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DD cruelly dumped by BF

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OutbackQueen · 13/09/2025 03:46

My 25 year old DD has recently been dumped in a very cruel way by her boyfriend. He did it once, said he’d made a terrible mistake, reeled her back in and then did it again.
She’s moved back in with me and is planning to go and live with a friend in London. I’m hurting for her and wrote this and want to send it to him. The only thing that’s stopping me is worrying that she might find out (although she’s blocked him on everything.)
It would make me feel better but is that just wanting revenge? Should I send it?

“She never knew him
The man who said he loved her
The man she thought would never hurt her
He knocked her down
Helped her up
And then did it again
He blamed her for it all
When she had done nothing
But give him her constant heart
She will never understand why
But one day, before too long
She will cease to care”

OP posts:
SkiAndTravelTheWorldWithMyDog · 19/09/2025 10:11

@ConnieHeart. OP feels like she should do something and manifestation doesn't work.

This way she feels like she has done something but there will be no harm to anyone.

It was a flippant suggestion.

Northernandproud89 · 19/09/2025 11:02

Jesus Christ! Don't send that! Even the words of your "poem" sound unhinged! And 1) Men like him simply don't give a shit (do you really expect him to read your prose and think "actually, yes you're right I'm a bastard. I'm sorry. Please forgive me"), and 2) you'll make yourself and your DD look absolutely bonkers (and she'll hate you for it)....

Allthefruit · 19/09/2025 11:06

Northernandproud89 · 19/09/2025 11:02

Jesus Christ! Don't send that! Even the words of your "poem" sound unhinged! And 1) Men like him simply don't give a shit (do you really expect him to read your prose and think "actually, yes you're right I'm a bastard. I'm sorry. Please forgive me"), and 2) you'll make yourself and your DD look absolutely bonkers (and she'll hate you for it)....

Edited

What's he done wrong? Ending a relationship you arent happy in is a kindness not a crime

Northernandproud89 · 19/09/2025 11:10

Allthefruit · 19/09/2025 11:06

What's he done wrong? Ending a relationship you arent happy in is a kindness not a crime

Yes, he was within his rights to end a relationship he wasn't happy in. I'm just saying that sending that poem isn't at all a good idea and won't have the effect OP hopes it will. At best, he'll get a good laugh out of it to show his mates, at worst he'll think the OP is insane and the DD will be mortified

Itsallsostressful · 19/09/2025 11:37

My fave....Just the right size....Wittard with matching teapot 😊

DD cruelly dumped by BF
ldnmusic87 · 19/09/2025 12:01

Oh god no, not a bad poem.

Millytante · 19/09/2025 12:10

Dear God, I’d never forgive you. What a ghastly notion.

Millytante · 19/09/2025 12:13

Facecloth · 14/09/2025 13:40

OP, focus on encouraging your daughter to read

Women who love too much by Robin Norwood
Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft

And the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

These will help her see clearly that he was a prick.

She should NEVER have taken him back after the first time he did it.

Education is power.
Help her feel empowered.

Mother of God, do NO SUCH THING.

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