to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

This is very sad, I’m so sorry.
i hope you have people in your life who love you the way you deserve.

I'm so sorry that you were in such a horrible place. But don't torture yourself over what is past. Most people don't realise what a 15 week old unborn looks like. I was once talking to a group of mid teen girls and they told me they thought it was just a clump of cells. There's lots of information in MSM about a woman's right to choose, but little about the unborn until you are expecting a longed for baby.

I’m looking into VAD in Switzerland. My life and everything I have known has changed dramatically, with the last year being quite detrimental to my mental health.

Can I ask why Mounjaro is better?

I didn’t like Wegovy - the headaches and nausea were manageable and only lasted 2 days an each week, but the constipation it caused was very concerning and constant. I had to stop. I was worried about bowel impaction or worse.

I managed to get ozempic for a month and side effects were much more manageable but it’s being reserved in Australia for diabetics.

Maybe it’s worth me trying Mounjaro.

You poor darling💐

Marmart?

I am so sorry to hear this. You are amazing x

Once my DC no longer needs me around I'm quietly leaving this world

He’s giving you grief for not working stm, but you’ve been supporting him all this time.

I do not think I’d like that at all.

@Lessstressedhemum You are not disgusting. A terrible thing was done to you multiple times from a very young age when you were powerless. Repeated in your teen years. My heart goes out to you. This is in not your fault in any way. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

This is so weird. I feel exactly the same. It feels a bit sick somehow.

It's not sick. It's far worse to be the sort of person who's attracted to the sleezy, self-destructive addict type men & women - and there are plenty who are!

Smoking was portrayed as cool and sexy for a long time and there have been and still are times and cultures when women with that physique were considered very beautiful.

As preferences they are out of fashion and obviously there are health issues attached to smoking and being overweight, but there is certainly precedent in being drawn to them.

Spiritism and spiritualism are 2 very different things . Spiritualist churches are not something I would feel comfortable with , if anything seeing “things “ all my life made me realise religions are simply a lie and created to make people fear and subjugated .

@JessicaC1992, @UnimatrixZeroOne, maybe it's something atavistic to do with genetics?
I don't think it's sick - just unfashionable. You might like this picture:

People who are genetically prone to being overweight have a higher risk of being a smoker, and they are likely to smoke more than average, according to a World Health Organization agency whose study has identified for the first time around 70 genes that could explain this behaviour.
https://news.un.org/en/audio/2018/05/1009922

I’m counting the days until my mother in law dies because I want DH to inherit!

When I hear of other people's MIL dying, I get jealous.

@Cailleachnamara I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are being supported.

Tattoos for me. I've never seen a woman with a tattoo who looked better for having the tattoo. They always make a woman, or a man, look worse.

Another question to add to my earlier one (quoted) if that's OK...Do you see only human spirits, or animals too?
@Crazyworldmum

I find other people's babies (with very rare exceptions) absolutely beyond revolting. I was never one for babies, ever, but of course I loved my own. I did worry though, that I might not - but I did.

I like toddlers very much and I find teenagers fun.

As a middle-aged woman, I would panic when a younger colleague brought in their baby to show around. I'd grab a folder and rush out of the department in terror of having a slightly moist, slightly warm, slightly odorous thing shoved into my reluctant arms.

Of course it was expected that I'd be 'dying for a cuddle' (ugh....shivers...) as were all the other older women at work. Why don't young mothers think men want to hold their babies? Why do they think anyone does? (OK - that's unfair because there are those strange people who just love holding babies).

I would, of course, hold the infant for a few mins to help the mother, but I DID NOT WANT TO CUDDLE THE RUDDY BABY.

Phew.

My supposed best friend bores me to death.

Me too! All she talks about is her health issues. Yawn. The happy-go-lucky girl of yore is long gone. It's so sad.

I feel bad even saying this but I cannot stand my husband’s nephew and niece (even though they’re 6 and 4). They are unbelievably rude, just like their mum and grandma. They act like little adults, completely ignore people, make disrespectful comments, and go on about how much they love my husband (their uncle) but not me. I’ve only ever been kind and loving to them. I actually work with kids and usually children are drawn to me. People used to joke I was a “kid magnet” because I always got on so well with them. But not these two. They seem to remember the tiniest things and hold onto them with such bitterness, which I didn’t even think was possible at that age. Honestly, I’ve never come across children so young with so much negativity, and I hate admitting it but I just really don’t like them.

I remember when they were building it fantasising about blowing it up. The monstrosity should never have been allowed. I take it you mean the parliament not house 😅

I don't live there but it's my favourite city.

NC for this. My BIL has recently got in touch expressing his feelings for me - which I had no clue about. Happily married for a number of years, but I think I’m secretly enjoying his confession and attention - but trying not to admit it 😬