DD cruelly dumped by BF

[OutbackQueen]

My 25 year old DD has recently been dumped in a very cruel way by her boyfriend. He did it once, said he’d made a terrible mistake, reeled her back in and then did it again.
She’s moved back in with me and is planning to go and live with a friend in London. I’m hurting for her and wrote this and want to send it to him. The only thing that’s stopping me is worrying that she might find out (although she’s blocked him on everything.)
It would make me feel better but is that just wanting revenge? Should I send it?

“She never knew him
The man who said he loved her
The man she thought would never hurt her
He knocked her down
Helped her up
And then did it again
He blamed her for it all
When she had done nothing
But give him her constant heart
She will never understand why
But one day, before too long
She will cease to care”

Completely agree.

If anything it'll make him think that he dodged a massive bullet - rather than experiencing shame and regret, he'll feel something like relief and derision. Your DD will not thank you.

My lovely Son had a long scathing text message from his EXGF Mother when they split. It was mainly because he started dating one of her friends. Problem was she had no idea her DD had cheated on DS and she ended up looking like a total dick. DS sent back a wonderful reply informing her of this and that he wished her DD well for the future. Not saying your DD has done anything wrong but getting involved in their relationships is just a massive no no. Stand back and support her, she will be fine soon enough and realise he was a massive dick.

Are you serious?!
FFS

You could report your own post and ask Mumsnet to delete it if you want to stop the comments. Or just click "unwatch thread" button in purple and you won't get any more notifications.

You don't deserve to feel bad for the thread at all.

So? He’s not here. And op said he dumped her once and then reeled her back in. On the other hand the OP was here and was getting pelters.

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Please, never send that,
whatever you do!!

He will love this. You’re feeding right into it. Leave it.

Agreed

Oh for heaven's sake. Keep quiet and mind your own business.

What is it with some people..

Sadly there is not an unsuitable for relationships register. Hope the said man is single for ever, sadly unlikely.

Just continue to support your DD as you are doing.

Well if this is true, then I’m sorry you’re upset. Please do ask to get the thread removed and maybe go and plan a nice treat for yourself and your daughter. Afternoon tea or a lovely lunch would be something to look forward to for both of you, maybe.

@OutbackQueen dont get upset, your clearly a good mum who wants the best for her kids. Go treat yourselves both to something nice today and put this whole ex business behind you - your daughter is moving on to bigger & better things, celebrate that shes not got knocked up or married to this prick.

Good grief. This could backfire spectacularly. If I received that, I would assume you were losing your marbles. He could easily contact her and say ‘Can you tell your batshit old dear to stop sending me poems, is she actually disturbed??’

I would also say you have no idea what went on in their relationship.

My toes are curling reading that. I broke up with a boyfriend in my late teens and his mother messaged me calling me a cunt. It’s weird. Stop.

I would get the thread deleted as well as it's only going to descend into the mire.

You've had 'robust' opinions, you've decided not to send it...and it has made you pause to consider your own motivation.
The thread has served its purpose...there's no need for it to stand. Being insulted and jeered at will not enhance anything useful. x

Don't send him that! For sooooo many reasons.

Better idea: write a beautiful letter to your daughter about how cherished she is and will have a great future (don't focus it kn finding a man though).

Have a nice day out with her - spa, shopping etc keep her upbeat.

Good luck.

She's an adult. Boundaries.

Oh! My love,
My heart is yearning,
My mouth is dry,
My soul is burning.
You're in Tunisia,
I am here.
Remember me and shed a tear.
Come back tanned and brown and healthy.
You're lucky that your dad is wealthy.

Adrian Mole circa 1982

Love Sue Townsend!

Write it on a piece of paper then set fire to it so all the hate goes (be careful though 🤯)

Are you fucking nuts?!! Sending that would be beyond psychotic

That's quite cringe OP. Don't send.

Do not send.
You weren’t in a relationship with him.

Christ, NO!!! I'd have died with utter embarrassment if I'd been 25 and my Mum had sent this to my boyfriend who'd dumped me!! I'd die with embarrassment now, at 50, if my Mum sent this!! I appreciate you want to give the boyfriend a rocket up the arse for hurting your daughter, but it's not your place to do this. I had a boyfriend many years ago who split with me, and then changed his mind and we got back together, only for him to dump me again. I was younger at 20 (nearly 21) and I was devastated because I truly loved him. Looking back, he didn't really know what he wanted, he was young, didn't know if he wanted to be tied up in a committed relationship at a young age. The best course of action for your daughter (and this is exactly the approach I took) is to cut contact. No calls, texts, meeting up etc. Not going to lie it was bloody hard, but for your daughter's sanity and mental wellbeing, this is best. If she doesn't, he'll keep coming back....Messing with her emotions. Your job is to support her emotionally, keep her mind occupied, encourage her to meet up with friends. Do not understand any circumstances sending messages to her boyfriend, it's not your job to involve yourself on that level.

Really not