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To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?

675 replies

GreenFairy93 · 20/09/2025 16:11

Another day, another Facebook post calling for the army to be bought in to stop the boats. Another comment section full of people shouting "sink the boats!" "Use as much force as necessary to stop them!"

There are women and children on these boats and people are brazenly calling for force to be used against them and for them to be sunk, with pictures of their faces next to their comments. Not an ounce of shame. And there's hundreds of them.

I just find it absolutely abhorrent and honestly, really upsetting that so many people have dehumanised asylum seekers to the point they have absolutely no compassion in their hearts to the point they are publicly calling for harm to come to families fleeing war.

AIBU to be shocked that people think this is ok now?

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smallpinecone · 20/09/2025 19:53

SirHumphreyRocks · 20/09/2025 19:52

So you judge everyone based on one person? Should all British people be considered racist, misogynistic violent thugs and criminals because that's what Tommy Robinson is?

Many posters on MN have had no problem doing exactly that.

usernamealreadytaken · 20/09/2025 19:53

Flo78 · 20/09/2025 18:58

Sure but that isn’t happening, is it?

And if you, as an individual, were in this position, would you wait for foreign aid that isn’t coming, or decide that you have to try and save yourself?

It was our foreign aid budget. They've stopped sending a large proportion of it abroad to help millions, and keep it here towards supporting thousands of men instead.

Pigeonpoodle · 20/09/2025 19:54

Goldenbear · 20/09/2025 19:37

What right do you have to define 'what' British culture is? I don't recognise these things as representing my culture, British culture isn't just what the extreme right say it is!

For me core British values are what needs to be protected: democracy, tolerance, freedom of expression, rights of women, the rule of law (ie English/Scottish law).

The problem with much of the immigration we have is that they don’t bring those values, and don’t assimilate to those values. The culture they bring, steeped in a medieval Islamic worldview, is fundamentally opposed to each one of the five values I’ve outlined. To allow this culture to grow and thrive, whilst making no attempt to insist on it integrating and adapting to these core British values, is like letting a cancer destroy your body from within whilst refusing treatment.

Papyrophile · 20/09/2025 19:55

As I have written elsewhere, I have no problem with migration or migrants, provided they arrive with a job offer than doesn't require top up benefits, and that expires with the job. No path to citizenship, unless you own property. Similar to taking a job in the UAE. You can only stay while you work, because there's no unemployment benefit payable and no pension, only the native born can be full citizens.

Papyrophile · 20/09/2025 19:57

It is why the displaced people from all over don't even try to go to the Gulf states. The co-religion plea falls on deaf ears there.

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 19:57

Pigeonpoodle · 20/09/2025 19:54

For me core British values are what needs to be protected: democracy, tolerance, freedom of expression, rights of women, the rule of law (ie English/Scottish law).

The problem with much of the immigration we have is that they don’t bring those values, and don’t assimilate to those values. The culture they bring, steeped in a medieval Islamic worldview, is fundamentally opposed to each one of the five values I’ve outlined. To allow this culture to grow and thrive, whilst making no attempt to insist on it integrating and adapting to these core British values, is like letting a cancer destroy your body from within whilst refusing treatment.

Wow...Islamic people are a cancer to British society? Are you having a laugh. How many people do you know who display the values you have outlined?! Very few.

Also educate yourself on Islam. Noy fundamentalism.

usernamealreadytaken · 20/09/2025 19:58

Flo78 · 20/09/2025 19:12

Maybe he does not want to do care work, but maybe deliveroo driving.

That’s a perfectly valid job that is available for someone to do. Presumably you don’t want it. Neither do I.

Also, are you the one calling boomers horrible and old or do you think I am? Either way, that’s extremely offensive and derisive of you.

But we’re always going to need care workers. I don’t know what the world is going to look like in 100 years. I don’t know which countries will be on top. If fascism comes to us like it appears to be, the uk won’t be such a popular place - nor will young English people be so eager to stay.

Nobody doing wither deliveroo driving or working in a care home will ever be supporting themselves adequately, let alone their family. We are importing benefit recipients.

tinytemper66 · 20/09/2025 19:58

People are more emboldened because of flags and rhetoric from those who seem to hate those with a different skin colour or religion. Scary.

ForgetMeNotRose · 20/09/2025 19:59

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 19:57

Wow...Islamic people are a cancer to British society? Are you having a laugh. How many people do you know who display the values you have outlined?! Very few.

Also educate yourself on Islam. Noy fundamentalism.

Tolerance, freedom of expression, core values huh

JudgeJ · 20/09/2025 20:00

BeHappySloth · 20/09/2025 16:14

No, but I'm afraid this thread will attract racist posters like a honeypot attracts bees. They will all pile on with their usual racist tropes.

Have your bingo cards at the ready.

Yes, I have got my bingo card ready and congratulations, I've just crossed your post!

Pigeonpoodle · 20/09/2025 20:01

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 19:57

Wow...Islamic people are a cancer to British society? Are you having a laugh. How many people do you know who display the values you have outlined?! Very few.

Also educate yourself on Islam. Noy fundamentalism.

I’m not referring to everyone who identifies as Muslim… there will be a wide spectrum of opinions and outlooks amongst Muslims.

However, there are cultures within our cities that have Islam at their core, that are fundamentally not aligned with core western values. To pretend otherwise is to be blind

Goldenbear · 20/09/2025 20:01

So smallpinecone you posted this;

smallpinecone · Today 17:37

Another day, another thread on this topic, when everything the is to say has been said elsewhere.

No one is going to change their minds on this subject.

Those in favour of immigration enjoy feeling virtuous and morally superior. It makes them feel good. And talk is cheap; it’s easy for them to talk the talk, because they don’t have to walk the walk.

They don’t have to live with the negative consequences of their virtue signalling. Immigration for them means cheap nannies, cheap domestic help, a underclass of cheap foreign labour they can exploit, exciting ethnic restaurants where they boast how cultured and cosmopolitan they are. They live in nice areas and the children attend good schools, in no danger of being assaulted or raped. These people are insulated by wealth. There’s no downside.

Those who have to live with the negative consequences are told to shut up, pipe down, and everything would work out beautifully if they’d just be quiet and stop drawing attention to the problems. These people can’t move away from the areas where asylum seekers are housed. Their children are in state schools with children who don’t speak English as a first language, taught by teachers who also don’t have a high level of language skill. They can’t afford to eat in these restaurants, or employ cheap labour - they’re in direct competition with these new arrivals for their jobs. Their children are vulnerable to those who hold differing cultural values.

One group has all the advantages, all the benefits, and punishes the other group for trying to speak up about their problems and the fundamental unfairness of it. They don’t want to know - and if they do realise it, they don’t much care.

And then this:

smallpinecone · Today 19:26

Why are you directing this at me?

I don’t feel poverty or discomfort. I just don’t write off those experiencing the negative consequences of mass immigration as racist or bigoted. Because it’s not true.

So if you're are not living in discomfort or poverty you must be one those "insulated by wealth".

I can't keep up with all your contradictions and exaggerations, none of what you say is consistent!

Goldenbear · 20/09/2025 20:02

smallpinecone · 20/09/2025 19:40

I didn’t define it. You were the one asking what is even was.

No I wasn't wrong poster

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 20:04

Pigeonpoodle · 20/09/2025 20:01

I’m not referring to everyone who identifies as Muslim… there will be a wide spectrum of opinions and outlooks amongst Muslims.

However, there are cultures within our cities that have Islam at their core, that are fundamentally not aligned with core western values. To pretend otherwise is to be blind

There are white British people in our societies whose values do not align with Western values. To pretend otherwise is to be blind.

Flo78 · 20/09/2025 20:05

usernamealreadytaken · 20/09/2025 19:42

It is already MY cookie; I’ve done the shitty jobs and earned my cookie. They’ve come with no cookie, so by default any cookie they get comes from someone else.

Um… no. It’s not your cookie. Unless you own the care home and you’re hiring the people.

British people don’t have a right to all “British money” by default. Also, how much do you know about the empire and how much wealth was stolen by Britain from other countries? Go and walk around the British museum. A lot.

Do you also resent rich foreigners who buy properties and businesses here?

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 20:06

Pigeonpoodle · 20/09/2025 20:01

I’m not referring to everyone who identifies as Muslim… there will be a wide spectrum of opinions and outlooks amongst Muslims.

However, there are cultures within our cities that have Islam at their core, that are fundamentally not aligned with core western values. To pretend otherwise is to be blind

Also, are you grouping the entire Western world into one category who display the same values!? 😂😂😂

LittleYellowQueen · 20/09/2025 20:06

MidnightPatrol · 20/09/2025 18:54

Good to hear.

I used to live next to a hostel for men and it was a problem. Disproportionate amount of crime. Hanging around all the time, would shout at you and follow you home etc.

Like all these things - it’s down to individuals. I think if people thought there was a good vetting process they might be more comfortable - I’m not sure how you’d achieve that given they’re not from the UK/Europe and so their histories traceable.

Which kind of men in that hostel? British men who knew that nobody would give a fuck if they harassed a few women, or refugee men who know their asylum claim might hinge on their behaviour?

LeonardoDiCaprio · 20/09/2025 20:07

What value do we gain from having them in the UK?

There's a cost to the taxpayer, a drain on resources, a drain on physical space. There's also the negative social and cultural issues as well. Lack of integration issues.

Papyrophile · 20/09/2025 20:09

I am actually quite offended that, because I am not all enthusiastic to add a few million extra people to the UK's population without considering who they are and what they might bring, I must be some kind of racist who automatically thinks PoC are lesser. I can't even find words sufficient to spit rage at this sentiment.

LittleYellowQueen · 20/09/2025 20:11

What is British culture?

nomas · 20/09/2025 20:11

GreenFairy93 · 20/09/2025 16:11

Another day, another Facebook post calling for the army to be bought in to stop the boats. Another comment section full of people shouting "sink the boats!" "Use as much force as necessary to stop them!"

There are women and children on these boats and people are brazenly calling for force to be used against them and for them to be sunk, with pictures of their faces next to their comments. Not an ounce of shame. And there's hundreds of them.

I just find it absolutely abhorrent and honestly, really upsetting that so many people have dehumanised asylum seekers to the point they have absolutely no compassion in their hearts to the point they are publicly calling for harm to come to families fleeing war.

AIBU to be shocked that people think this is ok now?

Agreed. And then some of these people will watch Titanic and cry at people drowning and think they’re amazing people because they can cry at a movie.

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 20:12

Papyrophile · 20/09/2025 20:09

I am actually quite offended that, because I am not all enthusiastic to add a few million extra people to the UK's population without considering who they are and what they might bring, I must be some kind of racist who automatically thinks PoC are lesser. I can't even find words sufficient to spit rage at this sentiment.

Where the fuck are you getting your numbers from? The Daily Mail?

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 20:12

LeonardoDiCaprio · 20/09/2025 20:07

What value do we gain from having them in the UK?

There's a cost to the taxpayer, a drain on resources, a drain on physical space. There's also the negative social and cultural issues as well. Lack of integration issues.

Your comment shows exactly why there is lack of integration 🙄

JaneEyre40 · 20/09/2025 20:13

Flo78 · 20/09/2025 20:05

Um… no. It’s not your cookie. Unless you own the care home and you’re hiring the people.

British people don’t have a right to all “British money” by default. Also, how much do you know about the empire and how much wealth was stolen by Britain from other countries? Go and walk around the British museum. A lot.

Do you also resent rich foreigners who buy properties and businesses here?

Where the fuck do people think British money comes from!!

Flo78 · 20/09/2025 20:14

usernamealreadytaken · 20/09/2025 19:58

Nobody doing wither deliveroo driving or working in a care home will ever be supporting themselves adequately, let alone their family. We are importing benefit recipients.

That sounds a bit like bullshit to me, so I asked chatgbt, which didn’t know, but guessed that it would be a “trivial minority”.

But also… the fact that you think that being a care worker or a deliveroo driver can’t pay you enough to live (and we DO need people do these jobs), then surely the logic is that we should just be paying these essential workers more?

I bet you a lot of people relied on delivery drivers during the pandemic! We were happy to call them essential workers then.