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To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?

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GreenFairy93 · 20/09/2025 16:11

Another day, another Facebook post calling for the army to be bought in to stop the boats. Another comment section full of people shouting "sink the boats!" "Use as much force as necessary to stop them!"

There are women and children on these boats and people are brazenly calling for force to be used against them and for them to be sunk, with pictures of their faces next to their comments. Not an ounce of shame. And there's hundreds of them.

I just find it absolutely abhorrent and honestly, really upsetting that so many people have dehumanised asylum seekers to the point they have absolutely no compassion in their hearts to the point they are publicly calling for harm to come to families fleeing war.

AIBU to be shocked that people think this is ok now?

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GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 13:52

derxa · 21/09/2025 13:45

Who’s advocating sinking boats 😳

That's what the whole bloody thread is about!!! People openly commenting on Facebook posts that the armed forces should be sent out to sink the boats and use whatever force necessary to make sure they don't get to England!!!!

Keep up!!!

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derxa · 21/09/2025 13:53

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:50

The people on Facebook that OP’s initial post referred to.

Do you honestly think a British government would follow such a policy.

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:56

derxa · 21/09/2025 13:53

Do you honestly think a British government would follow such a policy.

Not the current government, no. That wasn’t your question to me, though.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:59

LittleYellowQueen · 21/09/2025 11:10

What evidence do i have that tax evasion and fraud isn't being tackled?

£46 billion a year lost. Next question?

That £46bn is not all down to evasion; the tax gap includes all taxes that should theoretically be paid. The gap includes companies going bust (plenty of those in the current climate!), genuine errors, adhering to the letter of the law but not the “spirit”.

HMRC estimates that evasion accounts for about 15% of the tax gap; just slightly more than we spend on housing and supporting immigrants arriving on small boats. If you are aghast at the amount lost to evasion, you should be equally aghast at the amount spent on small boat arrivals.

GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 14:00

Right. For all the wide eyed people claiming no one wants to actually sink the boats/drown the refugees/ people are just fed up and have a right to be; here are screen shots of the disgusting posts literally wishing to sink and drown refugees.

My whole AIBU was AIBU to find it upsetting that refugees have been dehumanised to the point where people think this behaviour is acceptable and are happy to say these things in public with their names and pictures attached to it!?

To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?
To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?
To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?
To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?
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GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 14:01

derxa · 21/09/2025 13:53

Do you honestly think a British government would follow such a policy.

Obviously not. But that's not the question.

The question is AIBU to be shocked that people have dehumanised refugees to the point where this behaviour is acceptable in public spaces now. Because honestly, I'm fucking shocked.

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usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 14:02

TruckDiver · 21/09/2025 11:47

Yes it is, because it's falling. Net migration in 2024 was about half that of 2023. If the UK really is such a magnet to everyone from poorer countries seeking to make a buck, why would it be coming down without someone exerting control over it?

2022/23 figures included women and children fleeing the war in Ukraine. Funny how the men didn't come…

derxa · 21/09/2025 14:02

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:56

Not the current government, no. That wasn’t your question to me, though.

🤣 Goodness I don’t know why you’re so upset. People say all sorts of things on social media from the safety of their sofa.

Illjusthavethebreadsticks · 21/09/2025 14:04

Stop being so naive OP there are no women and children on these boats.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 14:05

SisterMargaretta · 21/09/2025 11:49

Anyone on the boats can apply for asylum if they feel they are leaving a place where they are in danger. Their claim then needs to be processed to judge whether they meet the criteria to receive asylum. They then mist be accommodated during the application process.

Therefore, someone who is housed in accommodation for asylum seekers is here legally. They would be here illegally if 1) They didn't file a claim for asylum, in which case they would either be immediately deported for not having the correct visa, or they would be here unknown to the government and not eligible for any state support or 2) if their asylum claim was rejected, at which point they would be deported.

Anyone living in accommodation for asylum seekers is there while their legal claim is processed. I live in a town with asylum-seeker accommodation in it and I'm fed up of clueless idiots constantly banging on about "illegals". Anyone here illegally would not be housed in this accommodation!

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There’s this new magic way to make your illegal entry suddenly legal; “asylum”!

RhododendronFlowers · 21/09/2025 14:09

SirHumphreyRocks · 20/09/2025 17:13

Since most of them (65%) are granted asylum, then oddly, they do appear to be asylum seekers. War is not the only reason to seek asylum either.

It was 48% in the year ending June 25.

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 14:11

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 13:18

No they don't all leave, leave and go where? Do you not think that have ties to the country they were born in, familial set ups, a culture they are attached to. I know they personally don't leave so please stop spouting this rubbish!

It is not acceptable for this pattern to continue- 1% of people get the benefits of 70% of wealth.

They'll go somewhere where they feel that the can keep more of their money. I do they personally do. I just gave you an example.

Please untwist your granny knickers.

LeaAndDer · 21/09/2025 14:12

GreenFairy93 · 20/09/2025 16:11

Another day, another Facebook post calling for the army to be bought in to stop the boats. Another comment section full of people shouting "sink the boats!" "Use as much force as necessary to stop them!"

There are women and children on these boats and people are brazenly calling for force to be used against them and for them to be sunk, with pictures of their faces next to their comments. Not an ounce of shame. And there's hundreds of them.

I just find it absolutely abhorrent and honestly, really upsetting that so many people have dehumanised asylum seekers to the point they have absolutely no compassion in their hearts to the point they are publicly calling for harm to come to families fleeing war.

AIBU to be shocked that people think this is ok now?

OP in the majority, these are young men of fighting age. You are paying to keep them in 4* accommodation, giving them a phone, good, pocket money, your gp’s appointment, etc etc. how long do you honestly think we can sustain paying millions every day with no return? Wake up before it’s too late.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 14:19

LeaAndDer · 21/09/2025 14:12

OP in the majority, these are young men of fighting age. You are paying to keep them in 4* accommodation, giving them a phone, good, pocket money, your gp’s appointment, etc etc. how long do you honestly think we can sustain paying millions every day with no return? Wake up before it’s too late.

It isn’t 4 star accommodation, the amenities and appliances are usually removed. It’s a room with beds in it.

The Home Office doesn’t issue phones as standard. If phones are issued, it’s usually from a charity (which we don’t pay for).

£9 per week isn’t good pocket money. You couldn’t live off it, and neither could I.

It’s not “my” GP appointment. It’s “a” GP appointment.

I don’t know why people continue to pedal these absolute myths.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 14:19

GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 14:00

Right. For all the wide eyed people claiming no one wants to actually sink the boats/drown the refugees/ people are just fed up and have a right to be; here are screen shots of the disgusting posts literally wishing to sink and drown refugees.

My whole AIBU was AIBU to find it upsetting that refugees have been dehumanised to the point where people think this behaviour is acceptable and are happy to say these things in public with their names and pictures attached to it!?

And you obviously verified that every single one of those comments was made by a genuine English racist and not one of the Russian bots which we’re frequently told are being deployed all over social media to stir up tensions?

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 14:23

derxa · 21/09/2025 14:02

🤣 Goodness I don’t know why you’re so upset. People say all sorts of things on social media from the safety of their sofa.

Goodness, you don’t find it upsetting that some people think it’s acceptable to suggest snipers should be used against refugees?

They are not saying these things anonymously, either.
After the Lucy Connelly case, you’d think they’d be more careful even if just because of self-preservation.

None too bright, obviously.

sleepwouldbenice · 21/09/2025 14:24

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 14:19

It isn’t 4 star accommodation, the amenities and appliances are usually removed. It’s a room with beds in it.

The Home Office doesn’t issue phones as standard. If phones are issued, it’s usually from a charity (which we don’t pay for).

£9 per week isn’t good pocket money. You couldn’t live off it, and neither could I.

It’s not “my” GP appointment. It’s “a” GP appointment.

I don’t know why people continue to pedal these absolute myths.

Exactly! It's incredulous that people still peddle this crap

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 14:24

RhododendronFlowers · 21/09/2025 14:09

It was 48% in the year ending June 25.

Explains why immigration is falling.

Livelovebehappy · 21/09/2025 14:45

ForgetMeNotRose · 21/09/2025 10:51

@Livelovebehappy if you're interested in the kinds of things I'm talking about, it may be worth googling Brian's Story and The Liberated Method.

I think that public services need to be redesigned to focus on relationships with people, and between services, and between services and the community. We need to focus on listening and learning about what people actually need. Otherwise we have people like Brian bouncing between services, with huge financial implications and ultimately Brian doesn't get the help he actually needs.

This is a problem with the way services are structured and governed, and the way performance is measured. We are delivering services that tick boxes within narrow remits. We are not supporting relationships with people that would lead to their recovery. People don't exist in narrow remits and health is a systemic issue. Many of us are like Brian in some degree, with each of our interactions with public services treated in isolation, when often they are interdependent. See links between issues around fleeing domestic abuse, housing/homelessness, safeguarding, mental and sexual health and child health equity as an example. These issues are often treated separately which is costly, and most importantly not what is needed by the family. Around 80% of determinants for public health also sit outside healthcare services.

When we design public services with and around people, replacing siloed and remit based performance management and governance approaches with human-centred learning and relationships, we can have services that support better lives holistically. This also saves money because we support the broader conditions for health, and people have the healthcare they actually need.

So no it's not about throwing money into an endless pit, there also needs to be change to our public systems including our NHS. Some of this is happening in some places. But I think if there was a greater focus on this kind of reform in public service (including reform to finance and commissioning processes to support them), that would make a big difference. My experience in relational public services has shown this to me, as has my research.

So I think there is a need to shift focus to this kind of reform, rather than accept this as a limited system that is not meeting needs, and just managing numbers.

Reform needs to be about creating systems that work for people. Not making "efficiencies" by cutting funding to siloed services that don't. When services actually meet needs, savings are a natural consequence. When we create the wider conditions for health and see the whole person or family, we also reduce demand. Otherwise we are just managing failure demand and limiting access.

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That’s an interesting idea and concept. But it would still cost billions to implement. I’m sure there are lots of ideas out there on how to make our NHS more efficient. But it would require infinite funds, with no guarantees that it would improve our services. It’s very badly managed with no coercion between services, so the result is that nothing is joined up, and as the saying goes - the left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing. The NHS needs strong leadership with someone willing to think outside the box instead of ‘let’s save our NHS at any cost’.

SisterMargaretta · 21/09/2025 14:46

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 14:05

There’s this new magic way to make your illegal entry suddenly legal; “asylum”!

Well if you consider international law to be magic.

smallpinecone · 21/09/2025 14:49

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 14:19

It isn’t 4 star accommodation, the amenities and appliances are usually removed. It’s a room with beds in it.

The Home Office doesn’t issue phones as standard. If phones are issued, it’s usually from a charity (which we don’t pay for).

£9 per week isn’t good pocket money. You couldn’t live off it, and neither could I.

It’s not “my” GP appointment. It’s “a” GP appointment.

I don’t know why people continue to pedal these absolute myths.

There are British people living in appalling conditions in damp and mold infested homes and paying a fortune for the privilege. They don’t have hot meals provided for them, their mobile phone aren’t paid for by charities, they don’t get ‘pocket money’ and they can’t get a doctor’s appointment.

Those people have the absolute right as citizens of this country to be considered the first priority. We’ve reached a point when asylum seekers and refugees are prioritised over the existing population. It’s fundamentally unfair and cannot continue.

Livelovebehappy · 21/09/2025 14:52

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 14:23

Goodness, you don’t find it upsetting that some people think it’s acceptable to suggest snipers should be used against refugees?

They are not saying these things anonymously, either.
After the Lucy Connelly case, you’d think they’d be more careful even if just because of self-preservation.

None too bright, obviously.

But making inappropriate and wild statements on SM isn’t anything new. You can go on face book, X and other media platforms every day and see absolutely vile comments about many different subjects. The important thing is not to try to lump together people who might have a shared sentiment about anti immigration, but many of whom will not share the same ideas or views on how to resolve it. For example, my idea would be to get the army deployed on the French coast where the departure points are, and stop the boats coming in the first place. I would absolutely not condone attacks on boats or people to stop them landing. Nor I suspect would the majority of people.

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 14:58

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 14:11

They'll go somewhere where they feel that the can keep more of their money. I do they personally do. I just gave you an example.

Please untwist your granny knickers.

"granny knickers"? I'm not a granny so that would be hard but even if I was, are you sure your earn enough to pay top tax as that comment has unmasked you.

smallpinecone · 21/09/2025 15:01

Those on the left ostensibly believe protecting the most vulnerable in society first. Housing asylum seekers and refugees in hotels while not giving the same level of protection and security to British citizens is directly counter to that. Labour cut benefits because there isn’t enough money for vulnerable citizens and yet they find money for housing migrants.

British working people cannot compete. Serco are offering an unprecedented 5 years of guaranteed rent with council tax, bills and even maintenance included. Many landlords will now be considering evicting tenants to take up this deal instead.

You could argue that these people are vulnerable as well - but they are not our responsibility. We can’t look after the millions of people around the world who want a better life.

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 15:01

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 14:11

They'll go somewhere where they feel that the can keep more of their money. I do they personally do. I just gave you an example.

Please untwist your granny knickers.

"I do they personally do", chatting shit!