Best friend has accused me of being stingy.

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My best friend left a relationship a year or so ago and got himself a new girlfriend a few months back. I am genuinely pleased for him as in his previous relationship he was cheated upon regularly but his new flame is really nice.
His new girlfriend has a son and it was recently his 21st. I was invited to the party. Having never met the boy before, I turned up with a bottle of prosecco and a card with £50 in it. My best friend told me that he was really disappointed in me and that I should have given more. I'm not exactly Jeff Bezos in terms of money and as I hadn't met the boy I thought I was doing good. AIBU?

So his new girlfriend's son took it upon himself to not only invite strangers to his birthday party, but also corner the person who's plus one they were and complain strongly about the gift they received from this stranger?!

Even if you'd literally come with nothing he shouldn't have said a word! Ungrateful cunt.

Wow, you've never even met the lad? Son of your friend's new partner?

I would have thought that a card, with at most £25 in cash or a voucher would have been appropriate. That's quite an expectation your friend has of you.

YANBU.

Given the timing for his last relationship, this one can’t be long enough to be considered established or serious so a gift for the child you’d never met was fine.

He would have got a card from me at the most. You don’t know him

That’s very generous. I can’t imagine a 21 year old would expect anything from someone he has never met.

For someone like this that I don't know very well (at all in your case! Ha!) I would give a gift of roughly the cost of my place at the party. Was it a 3 course meal with free bar?

I’m sorry I’m not sure if I accidentally clicked YABU but you most certainly are not!! That’s a very generous gift.

Your friend isn’t much of a friend if they were hoping to use your bank balance to impress the new girlfriend and her kid. He sounds like a twat.

Wtf. My own nephew's will get £50 from me on their 21st. Not someone's kid who I've never met. You were too generous. Unless there's some huge backstory.

Your best friend's, girlfriend's son? Tbh id have only taken the wine.

Your friend is a prick, hes not entitled to a gift never mind his waifs and strays.

Do not overthink this, you were generous

I think he’s assumed it was just a card and a bottle of prosecco - the birthday celebrant probably just pocketed cash and didn’t keep track of who gave what.

You were a lot more generous than I would have been. Your 'friend' sounds like a twat.

Wow £50 is very generous. I would have just brought a bottle!

Does he know you gave £50? If it was in a card could it have gone unnoticed? It was my daughter’s birthday earlier in the year and my best friend got her a bottle of bubbly and put £40 in her card. My daughter didn’t notice the money, I found it in the envelope in recycling the next day luckily after my friend mentioned it!

What did your friend get the birthday boy? What did he give you on your last birthday? Do you have kids? I think you were very generous.

Christ my mum gives me 50 quid every year for my birthday. I'd be absolutely delighted if she just bought me my favourite bottle of wine.

Greedy fucker.

Nothing to do with your friend at all. It’s entirely up to you what you feel is an appropriate amount, and I think that’s more than generous. He sounds very controlling….

I agree

If this s guy is your best friend, then I am assuming you have been there for many birthdays, gift occasions, and his wedding etc. Has he ever mentioned the monetary value of gifts before? If not, I think it's one two things the boy has pocketed the money and not said anything or this has come from the new girlfriend who may not be as nice as you think.

I would be bloody grateful for £50

I hope he's not your best friend any more. You have been really generous to someone who you have never even met before and your friend was really rude and ungrateful. What on earth was he expecting?

My mum gave DS and DD £50 for their 18 and we were all extremely grateful. Your 'friend' is insane.

It was more than generous, I wouldn’t have even gone to the 21st of a friends, girlfriends son that my friend had been going out with for a few months

Are you sure he knows you put £50 in the card,/ did the card get lost / is there a chance that the son told him a different amount