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Help, I’m pregnant and don’t want to be

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HelpIDontKnowWhatToDoNow · 19/09/2025 06:51

Hi everyone, I’m posting her for traffic as I really need some advice.

I am 26. I’m in a low paid job, I live at home and I want to go travelling within the next year (probably around work, with cheaper weekend breaks and longer weekends instead of the full six months off work backpacking). My parents are happy with this arrangement and are actively encouraging it - they want me to see the world before I settle down to a husband and children and a mortgage.

I have just got back from a holiday and in all the excitement I didn’t realise I’d missed my period. I checked last night and it’s nearly two weeks late. I took a test this morning and it’s a big old positive.

I can’t have a child at the moment. I am not financially, emotionally or physically prepared to have one. But I also can’t reach out to my mum for advice, I have always been a big supporter of women’s right to choose and she has always been pretty clear that she doesn’t agree with abortion. For her or anyone else.

I don’t know what to do now. Do I tell my GP? Do I need to tell the dad? He’s a mutual friend and I would be able to reach out, but I kind of worry that he would want to have the baby, which I definitely don’t want to do.

I know a lot of people will tell me I’m irresponsible for allowing this to happen, or that I’m selfish for not wanting to continue the pregnancy because I want to travel, but what are the next steps?? Who do I contact?

OP posts:
HelpIDontKnowWhatToDoNow · 20/09/2025 21:17

I took the second set of pills this afternoon. Bleeding started about an hour ago and the cramping is bad, but at the moment similar to my period. My friend is being amazing, he has got me a hot water bottle and I've had a bath. I have definitely made the right decision

OP posts:
ChamelalaBingBong · 20/09/2025 21:24

Thinking of you! Hopefully it'll all be over in a few hours x

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 20/09/2025 21:58

I’m glad you’ve got some support OP. I’ve not had a termination with the tablets, but I’ve had a miscarriage at 6 1/2 weeks and a friend who’s had both says it’s pretty much the same experience. I had about half a day of really bad cramps and heavy bleeding, and then it was all over. Hopefully it will be done by morning and you can have a day of rest before going back to work.

Apocketfilledwithposies · 20/09/2025 22:12

Glad he's being supportive OP.

I had an abortion for similar reasons a long long time ago and I've never regretted it, or been ashamed of my choice.

I hope you have as comfy a weekend as you can and you enjoy lots of travels and adventures and happiness in your future.

kaysee01 · 20/09/2025 22:38

Glad you're doing ok and are being looked after, thinking of you both, take good care x

ThatCleverCoralCrow · 20/09/2025 23:29

Make the appointment to discuss options. My advice, if you go down the abortion route, do it ASAP as I imagine it will be harder the longer you wait.

VeganCroissant · 20/09/2025 23:50

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angelspike2025 · 20/09/2025 23:51

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Having a termination doesn’t cause that, it wasn’t her actions that did it
i cant afford a child, I would also terminate. I can’t produce money out of thin air

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 20/09/2025 23:55

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You don't need to worry. Not your body.

lnks · 21/09/2025 00:17

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In the nicest possible way, fuck off

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 21/09/2025 00:27

ThatCleverCoralCrow · 20/09/2025 23:29

Make the appointment to discuss options. My advice, if you go down the abortion route, do it ASAP as I imagine it will be harder the longer you wait.

How about you RTFT.

IsTheRecyclingOut · 21/09/2025 00:57

Im reading this, and so pleased he is supporting you.

Sending love x

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/09/2025 00:58

Are you okay @HelpIDontKnowWhatToDoNow

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