to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

Yanbu
I'm so glad I'm not on the app scene.
Have so many friends who waste so much money on dates with women who use filters or old photos only to have a flat chested or size 12-14 rock up looking nothing like their pics.

It's just pointless, they're going to see you in person and what you actually look like and know you're over weight

yes i know men suffer from this as well. On top of that they have to waste money on drinks.. I went out with a guy some time ago. He said i am his 5th date from hinge but a first one who looks like their pics.

The height thing is interesting. There is research that shows that on apps many women will filter by height and many say they want min 6' ft.

This strong preference doesn't seem to occur as much in real life as there are plenty of men who are shorter than this in relationships.

So I suspect a lot of these height cat fishers are just trying to get around the (sometimes unrealistic) filtering that goes on and hoping there is chemistry anyway.

Lying by 5" is crazy though!

I just don't get why you'd do it as well.

I'm short, I've had no issues throughout my life from being a short man, i know that people will see I'm 5'8" when they see me so what the fuck do these men and women expect to happen when they show up to a date with a woman expecting a 6'2" man or a man expecting Gael Gadot.

They're hardly going to think "Jesus I can't believe I didn't realize how short 6'2" really is"

Yep.

I do feel sorry for shorter men when they are regularly filtered out of the search results regardless of their other attributes.

However, starting off with a lie is no good. Perhaps men who are average height or shorter should give up on online dating and join hobby groups and local meetup groups instead?

lmao

Was it Tom Cruise, @PoliteEagle? Did he talk about why he only married 26 year olds?

So it's OK if men say they are only interested in slim women? Somehow I think a lot of women women wouldn't be ok with that

Perfectly ok for a man to only want to date a slim woman and vice versa, it’s called a preference, it’s why they have body shape filters on dating websites.

OP. Why don’t you ask for a photo of them stood near a door and you can kind of judge if they are lying about their height before the date? 🤣

Yes absolutely okay. To be attached to sim women only or to athletic women only or whatever else. Yes women can be unhappy about that, but you are attracted to what you attracted.
the same with blonde, brunette, short hair, long hair etc

Ahaha that’s a good idea.

I am only 5'3"

I wont lie about my height but i will absolutely get much less matches. I suspect women also filter out profiles which don't mention height at all...

Why can't people just go by the photos to see if they're attracted to someone? The only thing i look for specifcally are non smokers and childfree...the rest is fair game amd i couldnt care less if you are gigantor if you don't care about my height either.

Yes absolutely.

Men who are in shape are likely to want women in shape and and not some couch potato, there's no issue with saying so

I'm only attracted to tall men, so the photo won't tell me if I'm attracted to someone if I can't tell the height.

Yanbu, but I am feeling sorry for the short guys. They’re sort of forced to lie just to stand a chance of a date.

There’s no point reporting, the app moderators don’t really care about this sort of stuff. But it’s totally fine to end a first meet up immediately if the person in front of you is very obviously shorter / fatter / older / less attractive than the filtered photos and false info they’ve provided led you to believe. I’ve done so on several occasions with both men and women.

They're only forced to lie if they want to go on a date with someone who doesn't want to date them....so they then put the other person in a position that they didn't want to be in because of their lie, that's not ok.

But if they don’t lie, no one will want to date them anyway.

Except that's not true, most men are not that tall and manage to find partners. The short men that I know are the ones who have the longest dating history, girlfriend after girlfriend. They also seem to be the serial impregnators of many women 😂

Gullible woman then

Hinge should def have reviews.

I went on a date with a guy whose photos were at least 15 years old. It was a real shock and made the date very awkward. He was also twice divorced and very scathing about his ex-wives. Just awful. Men who lie about their height/looks/age are often morally objectionable in other ways.

Of course it’s okay. Most women wouldn’t want to date a fat man either, it works both ways.

I think you’re massively missing out… and I wouldn’t report anyone on a dating site unless they struck me as needing shopping to the police. If it’s just height, why give them that much headroom (as it were).

I don’t really blame the guys who feel like if they’re going to have to pay much more to use an app, they will do what it takes to get some actual dates out of it.

Agree with this. I leave the children space blank as I have a teenage daughter and do not want to attract the wrong types. If we match and have a conversation then it will come up before a date so not the same as pretending to be childless or tricking them into a date before revealing it.

Agree with the OP frustration with the height issue though. I'm not bothered about the must be over 6 ft thing, just attracted to someone taller than me. Have been matching with people who say they are a couple of cm taller but after a few dates realising that they seem to add a good few inches on I now have set my limit higher. Just don't want to bend down to kiss a man and it makes me feel less feminine I suppose. Did fall for someone shorter than me a few years back from work. His personality won me over. But I did notice I would slouch a lot or tilt onto 1 leg while stood together.

Also it is the lying element. My last ex I met online. Months later he sent me a photo of a letter he was talking about, then I noticed his date of birth and he was 3 years older than he had said. I actually prefer an older man (was only by 6 years anyway) and he come up with excuses of people filtering out over 40 online and he said he had forgot about it. I forgive. How stupid that was as that was the warning sign I shouldnt have ignored. The next 18 months him lying and acting shady was the theme of the relationship. From now on a lie is a sign of a lier, whether the issue of that 1st lie matters to me or not