DD cruelly dumped by BF

[OutbackQueen]

My 25 year old DD has recently been dumped in a very cruel way by her boyfriend. He did it once, said he’d made a terrible mistake, reeled her back in and then did it again.
She’s moved back in with me and is planning to go and live with a friend in London. I’m hurting for her and wrote this and want to send it to him. The only thing that’s stopping me is worrying that she might find out (although she’s blocked him on everything.)
It would make me feel better but is that just wanting revenge? Should I send it?

“She never knew him
The man who said he loved her
The man she thought would never hurt her
He knocked her down
Helped her up
And then did it again
He blamed her for it all
When she had done nothing
But give him her constant heart
She will never understand why
But one day, before too long
She will cease to care”

Please don’t! You’ll be the talk of him and his friends and it will back fire on your poor daughter that her mum sent a cringe poem! Keep it to yourself!

Don't send it, it would be incredibly embarrassing for your daughter. It sounds like she's handling the ending of her relationship very sensibly and is moving on with her life, please try to do the same. Her break up is not about you.

Oh dear sweet mother of god do not send that.

That is Keith J Furnival levels of awful (if you don't know, that is probably a good thing), PP are correct, it'll give him a laugh and he'd likely post it all over SM and these things have a way of getting back to the person you least want it to get back to.

Write down on paper - call him every shade of cunt you can think of - burn it/flush it.

Hell. No.
So glad you’ve seen sense.
Get a voodoo doll instead

If my ex’s mum sent me that I think I might actually piss myself from laughing so hard

Oh good grief woman do not send that message 👀

No, never, absolutely not, with love!

I've just gone down a Keith J Furnival wormhole and you're to blame, @WiddlinDiddlin ! 😄😱🤪

I’m resisting - I will not google, I so want to 🤣

Encourage and help her to live her very very best life. And to learn from the lesson/s this man is teaching her. THAT is the way to help her.

Not with bad poetry 🙄

He will just think he dodged a bullet not marrying into your family.

Do not send it. I'm struggling to think why you'd want to! It won't achieve anything.

God no, don’t. I have a daughter who’s now 28 and had two break ups that floored her, she’s now married to a fab bloke. She will recover, she will heal, I would say most women have had at least one very painful break up, it hurts.

I also have a son, who has broken up with two long term girlfriends and I also felt their pain. They are both fine too.

I would have been appalled if my mother had written a poem about my breakup . Especially one so twee.

Thanks God you’ve reflected and realised what a mistake this would be. On so many levels. I would be amazed if anyone were able to forgive their mum for sending that!

Bloody hell, no. Don't send it! It's cringeworthy.

What the fuck would you be trying to achieve? If you think he would suddenly have an epiphany, mend his ways and thank you profusely then think again. He wouldn't, you'd be a laughing stock and your daughter would be horrified/embarrassed.

Cut this piece of shit dead and be relieved that he is out of your daughter's life. He isn't worth the time of day.

Oh, go on - treat yourself.

I asked my 28 year old partner what he would do if he broke up with me then got this message from my mum… “I would laugh my ar s e off”

don’t send it, it’s a stupid idea to send it

Gosh, no.

I felt furious when a man hurt my beautiful lovely 21y old. I supported her and did not write poetry.

I can relate with your pain as another mother sent a little loopy over a man hurting my daughter in the past.

Don't send it though. Keep your dignity. This would be something else to hurt her with if he ever gets the chance.

Your daughter will get over it. Mine grieved the relationship for a whole year but she got there in the end and has a better life without him now.

OP, seriously, do you even need to ask? Your DD will become the subject of mockery - “ My twenty five year old ex-girlfriend’s Mummy sent me a poem when we broke up”…. OP, this really isn’t the way forward.

Crikey. She's 25. Not 15. I get it's awful but heartbreak is very much part of life.

I don't know a man/person on the planet that would read poetry from their exes mother and think "oh goodness I've made a mistake".

Keep your poetry for you in your phone or wherever and absolutely do not send anything at all to him if you value your relationship with your child.

oh good grief 🙈

If you value your relationship with your daughter at all, do not send her ex terrible poetry. Just why would it even occur to you that that would be a good idea? If you’d suggested a letter, I could at least see the logic - but something that is aspiring to be poetry but not quite making it?

God I am so glad you decided to delete that and not send it, that would’ve been… a choice 😰
As others have said, it isn’t about you. It’s bloody hard, I’m sure, to see your baby hurt but this is life. Sometimes it’s fantastic and sometimes it’s shit. Heartbreak happens to us all. Hopefully he’s hurt her so badly she won’t entertain him yet another time when/if he crawls back again!