To not want to cook for my sister and nephew when she comes over?

[Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar]

My sister lives in Australia with my nephew, soon to be 12.
She's coming over for a visit next month and obviously we spend as much time as possible with her while she's here.
Last time she came was Easter last year and I had everyone round my house for an Easter roast.
My mum is asking me to get everyone at mine together again for a roast as I have the biggest house and my roasts are "amazing" (they are, even if I do say so myself 😜) and she's told my sister that she's sure I will do this and sister is now looking forward to a "proper British roast". Great.

Last time she was here, she came into my kitchen while I was cooking, opened the oven while my YORKSHIRES were in there (!!!!) and put in a cheese and tomato pizza. She then gave this to her son because "he won't eat roasts".
This pizza was not discussed with me, she didn't ask if she could shove it in my oven and made no attempt to get nephew to join in and eat what the rest of us were eating. I then had to try and get my kids to eat their vegetables while their cousin is sat two feet away, chowing down on pizza.

I don't want pizzagate happening again, and I don't want nephew eating something my kids would rather be eating right in front if them (they like roasts, but it's PIZZA) but sister will insist its necessary because nephew is autistic.

I have suggested that he eat before he comes but sister says she doesn't want him excluded (neither do I)

I've suggested we all just have pizza but sister wants her "proper British roast" and I love cooking for everyone and giving my family food cooked with love.

What to do?

Well if it did it would teach the sister a lesson wouldn’t it…

Well it would be the nephew who suffered, not the sister, as he’d have nothing to eat.

@Chobby

OP would likely have another pizza in the freezer

OP has already said that her sister brought a specific type of pizza as that’s the only one he will eat.

a family member, my sister no less? travelling over from Australia with their child to visit?

Hell I’d be bending over backwards to serve up whatever they like; to make them feel as happy and welcome as possible and putting up them opening oven and impacting my Yorkies.

So unreasonable. Yes your sister should have asked you to cook the pizza but it sounds like she knew you wouldn’t be receptive. You should accommodate your guest’s diet especially with it’s a child with special needs. I think you need to relax and be more tolerant.

my autistic dd is 13 and much better with food but we had years and years of restrictive eating. Every single host was tolerant and accommodating.

I wonder if your mother is stirring up trouble here by making out your sister is making demands re you serving a roast @Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar

I think that people are missing the point of this. The woman OPENED AN OVEN WHILST RHE YORKSHIRES WERE IN.

Letting all the heat out. She might as well have had a poo directly into OP’s kettle.

Pound to a penny that nephew isn’t autistic he’s a burgeoning psychopath. OP shouldn’t let either of them in the house let alone cook for them.

No we get it.

We just think it could maybe be handled by saying something like: "please don't open the oven when the yorkshire puddings are in there. Let's get a plan for when to put the pizza in as I've only got x ovens."

Instead we've got refusals to host her on a rare visit, pooing in kettles and all sorts of other hyperbolic reaction.

If a stranger opened my oven door when the yorkies were in, the drama would be justified.

My own sister, who I don’t see very often? An eye roll and a ffs. I’d tell her in the moment, “Dude, that was a psychopathic act of war and it’s a good job I love you both dearly.”

It’s not ‘trying to be funny post on Mumsnet’-worthy.

These family gatherings at the OP’s? Shudder. Imagine all the side looks, rolled eyes, under breath mutterings.

The sister, all the way from Australia, was so sweet to actually buy and bring the pizza her son likes so as not to put out the OP.

but nope…. The OP gets in an arse with her

ah…. Just seen the other threads started by this OP.

enough said 😆

I'm not sure she brought the pizza all the way from australia....

Scared shitless?

No, but she actually sought out a shop stocking the specific pizza her ND son eats and bought it. Presumably with one objective - to save the OP the hassle

my only issue here would be ruining the Yorkshire puddings! Either give all the kids pizza or ask your sister in advance what your nephew would eat and be supportive - sometimes a roast can be remade into a chicken sandwich that he might eat?

I have Yorkshire puddings with anything I can, bloomin love them. Also have mint sauce with anything I have gravy on. In my defence… I was dragged up.

Just seen the other thread that the OP @Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar started about one of her other sisters!! Cripes - it’s all a bit Eastenders

Have you dropped your sister @Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar a message in advance of her arrival to say “don’t worry bringing DS’ pizza brand, I have it ready and waiting for him! Looking forward to having you both over and yes…. I’ll be serving up a roast!”

That is what I’d do.

I somehow don’t think you have or will though

I wonder whether the yorkies survived? @Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar any update?!