Teacher not saying hello

[Hc1984]

My son has just started reception it's literally day 4. He only turned 4 on the 26th of August so he's the youngest in his class. We had a meeting with his teacher and head teacher before we made the decision to send him or wait till next year. They were very supportive and said he was ready from what they can see. He went to nursery 3 days a week at the school.

So he started along with his friends from nursery. But he has been crying every morning. The teacher hasn't even said morning once. He is taken from my from the teaching assistant. I understand the main teacher is busy and there are lots of partners and children, but she know my son is the youngest, we were worried about him starting and she hasn't even made the effort.

Am I wrong for emailing the school.

While I wouldn't email the school I do understand & think the teacher could just smile & acknowledge couple of kids that are upset especially after all the reassurance you got. It still very early days & he so young. id have left him back sounds like you could - but I know that's not usually the done thing in England! (am in Ireland where starting at 5 or closer to 5 has become the norm). Maybe you could drop email to teacher & just ask how she thinks he settling in?

They only posted what I was going to

why all the "lol"s? And do people still use that when 🤣🤣 are freely available?

Some parts of Mumsnet are very supportive but you posted in AIBU which is a bit less supportive on the whole, which I think you’ve found out the hard way.

Have you had a look at the Primary Education section which is usually a bit quieter but more supportive?

@Boleynmemories13

Here is the post I thought I was responding to yesterday and replied to you instead.

My only excuse is that I was very tired yesterday. Duh......😁

@Hc1984

How did it go this morning OP. Any better?
And did you email?

Hope your DS is feeling happier.

Honestly, no worries! We've all been there!

Yanbu op. At our school the teacher greets every child at the door with a warm welcome and hands over to the other teachers. Something like this would very much be taken on board if a parent brought it up. I have a big age gap between my two and it’s been years since my youngest has started at my older child’s school. The head stands at the gate and greets each and every child by name. The first day that my dd started I was shocked as she remembered my face and asked after my older one.
On the second day she greeted me by my name so she clearly went and looked it up. This is a private school though, so we do have high expectations of the parents
All aside, I do think a teacher should spend a little more time to make a very nervous 4yo settled, especially as she was aware of this.