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Turn your son in knowing it’s the death penalty?

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TaupeLemur · 12/09/2025 15:28

Kirk’s killer has apparently been turned in by his family - or persuaded to hand himself in.
Trump &’his supporters have been very vocal about getting the death penalty for the shooter.

would YOU hand your child over, knowing that the electric chair would be the likely outcome?

YANBU - I wouldn’t turn him in to die.

YABU - I would he’s a killer and deserves all he gets

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Goldenbear · 12/09/2025 19:07

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 19:00

I'm not British and I'm not comparing them to the labour party.

Well that's why I don't think they are left wing as my cultural references are left wing in UK growing up and the 'left' in a Nordic country where some of my extended family are from. Democrats don't have those socialist roots.

InterIgnis · 12/09/2025 19:07

SpidersAreShitheads · 12/09/2025 17:41

Absolutely.

And it did happen, back in June, when Democrat Melissa Hortman and others were assassinated.

Some Republicans initially blamed the left and said they were all violent, and then it transpired that the shooter was a Trump supporter - so then they tried to say he was actually innocent and just a plant.

This is the problem with Trump's politics and the US right now. And to a lesser extent over here too. It's hate politics.

The whole rhetoric is about who you hate, othering, and making sure your side "wins" - regardless of what the truth might be.

It's happening right across the whole spectrum, but Trump is the one who really ramped all of this up. His utter contempt for the truth and law is contagious.

There have been plenty of decent and principled Republicans and Tories over the years. I might not have agreed with them politically, but they were doing what they thought was the right thing. Nothing like it is now. Bullying, harassment, and abuse is the name of the game now, with no regard for transparency or truth.

And I think that creates this situation where shooters on both sides get riled up and start killing people. It's absolutely appalling. No one deserves to die, no matter what their views are.

The trouble is, we need grownups in charge who can attempt to take the heat out of the situation, and try and create a bit of unity. Trump ripped into the left in his speech about Charlie Kirk - this is the last thing that's needed right now. People need to be calmed, not whipped up further.

Everything is so very binary and tribal and I don't know how this gets fixed before it all explodes.

Indeed.

The problem is that the right wing have the advantage in that they’re better placed to control the narrative in a country that already leans to the right. ‘The left’ don’t have the luxury of acting like the right wingers that celebrated the Minnesota attacks when the narrative is that the left consists entirely of young, blue-haired radicals that want to kill everyone that disagrees with them. The optics are terrible.

It also doesn’t help that the Democratic Party is a mess at the moment. There’s no coherent vision for the future of the country, or message that appeals to the moderates that are needed to win elections. Instead you’ve got public infighting, purity spirals and doubling down on unpopular policies re immigration and trans rights. There may be infighting on the right, but they know how to strategize, and to unite when it matters.

Blueblell · 12/09/2025 19:08

I assume they did it because the alternative might have been a standoff where he and maybe other family members would be shot when they came to arrest him. He has actually just given someone else the death penalty presumably because he didn’t like his views. At least he will have a chance with the legal system.

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 19:10

JHound · 12/09/2025 19:05

That story was a damning indictment of the US mental health and US criminal justice. Apparently his mom and sister had begged for him to be locked up.

Kirk taking this and making it a diatribe against ALL black Americans says more about him.

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Could you point to where Charlie Kirk said ALL black Americans were in some way dangerous or something please

Dearnurse · 12/09/2025 19:11

Pregnancyquestion · 12/09/2025 19:06

But killing people is all fine in your books lol

I literally said that I didn't agree with what him being shot🙄 i don't believe that people should have guns at all let alone kill someone but if it was my child I would not hand them over .. I would also kill or die for anyone of my children.

Petrolitis · 12/09/2025 19:11

DriveVerySlowlyPastNumber23IWantThemToSeeMyHat · 12/09/2025 15:32

If all evidence is a definite that's him and he admits it, why shouldn't it be a death penalty?

Kirk's 2 children are now growing up without a Daddy.

If you think the perpetrator's death is a form of justice and actively call for it or even welcome it you are every bit as bad as him.

You also condone murder but you just want someone else to do it for you.

It means you are made of exactly the same moral fibre as him.

JHound · 12/09/2025 19:12

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 19:10

Could you point to where Charlie Kirk said ALL black Americans were in some way dangerous or something please

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Read and listen to his activity in the days before he lost his life to white on white violence.

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 19:13

JHound · 12/09/2025 19:12

Read and listen to his activity in the days before he lost his life to white on white violence.

Could you please give a quote?

Pregnancyquestion · 12/09/2025 19:15

Dearnurse · 12/09/2025 19:11

I literally said that I didn't agree with what him being shot🙄 i don't believe that people should have guns at all let alone kill someone but if it was my child I would not hand them over .. I would also kill or die for anyone of my children.

But what about the next person they kill? What if the next person they kill is your other child or your husband. There’s been mass shooters in the past whose ultimate goal is to themselves and their families. At what point would you turn them in?

Superhansrantowindsor · 12/09/2025 19:17

He was never going to get away with it. Turning himself in and pleading guilty may get him life imprisonment instead of death penalty. Going on the run would make it worse.
I do not agree with the death penalty at all. Thou shall not kill.

Butchyrestingface · 12/09/2025 19:18

MyLimeGuide · 12/09/2025 18:23

Interesting! Well you can imagine parents that raised such a monster would only be looking out for themselves all the way!

I wouldn't get too complacent. The pages of history are filled with the stories of decent parents who raised monsters unawares.

And it's not unheard of for the killer's family members to be the first victims.

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:18

It would be the hardest decision I have ever made but yes, I would turn my son in.

On what planet did that man think it was ok to kill CK? He apparently said he thought CK was ‘spreading hate’ but managed to convince himself that shooting him isn’t hateful?
If he disagreed with CK’s opinions so much, why didn’t he just go and debate him? That’s literally why he was there. You fight words with words (or silence if you prefer) never with violence.

DurinsBane · 12/09/2025 19:19

TaupeLemur · 12/09/2025 16:48

I feel like life is a lot cheaper in the US. 45k gun deaths and year, endless school shootings, police constantly shooting civilians, those ‘stand your ground’ laws in some States that
mean can kill someone and say you felt threatened, regardless if it’s true or not.

And yet a lot of Americans are scared to come to the UK because of stabbings in London!

Butchyrestingface · 12/09/2025 19:19

Superhansrantowindsor · 12/09/2025 19:17

He was never going to get away with it. Turning himself in and pleading guilty may get him life imprisonment instead of death penalty. Going on the run would make it worse.
I do not agree with the death penalty at all. Thou shall not kill.

I don't agree with the death penalty in principle, for anything, ever.

But I'm not convinced that a life sentence in a maximum security prison in the US is always the more merciful, just option.

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:20

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 19:13

Could you please give a quote?

Don’t ask for a quote because half of it (the actual context) will be conveniently missed off. I have seen that happen a lot. Including the quote about empathy.

Cherrytree86 · 12/09/2025 19:21

As if life in prison is better and preferable to death?! It’s not.

fruitypancake · 12/09/2025 19:22

No way

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 12/09/2025 19:22

I don't agree with the death penalty however I grew up in the UK so a totally different cultural mindset from the US and it is different. You can't judge what you would do if you were brought up in that climate of guns and death penalty and it is the combination, we can disagree with it all we like but we have totally different frames of reference. In the Americans I know they are mostly a lot more violent, not all out killing like this but just accept more violence than we would, children being physically chastised for example, it's a level of brutality that will never sit right with me. Like I say it's not all but it's definitely in the majority of the ones I know.

You can't know how you would react if you know that serious men with guns were out looking for your son and you know that they wouldn't hesitate to shoot.

lljkk · 12/09/2025 19:25

Is this a death penalty eligible offence in Utah?
I suspect not eligible, actually.
At least not supposed to be, but presumably the feds will try to take over and DoJ Will be instructed by Trump to find a way to make this specific murder a federal crime.

Under Utah law, I suspect ultimately penalty would be Life imprisonment for a single victim murder without specified aggravating circumstances, which circumstances are pre-specified in law, and might mean possibility of parole at parole board discretion (so would be never for TR).

apols if the eligibility was discussed, long thread.

giantpurplepeopleeater3 · 12/09/2025 19:27

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 18:41

This thread is seriously scary. People admitting they wouldn’t turn their son in, ok maybe for rape or child murder. I guess they’re fine if their daughter-in-law disappears.

Dont worry about my daughter in law. If she existed she'd be a massive pedophile anyway given the age of my DC.

RowanRed90 · 12/09/2025 19:29

PleaseGetBetter · 12/09/2025 15:33

Makes me laugh how all these “pro lifers” lose their beliefs when it comes to the death penalty.

I agree with this.

Thenortherncardinal · 12/09/2025 19:29

I think I might end my life if I've raised a killer. I know it doesn't help, but this way I will not have to worry about it.

StopRainingNow · 12/09/2025 19:30

The UK (and many other countries) do not extrasite if people face the death penalty. Do all those who think the DP is OK disagree with that? Because the UK government aren't even or parents....

JHound · 12/09/2025 19:31

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 19:18

It would be the hardest decision I have ever made but yes, I would turn my son in.

On what planet did that man think it was ok to kill CK? He apparently said he thought CK was ‘spreading hate’ but managed to convince himself that shooting him isn’t hateful?
If he disagreed with CK’s opinions so much, why didn’t he just go and debate him? That’s literally why he was there. You fight words with words (or silence if you prefer) never with violence.

Where did he say he though CK was “spreading hate”.

Waitingfordoggo · 12/09/2025 19:32

I don’t think I can answer the question because the situation is so far removed from anything I can imagine- largely because we don’t have the death penalty here. I can’t really know what it’s like to live in a country where the death penalty exists, or where people get shot all the time.

So I don’t feel I can answer the question because I just don’t know.

I think (and hope) I would turn my child in if they committed a murder here in the UK- but I can’t honesty say what I’d do if it happened.

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