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To find it shocking how brazen people are with their hatred of refugees?

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GreenFairy93 · 20/09/2025 16:11

Another day, another Facebook post calling for the army to be bought in to stop the boats. Another comment section full of people shouting "sink the boats!" "Use as much force as necessary to stop them!"

There are women and children on these boats and people are brazenly calling for force to be used against them and for them to be sunk, with pictures of their faces next to their comments. Not an ounce of shame. And there's hundreds of them.

I just find it absolutely abhorrent and honestly, really upsetting that so many people have dehumanised asylum seekers to the point they have absolutely no compassion in their hearts to the point they are publicly calling for harm to come to families fleeing war.

AIBU to be shocked that people think this is ok now?

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LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 12:22

I do earn in the 45% range.

Also, the article here talks only about non-dom status when talking about the UK. The Labour Government scrapped the non-dom status.

Because of this. Someone I know got a work transfer from his bank from London to New York. This was so he could avoid being taxed on his global assets.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 12:23

Clavinova · 21/09/2025 11:55

FrenchFancie
I saw a statistic that asylum seekers cost each UK taxpayer £2 per year

That claim is challenged in this article - 'based on simple division, asylum support would cost £125.67 per year per taxpayer if housing costs are included'

https://theferret.scot/claim-costs-asylum-benefit-fraud-tax-mostly-false/

How many asylum seekers can I support for £125.67?

I currently pay £4 per year for one King, so if we’re talking value for money - seems like a better deal at face value.

Luckyingame · 21/09/2025 12:29

Brazen? Do you mean in Britain?
You should try the Czech Republic or Hungary.
Funnily enough, these countries still have their own identity, protected.

ForgetMeNotRose · 21/09/2025 12:33

CicerosHead · 21/09/2025 11:55

I've seen the comments. And I've seen lots of nice and supportive comments to Ukrainian refugees, should they ask something on facebook. I wonder why that is.

Maybe because Ukrainian refugees are women and children who fled an ACTUAL war, leaving their fathers, brothers, husbands to fight for their country?

Also, because they're similar to the local population and don't push their barbaric fanatical religion and all the 'cultural' norms that stems from it.

You know, one persons nice exotic restaurants and 'multicultural enrichment' is another persons bunches of young men loitering around street corners, leering and hassling local schoolgirls, catcalls, open disdain towards them, grooming and rapes.

The government response and narrative around Ukrainian refugees was totally different. We were encouraged to see them as our fellow human beings and to come together and support them through hardship.

Ukrainian refugees were given vastly more government support than refugees from other countries.

Having worked with asylum seekers from other countries, I found it odd that Ukrainians were seen as more deserving of support than others with similar experiences, knowing the conditions other asylum seekers were living in.

I think what you're saying about Ukrainian refugees being "more similar to the local population" is questionable. Ukraine of course has it's own unique language and cultural heritage/practices. More similar in that they are white, perhaps. You can see how whiteness plays into perceptions of assimilation.

See second or third generation migrants from other majority-white communities Vs non white communities. Black and brown British people being told to "go home" while white people are not, regardless of whether our parents/grandparents were migrants.

I don't think the difference in response is because Ukrainian people are more deserving or more British-like than other people fleeing violence.

It's more to do with the way the government and media responded to the situation in Ukraine, humanised Vs dehumanising rhetoric. See how "small boats" is used as a dehumanising/objectifying shorthand which distances us from human experiences.

How would this conversation change if we focused on the experiences of people on the boats, why they are on the boat, who they are, rather than seeing boats as nuisance objects to be batted away? If we heard their voices in the media? Would people be talking about blowing up boats if we started actually talking about people?

And no, I don't see migration as "exotic restaurants". And I don't see white working class people as a monolith. I'm a white person, I'd say one side of my family is working class and the other side middle class. My husband is white working class and has grown up in a council house, worked manual jobs. He probably looks like some of the stereotypes of white working class people. Certainly I've seen people react to him in line with this stereotype. I'm more middle class in my profession. People assume things about me, too. We have very similar political views.

As I've said before, I have grown up in an extremely multicultural community where 85% of people are not white, and the majority speak English as an additional language. This is not a rich community, but one I love. It is also a welcoming community.

Meanwhile, big media and big tech get likes driven by rage against each other and benefit from our division.

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 12:40

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 12:22

I do earn in the 45% range.

Also, the article here talks only about non-dom status when talking about the UK. The Labour Government scrapped the non-dom status.

Because of this. Someone I know got a work transfer from his bank from London to New York. This was so he could avoid being taxed on his global assets.

I wasn't saying that you didn't, I don't even know you, it's not really that hard to be on that range in the South East so I'm sure you are.

I think it's hilarious that you think that the UK has high tax rates.

1% of the UK owns 70% of its wealth if that trajectory of wealth inequality continues, how is anyone, including the middle classes going to see their life improve so excuse me why I don't fret about your pal moving to New York to avoid paying tax in a country that he is a citizen of!

Clavinova · 21/09/2025 12:45

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 12:23

How many asylum seekers can I support for £125.67?

I currently pay £4 per year for one King, so if we’re talking value for money - seems like a better deal at face value.

I really like King Charles. I will happily pay your £4 per year - you can pay my £125.67.

GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 12:48

ForgetMeNotRose · 21/09/2025 12:33

The government response and narrative around Ukrainian refugees was totally different. We were encouraged to see them as our fellow human beings and to come together and support them through hardship.

Ukrainian refugees were given vastly more government support than refugees from other countries.

Having worked with asylum seekers from other countries, I found it odd that Ukrainians were seen as more deserving of support than others with similar experiences, knowing the conditions other asylum seekers were living in.

I think what you're saying about Ukrainian refugees being "more similar to the local population" is questionable. Ukraine of course has it's own unique language and cultural heritage/practices. More similar in that they are white, perhaps. You can see how whiteness plays into perceptions of assimilation.

See second or third generation migrants from other majority-white communities Vs non white communities. Black and brown British people being told to "go home" while white people are not, regardless of whether our parents/grandparents were migrants.

I don't think the difference in response is because Ukrainian people are more deserving or more British-like than other people fleeing violence.

It's more to do with the way the government and media responded to the situation in Ukraine, humanised Vs dehumanising rhetoric. See how "small boats" is used as a dehumanising/objectifying shorthand which distances us from human experiences.

How would this conversation change if we focused on the experiences of people on the boats, why they are on the boat, who they are, rather than seeing boats as nuisance objects to be batted away? If we heard their voices in the media? Would people be talking about blowing up boats if we started actually talking about people?

And no, I don't see migration as "exotic restaurants". And I don't see white working class people as a monolith. I'm a white person, I'd say one side of my family is working class and the other side middle class. My husband is white working class and has grown up in a council house, worked manual jobs. He probably looks like some of the stereotypes of white working class people. Certainly I've seen people react to him in line with this stereotype. I'm more middle class in my profession. People assume things about me, too. We have very similar political views.

As I've said before, I have grown up in an extremely multicultural community where 85% of people are not white, and the majority speak English as an additional language. This is not a rich community, but one I love. It is also a welcoming community.

Meanwhile, big media and big tech get likes driven by rage against each other and benefit from our division.

Exactly this.

I think you know the reason Ukrainian refugees were more welcome is because they are white christians@CicerosHead

The government have never started a campaign for britons to house Afghan or Syrian women and children in their homes have they? I wonder why that is?

All of the Ukrainian refugees weren't women and children either. That is a false rhetoric. Many whole families came to the UK and were hosted gladly. But refugee families in boats are to be shot at and sank to make sure they don't get here. See also the laughing emojis left on news stories of children drowning in the channel. CHILDREN!?! Why is that?

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LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 12:50

ForgetMeNotRose · 21/09/2025 12:33

The government response and narrative around Ukrainian refugees was totally different. We were encouraged to see them as our fellow human beings and to come together and support them through hardship.

Ukrainian refugees were given vastly more government support than refugees from other countries.

Having worked with asylum seekers from other countries, I found it odd that Ukrainians were seen as more deserving of support than others with similar experiences, knowing the conditions other asylum seekers were living in.

I think what you're saying about Ukrainian refugees being "more similar to the local population" is questionable. Ukraine of course has it's own unique language and cultural heritage/practices. More similar in that they are white, perhaps. You can see how whiteness plays into perceptions of assimilation.

See second or third generation migrants from other majority-white communities Vs non white communities. Black and brown British people being told to "go home" while white people are not, regardless of whether our parents/grandparents were migrants.

I don't think the difference in response is because Ukrainian people are more deserving or more British-like than other people fleeing violence.

It's more to do with the way the government and media responded to the situation in Ukraine, humanised Vs dehumanising rhetoric. See how "small boats" is used as a dehumanising/objectifying shorthand which distances us from human experiences.

How would this conversation change if we focused on the experiences of people on the boats, why they are on the boat, who they are, rather than seeing boats as nuisance objects to be batted away? If we heard their voices in the media? Would people be talking about blowing up boats if we started actually talking about people?

And no, I don't see migration as "exotic restaurants". And I don't see white working class people as a monolith. I'm a white person, I'd say one side of my family is working class and the other side middle class. My husband is white working class and has grown up in a council house, worked manual jobs. He probably looks like some of the stereotypes of white working class people. Certainly I've seen people react to him in line with this stereotype. I'm more middle class in my profession. People assume things about me, too. We have very similar political views.

As I've said before, I have grown up in an extremely multicultural community where 85% of people are not white, and the majority speak English as an additional language. This is not a rich community, but one I love. It is also a welcoming community.

Meanwhile, big media and big tech get likes driven by rage against each other and benefit from our division.

I remember seeing something on the news where Ukrainian refugees complained about the large "Muslim population" in the areas they were placed in.

Clavinova · 21/09/2025 12:52

ForgetMeNotRose
Ukrainian refugees were given vastly more government support than refugees from other countries

The Ukrainian scheme was sold to the British public on the basis of offering temporary sanctuary, with the expectation that most refugees would return home when they are able. That may not turn out to be the case but that was how the scheme was presented.

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 12:57

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 12:40

I wasn't saying that you didn't, I don't even know you, it's not really that hard to be on that range in the South East so I'm sure you are.

I think it's hilarious that you think that the UK has high tax rates.

1% of the UK owns 70% of its wealth if that trajectory of wealth inequality continues, how is anyone, including the middle classes going to see their life improve so excuse me why I don't fret about your pal moving to New York to avoid paying tax in a country that he is a citizen of!

It does. The 45p rate is way too much. We are taxed to the brink and expected to all cheer and be happy about it.

If you tax the 1% to the brink they'll find a way and leave. Billionaires don't hoard billions in cash, it's usually in the intangible shares etc of the companies they've grown or run.

My friend did leave. He thought taxes were too much and he left. I hopes he's having the time of his life in New York City.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/09/2025 12:59

Clavinova · 21/09/2025 12:45

I really like King Charles. I will happily pay your £4 per year - you can pay my £125.67.

I’m sure I already do pay some peoples £125, and their £4.

If that £125.67 is accurate, there were also 110,000 asylum claims in 2024-2025.

So, I guess it depends if we think individual human beings are worth £0.0011.

BundleBoogie · 21/09/2025 13:03

TruckDiver · 21/09/2025 12:21

OK here's a question:

Net migration peaked at 860,000 in 2023, before falling by almost half to 431,000 in 2024.

https://fullfact.org/immigration/net-migration-to-the-uk/

Did people notice a reversal of the cost of living crisis by the end of 2024? Did the NHS suddenly get better, due to the massive ease on pressure? Did it become quicker to move up social housing waiting lists? Did everyone rejoice at how much more positive life looked on Christmas day 2024 compared to 2023?

If not, why not, when the thing that was apparently causing all these problems got a whopping 50% better?

And if halving it had no effect at all on your problems (or possibly a negative effect, as they've continued to get worse) then what makes you think that halving it again, then again and again, until it can be reduced to near 0 will somehow be the magic bullet that it wasn't?

Because that figure is per year. The 860,000 plus the 430,000 people are still here. Still using housing, NHS and other resources.

That’s why the economic pressure caused by immigration hasn’t changed.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:09

LittleYellowQueen · 20/09/2025 23:23

They're not allowed to work until their claim has been processed. So it's no surprise that figures show that refugees are more likely to be unemployed.

Asylum seekers are not allowed to work in the first year of their claim, but can after that. Refugees are expected, and arguably should be obliged, to work, in order to at least contribute something towards the support they have received.

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 13:18

LeonardoDiCaprio · 21/09/2025 12:57

It does. The 45p rate is way too much. We are taxed to the brink and expected to all cheer and be happy about it.

If you tax the 1% to the brink they'll find a way and leave. Billionaires don't hoard billions in cash, it's usually in the intangible shares etc of the companies they've grown or run.

My friend did leave. He thought taxes were too much and he left. I hopes he's having the time of his life in New York City.

No they don't all leave, leave and go where? Do you not think that have ties to the country they were born in, familial set ups, a culture they are attached to. I know they personally don't leave so please stop spouting this rubbish!

It is not acceptable for this pattern to continue- 1% of people get the benefits of 70% of wealth.

BundleBoogie · 21/09/2025 13:20

GreenFairy93 · 21/09/2025 12:48

Exactly this.

I think you know the reason Ukrainian refugees were more welcome is because they are white christians@CicerosHead

The government have never started a campaign for britons to house Afghan or Syrian women and children in their homes have they? I wonder why that is?

All of the Ukrainian refugees weren't women and children either. That is a false rhetoric. Many whole families came to the UK and were hosted gladly. But refugee families in boats are to be shot at and sank to make sure they don't get here. See also the laughing emojis left on news stories of children drowning in the channel. CHILDREN!?! Why is that?

Why shouldn’t we choose to help those that have far more cultural and practical similarities to us and will settle in far more easily as a result?

As an example of one quantifiable aspect, many Ukrainians either already spoke English or made efforts to learn very quickly so didn’t increase the need for even more £millions to be spent on interpreters in the NHS than we already spend. (£64 million last year). If NHS users can’t speak English, I think it is fairly likely they are not working here and paying tax and NI.

We are not the only country in the world that can take asylum seekers, there are many other options for people from Syria and Afghanistan - we cannot take them all. The cultural and religious differences are vast.

Our government has an obligation to consider our needs and welfare as a society as well as people who want to come here for whatever reason.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:23

ilovesooty · 21/09/2025 08:18

We take less than most other countries allowing for our size.

Historically, that's not the case. If you take France, for instance, they may have received far more applications than the UK, but they also rejected a far higher percentage, whereas the UK at one point was accepting around 75%. I wonder where all those rejected asylum seekers went? 🤔

ACynicalDad · 21/09/2025 13:24

I believe few are refugees and most are economic migrants. I’d never want the boats sunk mid channel but I’d you could do it close to shore they’d line and you’d kill the route, not the economic migrants.
I’m pro migration but they either need to be in genuine danger or bring value to the UK. Few in those boats do.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:25

Flo78 · 21/09/2025 08:30

Actually, no. The ripple effect from high London prices means people who are pushed out of London buy in commuter towns. So those who would have lived there now can’t afford to and so move out, making those areas also more expensive.

Investors then start looking to places like Manchester and Birmingham and so on, increasing prices there, affecting local and commuter towns prices too.

This is besides the point, but you can’t resent “migrants” without also resenting the 27% per cent of London properties that are bought as an investment from someone who lives outside of the UK - often not paying tax duty on them. They’re required to, but they openly use loopholes to get away with it.

m.economictimes.com/nri/invest/is-london-real-estate-being-used-as-a-tax-haven-by-the-global-elite/amp_articleshow/112826438.cms

Nobody is being pushed out of London and ending up in Bolton because of a foreign billionaire buying a £250mn mansion.

BundleBoogie · 21/09/2025 13:26

Goldenbear · 21/09/2025 13:18

No they don't all leave, leave and go where? Do you not think that have ties to the country they were born in, familial set ups, a culture they are attached to. I know they personally don't leave so please stop spouting this rubbish!

It is not acceptable for this pattern to continue- 1% of people get the benefits of 70% of wealth.

You may not understand the fact that if people are very rich, and taxes get too high, it becomes economically preferable and feasible for them to be domiciled elsewhere.

Just look at what happened in the 70s, the exodus was such that the phrase ‘tax exile’ entered common spheres.

Government has to find a balance between taking enough tax from the richest and making it desirable for them to leave for tax purposes. It’s not like they have to leave and never return to see their family and friends.

I know people that have this capacity with houses in other countries they already spend a lot of time in.

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:35

LittleYellowQueen · 21/09/2025 09:45

Obviously not, because we lose 46 billion quid a year because those laws aren't being enforced.

But let's keep blaming immigration for all our problems, eh?

But a large number of those super wealthy tax evaders are also immigrants. Aren't you blaming them? Or is it okay to blame some immigrants, especially the ones who probably do still contribute far more than most people, and particularly more than irregular/illegal/whatever-this-week's-moniker-is individuals?

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:37

MidnightPatrol · 20/09/2025 16:16

I think the issue is that most aren’t women and children asylum seekers fleeing war, but young adult men travelling alone as economic migrants.

People typically have empathy for the former, not so much for the latter.

So it’s ok to sink boats full of young men? Lovely.

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:40

TiramisuTastesDreamy · 20/09/2025 16:37

Borne out of frustration I’m afraid. It’s nothing personal against individual people trying to flee danger but rather a growing anger at how we treat our own citizens versus people who are arriving illegally and have not paid into our system. Tougher laws needed unfortunately

I disagree. It is absolutely personal as many of the arseholes spewing this stuff are the same people who have been wanting brown-skinned people they see to “go back where they came from” for decades, even when those brown skinned people are British.

derxa · 21/09/2025 13:45

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:37

So it’s ok to sink boats full of young men? Lovely.

Who’s advocating sinking boats 😳

usernamealreadytaken · 21/09/2025 13:48

FrenchFancie · 21/09/2025 10:53

People arriving on small boats accounted for just 4% of new migrants to the IK last year. Asylum seekers make up less than 1% of the population. They are having no appreciable effect on our culture, finances or access to services. I saw a statistic that asylum seekers cost each UK taxpayer £2 per year, whereas tax not being correctly by big corporations costs us each an extra £3,00 per year.

If you want to improve the country, make sure the super wealthy and corporations pay the correct level of tax.

of course, that’s not nearly as interesting and emotive to the big corporations who run the media and social media. Far better to point the finger at the ‘immigrants’ for cheap engagement and rage bait, then point out that tax avoidance is the bigger burden on the country.

why let facts get in the way of engagement?

In 23/24 there were approximately 36.5mn income tax payers in the UK, footing an asylum bill of over 5.4bn. Thats nearly £1500 per taxpayer. Bear in mind that some taxpayers will only be earning min wage. Even if the bill was split between all adults (some of whom rely wholly on state support themselves), it would work out at £80 per person. Stop being so dismissive.

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/09/2025 13:50

derxa · 21/09/2025 13:45

Who’s advocating sinking boats 😳

The people on Facebook that OP’s initial post referred to.

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