to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

It reinforces oppressive gender roles on women.

Women are generally attracted to competent men who can do stuff. Height is an advantage but a man who's 6'2", broke, unfit and with no game or life skills probably won't do well in dating. A shorter man who's fit, got his stuff together and is emotionally available will be fine.

We all know love isn't restricted to tall men amd thin, beautiful women.

My DB is 5"6 but never struggled to have plenty of girlfriends before he got married. He's in his 50s so it is more of a modern thing with dating apps then?

No it doesn't, unless you assume a strong, capable woman can't possibly be with a strong, capable man. Or that a woman who likes a protective man can't possibly have a decent job or something.

You'd phrase that as "i'd like a relationship where we are both resilient, independent and protect each other". You dont need to say "and the man should be this and the woman should also be this or no she should be that".

Everyone should have to visit a Police Station to have their picture taken, like this, before posting on any social media which refers to their height.

If this Government had any backbone this should have been one of the first things they addressed before mucking about with the Winter Fuel Allowance (IMO).

Used to drive me nuts. Im 5'7" so if you put down you are 6ft and you're 5'8" .. I'm going to immediately know you lied ! So what's the bloody point

Er, it was you who, when asked why a strong, capable woman couldn't be with a strong, capable man, started wittering about it reinforcing oppressive gender roles. I was the one who stated both to be strong, you were the one who saw "strong man" and got a blind spot for "strong woman".

You can phrase it your way if you prefer, but mine was punchier even if you didn't read it.

There's no need to gender strength. People shoild generally have some sort of strength and resilience by adulthood.

Although its been at least ten years since I've done dating sites, I agree, I noticed a lot of men lied about their age and height.

One guy said he was 5"11 so I wore my chunky 4 inch heels to the date and towered over him at my 5"7 height. Another guy told me he was 41. He was at least 46 to the day and thats me being generous.

It is funny though, that the men go on about women using old photos and lieing about weight etc, when they do the same. Just meet them for a coffee for an hour then you can decide if you want an actual date.

Height is the least of your problems on these apps. My stbxh was on them all using a fake name, fake age, fake job title. Saying he was divorced and one of our kids lived with me and one lived with him. All lies! The only thing he told the truth about was his height which is 6ft.

I wonder if some people just pick a height that sounds good to them and go with it without ever checking. I had a friend who was my height but in conversation he once said he was 5'10". I replied "I think we're the same height and I'm 5'7"". He just shrugged and said he's been told he's 5'10" so that's what he's going with. Bizarre.

You did gender it though. I asked why strong, capable women can't be with strong capable men and you started wittering about oppressive gender roles.

I get it, you didn't read the post, or you did and put your own sexist filter on it which, by Internet law, you must never admit to doing and must blame me for and obfuscate until the thread closes or whatever. But it's Saturday, ffs.

Surely you get to an age and maturity one day when these sort of physical attributes are less important than personality when looking for a long term partner. All in all, to go off in a tizz trying to cancel a date because they don't meet your criteria is a pretty tragic account for where society is today really. Let's be honest, men would flamed on here if a man said he was going to report a woman for lying about her body shape.

Why arent you asking why all adults arent expected to be strong and capable? Think about that. Why is it this man compared to woman thing? You know that some women date.... other women?!

Sorry this is a question not an answer: are there any apps where to sign up you have to provide proof of ID perhaps a bit like DBS checks and financial software (e.g. Thirdfort) use (photo of passport or driving licence, recent utility bill/bank statement)? I guess most of the app providers only care about money from getting as many profiles as possible. And most web companies are not that trusted. Or people think that level of verification would be extreme. But it might be an interesting niche product.

And lie about your age by adding a few years. Then when they meet you they think you look super young.

It was quite liberating to realise that what I thought was a sexual preference for tall men was actually a mental block about stereotypical masculinity. There are lots of hot guys out there who aren’t a huge height and who are great in bed. Also having watched a really fantastic man of my acquaintance that any woman would be lucky to be with (he’s even a bloody consultant surgeon for crying out loud, but also just unusually lovely) be told to his face by a woman that she wouldn’t date anyone under 6”, I feel for them. More for the rest of us though.

I’m not fussed how tall someone is. Would date someone shorter than me (I’m 5’3) but I think the deliberate lying isn’t right.

I admit, I have never done online dating so have zero experience of this world.

However, I think I would rather have fewer dates than look at the disappointment and revulsion in someone’s eyes if I turned up and I was different to what they were expecting! Seeing their smile drain away would be mortifying.

My last ex didn’t lie about his height but once he added me on Facebook, I realised all of his dating app photos were from 7-8 years ago.

This balding man ten years older than me had the cheek to say he was matching with loads of woman on the dating apps and I should feel lucky he ‘chose’ me. 😂

I pointed out he had a full head of hair on his dating app photos and it was the equivalent of me only uploading photos on them from when I was 18.

So still lying then?

Just what are you on about. People have preferences. Sexual attraction, which is important. If I want to discuss Wittgenstein's works or current politics - I have friends for that. I don't sleep with my friends.

I'm 5'11 and I dated plenty of men shorter than me, that's not a problem for me. But if someone 5'10 on paper would turn up as 5'4 in reality - that would be a problem and I wouldn't even go anywher with him, I'd just walk away.

Also I'm very slim and like my men of similar stature to me. Just as men, who prefer shorter and plumper women wouldn't like me (and that's perfectly fine with me), I wouldn't like fat men. I couldn't have sex with a fat man, it grosses me out. No sparkling personality would convince me to go to bed with him.

I'm not on the apps. My brother was not long ago. He's relatively tall, athletic and very outdoorsy. He wants a girlfriend similar to him. One came: short, way over 100kgs, couldn't walk without panting and stopping to rest often. About size 12 on the app.

Another didn't look anything like her photos, he didn't recognize her.

He met his current girlfriend in the real world. And he's not shallow, this girl is not a supermodel, doesn't have a spectacular figure or anything, a normal, 'next door' girl. But she's sporty, slim, outdoorsy, they have other interests in common too.

But would you agree to go on a date if someone shorter than you declared it?

And I think this is what’s great about humans. You have sex with the slim guy and I’ll be having a great time with his fat mate (just so long as he’s tall! 🤣).

How is it people can be so offended by preferences and sexual attraction. Unless it’s fuelled by their own body insecurities.