To think promiscuous men should be shamed more?

[TheJoyOfWriting]

This, really. The whole body count discourse is the latest version of slut-shaming, as it's mostly aimed at women. Promiscuous men are still given status by other men and by women, too often.

The body count arguments that people use against women can be used against men just as easily. Promiscuous men are more likely to cheat. They are more likely to have STDs. They are more likely to have contributed to an 'oops' baby- it takes 2 to make one, and more likely to walk away after w no consequences.

Promiscuous men often dump women after pretending to be interested to get sex, esp on datjng apps, which fuel this kind of behaviour. Women tend to find ONSs less satisfying, often partly bc these kind of men often don't care about giving pleasure, just taking it.

The idea that a man's worth is measured by how many women he has sex with is very bad. It encourages men to treat women badly, and it fuels the incel culture by making men feel insecure & unmanly if they're not sexually successful.

Thoughts? I don't mean we should call Promiscuous men horrible names or talk about them like 'run through' or 'high mileage cars' the way some men do about promiscuous women. But I think they should be shamed more, by both men and women.

I don't think casual sex is bad per se, but I think the culture of it has got out of control, and Promiscuous men share a lot of the blame.

How does me shagging indicate a lack of respect? And how does it affect you? If you don’t want to be promiscuous, don’t be. No one will make you !

Why? Because you don’t agree with them?

No. They made a post which I replied to with a question and they replied the way they did. Not stable behaviour. You were the poster who talked about how much your life had been affected by supposed unspoken expectation you felt. You loved one of the most angry deranged posts on this thread, that's very telling. There is positivity out there if you can see it. Plenty on here are expressing no judgement on the sex lives of others, which also means no judgement on people who didnt sleep around.

I feel like you wrote your response stamping your feet and projected heavily 😅

You sound utterly unhinged.

Yep, that's exactly it :D I saw through their pretence at reasonableness, they were raging because I pointed out that normal people don't find sluttyness attractive, and they were desperate to try to draw me in to a pointless, burbling argument.

I shut them down, hard, but with perfectly calm, reasonable and sensible words and they reacted by stamping their feet and name calling and then projecting their own instability and rage onto me 😅

Raging? That's called projection 😁

So yeah, I say again I have always found slutty men gross and completlely unattractive, but I don't much care what they do as they don't directly impact me. I have always avoided them, right from my teenage years saw them as not good enough to date, and avoided accordingly.

They can do as they please, and obviously will anyway. Just make the right choice for yourself and don't worry too much about what other people are getting up to in the bedroom, providing it doesn't directly affect you, is my advice.

Still constantly harping on at me and still raging I see 😅😂😆

You just seem oddly angry about people who like to have sex with lots of different people…

No, I definitely don't :)

You're a bit obsessed with banging on at people who have opinions you don't like though ¯\(ツ)/¯

No she doesn’t. She just isn’t buying into casual sex thing. And she’s being condemned for it. Or even <gasps> shamed.

Cute picture. Are you 12?!

I’m not bothered what your opinion is, actually. Nobody is saying you need to find ‘slutty men’ attractive. Or that you need to like promiscuity.

Im just intrigued by your fairly aggressive delivery!

Where? I haven’t seen her being shamed.

Still harping on and sounded increasingly angry at a person who wrote perfectly calm words you didn't like. ¯\(ツ)/¯ Projection of the first order. ¯\(ツ)/¯

You’ve not written anything I don’t like! I’m not angry at you, lovely.

Lol, I think that was the hope - that they could engage with me enough to try to condemn and shame me. It didn't work though - stopped that nonsense dead in its tracks by making it clear I give no damns about their hurty feels.

And that's why they're raging now, because all they're left with is repeated adolescent attempted burns and insults.

In what way is she being shamed? Most people on here are not shaming other peoples choices. You should be pleased about that not giving support to one of the few who is shaming.

I feel like you wrote this reply stamping your feet, again 😅

Sooo anywayyy, OP please come back with your final thoughts 😆

So yeah, to sum up grossly slutty men can do as they like, and for all the reasons I explained, most women simply aren't interested in them.

Best to be avoided when possible really, and just get on with behaving like a normal person :)

I know mumsnet gives us a bit of a skewed view of men, but there are plenty of men who aren't grossly slutty out there for those with higher standards. Or any standards at all 😅

In fairness i don’t think anyone should be applauded for having sex within marriage.
Or applauded for not having sex out with marriage.

in fact, no applause is needed over anyone else’s sex life

Yeah I can't imagine why anyone would give a shit about something like this really? If it doesn't affect you what someone else does why would you care?

If women aren't interested in them how do they become 'slutty'. If they aren't lying then there must be quite a few women who fall for this sort of man. It may be they're the women who on here are happy to admit enjoying casual sex, whoever, it does seem that women do like these men.