Is this a shitty thing to do by DH

[Oscarsmom71]

Do just been out for a couple of drinks in large city centre.
Almost at train station to go home.
There is a road to cross with busy traffic and trams crossing.
DH sees traffic coming and runs across leaving me and makes it to the other side and turns around and laughs because he made it and I was left at the other side of the road.
He thinks it’s highly funny I didn’t make it.
So then I have to wait to cross when it’s safe.
DH can’t see why I’m upset. But to me it’s not caring. Not seeing if I cross safely.
To me he should’ve waited until I crossed safely not dash across and laugh at me.
For context also I had a nasty fall crossing a road once which he is aware of how long it took me to recover.

YABU for needing a paternal escort to cross the road.

Jesus Christ , lighten up , it was just a bit of fun , he got over to the opposite side & you didn’t , like when we were all teenagers ..
Adult couple’s can behave childishly sometimes , as in having a mess & it’s all good ! 😊

Can't see an issue here. He was mucking around, not being nasty to anyone.

My DH Would never have done this to me.
He would have made sure we could cross together.. but then he was a gentleman.
Yours sounds like an arsehole OP

I’ve got horrid hip and back pain, perimenopause related. My DH will do this when we get to roads. I can’t make a dash like I used to but sometimes he bolts over. He doesn’t laugh at me but I make him laugh when I’m stood still waiting to cross and flip him the finger. I’m not really arsed to be fair. Both adults.

My husband has always held my hand when we cross a round. It’s just something that I find really caring. Like protecting almost even though it is just holding my hand.

Mrs Bennet, though quite accustomed to her husband’s indifference, reflected that matrimony ought to resemble a military campaign in which one is not left to advance alone.

I find it interesting that some people find it protective whereas others (me!) would find it infantilising and patronising.

I do wonder if it's a generational thing.

So if you had to cross a road with a colleague with no pedestrian crossing, you'd be clinging to them crossing the road?!

Mrs Bennet, though quite accustomed to her husband’s indifference, reflected that matrimony ought to resemble a military campaign in which one is not left to advance alone.

Seriously? What if there’s no green man?

He just sounds a bit childish to me and you’re being a bit sensitive. I think you’re reading way too much into it. I’m 100% sure when I’ve been out I’ve crossed roads at different times to the people I’m with on occasion when we’ve obviously judged thinks differently/they’re faster/or whatever other reason. Am I bothered? No! As I’m responsible for myself, I don’t expect other people to be. Even my partner. Obviously if you were a child then yes out of order. Or if you have some form of disability, then yes he’s a dick. Otherwise non issue.
Sorry you had a fall, but as long as you’re recovered now I don’t think that should be something you need to focus on. Unless it’s caused you some anxiety etc

Ltb

Grow up

Op, are YOU 5 and unable to cross a road alone?

I dont know that it would be a deal breaker, but it would be hugely unattractive to me to be with someone so immature.

Totally, how immature needing a hand hold to cross the road!

If it was a colleague I'd of said that.... and who needs to cross roads with someone they work with? 😅. I meant more of if I'm with a friend and they want to cross before we reach a crossing... and did I say cling or did I say hold? There's a big difference so please do t twist what I'm saying to suit your weird narrative so you can try to shame me

I'm autistic so your not going to make me feel embarrassed or ashamed for having a fear of being run over 🤷‍♀️. I'm not embarrassed that I am careful when I cross roads

My partner does that all the time. It's annoying.

Not a Gentleman , cause he was messing around , ran over to opposite side of road before OP just having a laugh !
Do you know how ridiculous you sound …
I can’t believe the uptight Posts on here …
Next she’ll be advised to divorce him ..
People need to chill out here 😂

I would be annoyed. It is infantile.
Also not polite. If you are with someone,anyone you don't dash across the road leaving your companion behind. Even worse leaving your wife.
Just basic good manners.

Could be. Or may just what we are attracted to. I’m (unfortunately 😂😭) about to turn 40.
Even though I am definitely very capable of doing just about anything I put my mind to, I do find “manly” men more attractive. To be honest a Viking would be perfect for me 🤣

My husband would never behave like this. Your husband sound nasty.

She doesn’t sound ridiculous.

It's not that we need our hands holding to cross the road, it's the fact that our partners care enough about us to ensure nothing happens to us. That's what most women like, a caring loving partner!