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PoliteEagle · 2025-09-19T21:01:03+00:00

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

dottiedodah · 20/09/2025 09:32

I think for the sake of a few inches it seems OTT to me .I will admit though that I wouldnt be attracted to anyone shorter than me ( 5ft 0) .so not much chance really!The problem is that all the" 6ft 2 eyes of blue" as DGM used to say will be in short supply.So the shorter guys are trying their luck.Apparently some sort of weight filter going down as well for ladies .My own DD is on OLD and reports the same as well .Frustrating .although if you get to know them ,they may turn out to have a good personality .Give them a chance as I tell DD!

stillhiding1990 · 20/09/2025 09:33

@PoliteEagledid you leave date early?

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 09:44

stayathomer · 20/09/2025 06:19

It depends whether he’s being deliberately deceptive, there’s always the chance he’s not getting replies or sitting their nervously wondering if changing his height would get more answers because the thing out there is that women like tall men (which I’ve always found ridiculous, it would be like a man saying they prefer something in women so automatically knocking out loads of potentials!!!)

why then to match with a women where her stated height is more than his real height but less than his made up one? A guy should understand that date would lead in nowhere in 99.99% of cases and very tiny % of women attracted to guys shorter than them.
If he decided to bend the truth to get more matched as least he still should like women who are shorted than real him to maximise his chances.

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 09:48

Lavenderbluex · 20/09/2025 06:34

Good for you OP.

It used to really piss me off too. With all the physical and beauty expectations men expect of woman, I have no guilt in saying I will only date taller men (of course, not to their faces!)

I’m 5’8 and can’t help it that I am not sexually attached to shorter men. I’d rather be single forever that be sexually active with a man shorter than me. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and shouldn’t be coerced into something out of guilt.

I once went on a date with a one who claimed to be 6”3, I had 3 inch heels on and he was shorter than me. Never said anything to him but of course I never saw him again.

Why do they expect you to want to build a relationship with a liar? It’s like when woman do not mention theyre a single mother until a few dates in.

Before anyone jumps on me, I never used to use filters on my photos and they were all from within the last few months. Some without makeup on.

the same here. That guy claimed to be 5'8. I am between 5'5 and 5'6 and he was shorted than me. Imagine him going out with a woman of your height? He would be at your nose level. I would not be able to get attracted to that.
I do feel sorry for short men, they have it more difficult, but lie is not a solution as it doesnt help them. Women wised up enough not to date liars as now we know that it is likely not the only lie we will get from them

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 09:50

SparklyGlitterballs · 20/09/2025 06:41

If it keeps happening to you then introduce it into the conversation before you meet up..."Is there anything in your profile you were less truthful about, eg height?"

Explain the reason you're asking and be clear whether something is a deal breaker.

I was thinking about it. Still on the fence whether that would be appropriate things to ask?

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KimberleyClark · 20/09/2025 09:50

LoftyRobin · 20/09/2025 07:43

It reinforces oppressive gender roles on women.

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This. You can’t complain about oppressive gender stereotypes and then say “but I want a big strong man! I want to feel protected and feminine!” That’s wanting it both ways.

My SIL admitted to me that she hesitated over my DB’s profile - he’s 5ft 7 and said so, and she is 6ft - but 19 years down the line she’s eternally glad she didn’t!

Digdongdoo · 20/09/2025 09:50

OP I'm with you on the lying. But you seem immensely shallow.

InterestedDad37 · 20/09/2025 10:01

I've dipped in and out of OLD in the last 8 years or so. I've had several women lie about their age (stated up to 5 years younger), about how fit they are (I'm sporty, and look for someone sporty). Two have turned up for dates drunk.
I'm actually going on a second date today. We're the same height, and it turns out we have mutual friends IRL!

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:03

PermanentTemporary · 20/09/2025 08:42

It was quite liberating to realise that what I thought was a sexual preference for tall men was actually a mental block about stereotypical masculinity. There are lots of hot guys out there who aren’t a huge height and who are great in bed. Also having watched a really fantastic man of my acquaintance that any woman would be lucky to be with (he’s even a bloody consultant surgeon for crying out loud, but also just unusually lovely) be told to his face by a woman that she wouldn’t date anyone under 6”, I feel for them. More for the rest of us though.

there is a big gap between not dating anyone shorter than 6 feet and someone shorter than a woman herself, given that average height for a woman in the UK is 5'4

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:04

EscCtrl · 20/09/2025 08:20

Sorry this is a question not an answer: are there any apps where to sign up you have to provide proof of ID perhaps a bit like DBS checks and financial software (e.g. Thirdfort) use (photo of passport or driving licence, recent utility bill/bank statement)? I guess most of the app providers only care about money from getting as many profiles as possible. And most web companies are not that trusted. Or people think that level of verification would be extreme. But it might be an interesting niche product.

they would get broke had they implemented proper checks

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Lurkingandlearning · 20/09/2025 10:06

I think you should report it. And I think people who criticise others for being clear on what they find attractive are ridiculous.

I wonder if you could resolve this problem by asking for a photo of them standing in a doorway with the whole of the doorway in the shot. Most internal doors are the same height and you’d be able to gauge their height from that.

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:09

Digdongdoo · 20/09/2025 09:50

OP I'm with you on the lying. But you seem immensely shallow.

My preferences may be shallow but it is my prerogative.

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:10

stillhiding1990 · 20/09/2025 09:33

@PoliteEagledid you leave date early?

No, too polite for that. I stayed for an hour or so and then said I am too tired need to go. Shut down his attempts to arrange second date.

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:14

Lurkingandlearning · 20/09/2025 10:06

I think you should report it. And I think people who criticise others for being clear on what they find attractive are ridiculous.

I wonder if you could resolve this problem by asking for a photo of them standing in a doorway with the whole of the doorway in the shot. Most internal doors are the same height and you’d be able to gauge their height from that.

that is a valid suggestion, the only thing wouldn't it be insulting for guys? especially for those who are truthful?

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mamabeeboo · 20/09/2025 10:23

I watched a YouTube video on this topic and someone they interviewed said many women don't know what 6 foot is because they are typically smaller. So if a 5'2 woman was filtering for a 6ft man, she would never know that he was actually 5'10 because she was shorter anyway. I think this is more realistic that men think they can get away with it.

(I'm in agreement partially with what this person said because I got introduced to a work colleague's 6ft boyfriend who I was able to look directly into his eye, being 5ft9. She didn't have a clue.)

KimberleyClark · 20/09/2025 10:27

mamabeeboo · 20/09/2025 10:23

I watched a YouTube video on this topic and someone they interviewed said many women don't know what 6 foot is because they are typically smaller. So if a 5'2 woman was filtering for a 6ft man, she would never know that he was actually 5'10 because she was shorter anyway. I think this is more realistic that men think they can get away with it.

(I'm in agreement partially with what this person said because I got introduced to a work colleague's 6ft boyfriend who I was able to look directly into his eye, being 5ft9. She didn't have a clue.)

How come you knew his supposed height before you’d ever met him? Was she boasting that he was 6ft in the same way men would boast they were dating a model?

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PoliteEagle · 20/09/2025 10:29

mamabeeboo · 20/09/2025 10:23

I watched a YouTube video on this topic and someone they interviewed said many women don't know what 6 foot is because they are typically smaller. So if a 5'2 woman was filtering for a 6ft man, she would never know that he was actually 5'10 because she was shorter anyway. I think this is more realistic that men think they can get away with it.

(I'm in agreement partially with what this person said because I got introduced to a work colleague's 6ft boyfriend who I was able to look directly into his eye, being 5ft9. She didn't have a clue.)

i didnt go out with 6' guy. Guy claimed to be 5'8 and I was happy about him not being 6'. He turned out 5'4 though while I am 5'6.
It is one thing to filter out anyone below 6' and totally different just not being attracted to someone shorter than yourself.

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SparklyGlitterballs · 20/09/2025 10:33

I'm older - 60 - and have always been attracted to tall men. A little while ago an old friend of mine was interested in us dating, but he's around 5'5", compared to my 5'7". He's also quite petite in frame, whereas I'm a size 16 (was an 18 at the time). All I could think in my head was those old seaside postcards with the tall fat woman and the weedy short bloke and it was an instant ick 🤣

mamabeeboo · 20/09/2025 10:41

KimberleyClark · 20/09/2025 10:27

How come you knew his supposed height before you’d ever met him? Was she boasting that he was 6ft in the same way men would boast they were dating a model?

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Yes that's exactly what happened. She was saying herself she "would never date someone smaller than 6ft. I know I'm short but still... hahaha" 🙄

And I do feel like a lot of men think a lot of women are like this, hence the pressure to lie.

KimberleyClark · 20/09/2025 10:47

mamabeeboo · 20/09/2025 10:41

Yes that's exactly what happened. She was saying herself she "would never date someone smaller than 6ft. I know I'm short but still... hahaha" 🙄

And I do feel like a lot of men think a lot of women are like this, hence the pressure to lie.

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Yes there is a whiff of trophyism about some women’s refusal to date anyone under 6ft.

Honish · 20/09/2025 10:50

Sad and pathetic to lie about your height. But also how bleak that there are so many women who say that they aren't attracted to men who are not tall. I think online dating has turned finding a life partner into a meat market. When people used to meet through real life circumstances then attraction could grow naturally and organically. Science tells us its a very intricate and primal chain of events how attraction works.. hormone based, pheromones etc. I desperately hope my children can meet partners naturally. I encourage them to have lives rooted in wide social networks, in-person hobbies, and be active in our community so hopefully that will stand them in good stead when they reach adulthood. I know some brilliant couples who met online though so I'm not demonising it. A last resort IMO, a life lived online is not good. This is why we've kept the children busy in umpteen sports, hobbies, busy life of family and friend plans etc as the oldest have reached early teens and still haven't asked for a games console and have only ever mentioned it to say they don't know how their friends make the time to play on them.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 20/09/2025 10:51

You need to be less rigid and more open minded, people with very high standards, with little time rarely find a good relationship online.

I noticed many average looking people have much better look with each.

Tall women are attracted to Tall men, Tall men are attracted to shorter women.
Confidence is the biggest attraction.

I'd be more annoyed that they were comfortable with telling lies.

Cruc · 20/09/2025 10:55

LoftyRobin · 20/09/2025 07:43

Reality is that you cant hide your kids forever and you'll never really know if someone is a paedophile until they interact with your kids.

The main reason you're not bringing your kids into new relationships is because they might not work out like most relationships don't work out and that can cause instability in their lives. You're not doing it to hide them from paedophiles because you literally can't.

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i don’t have kids and I understand people especially women not displaying it on their profile but they should defo let the person know before they meet up. So it should be discussed in the messaging/call/FT stage

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/09/2025 10:56

We should report men for everything they do tbh

Someone should keep a list, like Santa, as to who is a twat and who is nice

Lurkingandlearning · 20/09/2025 10:58

@PoliteEagle Tried to quote your response to the doorway idea and messed it up.

If you explained that many men have lied and wasted your time, they might well be understanding. I think most men know a lot of women prefer taller men (hence the lying). They might even find it funny. I wouldn’t be surprised if the taller they are the funnier they’d find it.