Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

[Piratecatcher]

Hi My hubby age 69 wants to go hiking solo for 6 weeks ..doing the Camino.. I am very upset about it as I feel its too long to be apart and also hurt that he is ok with that.. We have a good relationship usually and adult children. I have happily accepted him doing solo two week hikes in the past but 6 weeks feels too long and I am not a long distance hiker so I can’t join him. We are arguing about it.. Am I being selfish? He thinks I am.

I think we only get one life, so if it means a lot him, is a bucket list item, then why would you, the person who should support him, stand in the way? It's a long time, yes, but if he stays to please you, strap in for some resentment. I'd be pushed if my husband said I couldn't do something because it would take me a long time.

I like horses. DP likes boats. Are you suggesting we should both give up our interests and only do things we both enjoy? Reading and going to the theatre?

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I honestly do not think the word selfish should come into this. You feel abandoned which is the way you look at it. Try not to feel like your not important to him and instead think of what you could do in those 6 weeks

Why don’t you agree to meet him half way for another or something? Just to break it up?

Let him go ! My husband loves solo travel to deserts and mountains and who am I to stop him? He is 78 and shows no sign of slowing down ( ex army officer) , he is still working too , 3 or 4 days a week in Belgium. I take the time to visit friends and even go on holiday, we miss each other and sometimes meet up halfway through, mobiles make it easy to see each other when we want , we chat every day and he shares his amazing experiences, and I enjoy great beach holidays with a girl friend.

It makes our lives happy and content and always some great stories to share .
He would be like a caged tiger if he retired and sat at home so I'm happy to let him do long arduous things without me , the Camino would be great for your husband I did a bit of it with him , and we travelled together in between trips .I firmly believe the old adage " absence makes the heart grow fonder "

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest .

The fear is that he may indulge in "hanky panky" along the way?