to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

No one is saying you need to be taller 🙄

Nothing stopping shorter men dating shorter woman. As you said the average man is 6 inches taller than the average woman. I’m 5’8 so 6 inches taller than me is 6”2, which is my perfect height.

At 5”4, you probably don’t experience this often as realistically, how many men are shorter than you. It’s much more common if the woman is 5”7 or above. I don’t care aslong as they’re taller than me.

Out of interest, can I ask if you honestly thought that all these women would look exactly how they do on filtered pictures?

Because I’ve heard the same complaint many times from men on OLD who have told me about past dates looking nothing like their pictures. It’s as if they were surprised that the women don’t look blurred and plastic with doggy ears in real life. I’ve seen so many women being able to change their whole appearance by using filters.

My DH is 6ft 3
I forget sometimes how tall he is compared to other men as I’m just used to his height

@Lavenderbluex Not must as in need to be, must as can't, like: "you can't be that height because that would mean that I am shorter than I believe and claim to be".

This made me laugh as my son had had the same experiences with dating and filters.

He’s told me there’s been a couple of women he’s gone to meet and they have recognised him and walked up to him and he’s been like, “whoa, who the hell are you!” (In his head!), as they look completely different to all the filtered photos.

He has said they have looked a thousand times better than with all the daft filters though.

Society hates short men maybe that's why they feel the need to lie ?

Ha ha, 25 years ago I met my husband on an old fashioned dating site. I had said in my profile that I was 5ft 10 in, I am actually 6ft 1in.
I thought that men might be put off meeting me by my height on paper, but once they’d actually met me then it would become less of an issue. I “confessed” as soon as I saw him, if he’d then walked off I’d have realised that he was incredibly shallow and that I’d lost nothing.

YABU. Men and women exaggerate on dating profiles - it's just how it is I'm afraid, and if you don't like it you can always quit!

This baffles me, genuinely WHY?
It is a complete holdover from the days when a man was meant to be a strong protector and a women was a weak dainty little thing that needed protecting. Why cut off a huge swathe of eligible humanity on something that arbitrary?

I don't think it's only men who are in good shape themselves who want that in a woman.

i met someone who wrote that he was 5.5” when he was actually 5’3”, his height didn’t bother me but would bother most people so I completely get why he lied to get a foot in the door! We’ve been happily married for 16 years.

I’m not sexually attracted to men shorter than me. Plain and simple.

You understand that sexual attraction is not an intellectual decision?

I'm surprised it baffles you, tbh. History and cultures vary on what's considered a beautiful size or shape for women, but I can't think of any time or place where tallness wasn't considered attractive in a man, although it might have been relative to average heights in the society. Obviously there are individual preferences and variations, but when a feature is considered so appealing over so many cultures for so long, it shouldn't baffle anyone when it remains popular.

Sexual attraction for women often is about someone who can be a strong protecter. We aren't talking about her friends or careers here, that that's what she'll always seek in everything; we're talking about a mate and life partner. It's obviously a bigger picture than one physical asset when creating that attraction and pull, but it's a bit unrealistic to expect one of the most consistently attractive features in human history not to feature at all. It's not really arbitrary.

Thats exactly what I said, do you not think that we should be looking past the “strong protector” bit?

And me. Surely men and women are allowed to have preferences? I’m 5ft 8, I am not attracted to men my height or shorter. However despite being slim myself I’m also not attracted to slim guys, I like my men broad and yeah I like a “dad bod”. I make no apologies for this and men should also not make apologies for preferring slim/curvy/tall/short either.

If we all liked the same thing it’d be a bit fucking difficult to repopulate the world wouldn’t it 🤷‍♀️.

What about them? What do they have to do with OPs post? Presuming she’s straight then it’s irrelevant to her.

Why? Why can't strong, capable women also have strong and protective men? Obviously that's about more than just height, but what's wrong with the premise?

Tbf I don't really know my height. I guess it.

I'm just over 5ft 10 so completely understand. My exH is 5ft 7 and I always felt like a giant next to him, I am bigger built than him too and I definitely felt less feminine.

New partner I met OLD, had the filters set for 6ft minimum height. When we met he was definitely taller than me but not 6ft. It came up in discussion a few months in and he was adamant that he was 6ft so we measured him, he's 5ft 11. It's a running joke now.

I used to always assume that all
men are 2 inches shorter than their profile says

Very true. I'm just under of 5"7 and feel tall in most situations with most men being about the same height or only slightly taller than me. At school pick-up there are only two dads that are around 6ft so it seems that men don't have to be tall to find a life partner.

I wouldn't care about the height but I'd care he felt insecure enough to lie about it. THAT'S what's unattractive.

Reality is that you cant hide your kids forever and you'll never really know if someone is a paedophile until they interact with your kids.

The main reason you're not bringing your kids into new relationships is because they might not work out like most relationships don't work out and that can cause instability in their lives. You're not doing it to hide them from paedophiles because you literally can't.

i find it bizarre too. I went on a date with a man who had lied about his height in a very obvious way. What annoyed me more was when I mentioned that I didn’t eat a lot of meat he lectured me on not having ‘full disclosure’ on my profile!

He was most put out when I didn’t want to go for a second date… I pointed out the double standards of him lying on his profile and then taking me to task on mine!

i think they genuinely believe their own bullshit.