Prosecco and £50 to be an extremely generous gift for someone you don’t know. This also means that if there has been any misunderstanding over the gift, he knows the true situation. Frankly if he thinks that is not a good gift, the problem is with him.

Maybe somebody stole the £50 from the card. I would say something like did he not get the £50.