To not want to cook for my sister and nephew when she comes over?

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My sister lives in Australia with my nephew, soon to be 12.
She's coming over for a visit next month and obviously we spend as much time as possible with her while she's here.
Last time she came was Easter last year and I had everyone round my house for an Easter roast.
My mum is asking me to get everyone at mine together again for a roast as I have the biggest house and my roasts are "amazing" (they are, even if I do say so myself 😜) and she's told my sister that she's sure I will do this and sister is now looking forward to a "proper British roast". Great.

Last time she was here, she came into my kitchen while I was cooking, opened the oven while my YORKSHIRES were in there (!!!!) and put in a cheese and tomato pizza. She then gave this to her son because "he won't eat roasts".
This pizza was not discussed with me, she didn't ask if she could shove it in my oven and made no attempt to get nephew to join in and eat what the rest of us were eating. I then had to try and get my kids to eat their vegetables while their cousin is sat two feet away, chowing down on pizza.

I don't want pizzagate happening again, and I don't want nephew eating something my kids would rather be eating right in front if them (they like roasts, but it's PIZZA) but sister will insist its necessary because nephew is autistic.

I have suggested that he eat before he comes but sister says she doesn't want him excluded (neither do I)

I've suggested we all just have pizza but sister wants her "proper British roast" and I love cooking for everyone and giving my family food cooked with love.

What to do?

I think you’re making a big deal out of nothing. Not all kids like a roast dinner and you said yourself you were forcing your kids to eat their vegetables. Make it a good meal for everyone and just give all the kids pizza. I’d even set up a table for them and make it more special

Definitely not OP, because you say so?

What updates? Surely the meal had to take place before updates are received.

It’s just OP stating she’s right, blah blah.

You're seriously still going? I reported you yesterday and I guess I'll do it again now.

MN has strict rules about name changing during a thread – it's not allowed. I'm not the OP.

Jesus.

OP, don't you like your nephew? If he is indeed autistic, then he may have been struggling with many aspects of the trip, and just needed a familiar meal.

You sound quite mean.

Every one still ate your bloody 4am lamb but you're holding a grudge over a child, your nephew, wanting comfort food?

Bloody hell. I despair

This ! And in fact order the pizza in and then you dont have to do extra work
Also she was BU to open the oven when the Yorkshires were in !

Christ there's more of you with that mindset

I know.
Tell us you don't know anything about autism without telling us you don't know anything about autism.

To be fair, there are going to be lots of people out there who have never come across autism or had to consider it, either in their personal or working lives.
They believe what they're saying. "In OUR family..."
They don't understand how little they know.

I talked about the OPs on other threads who don't bother to engage or provide updates. OP is definitely engaging with her detractors, even if you aren't happy with her responses. Updates can also mean providing further details or clarification on her previous posts, not just new information.

I clearly missed that bit didn't I? Not many people start a roast that early apart from maybe Christmas day if they have their Christmas dinner earlier.

If there was ever an entitled post this would be it 🙄 scoffs at the thought a 12 year old knows what he likes and doesn't like oh the hypocrisy. Shame shame of it all

@Tweetytweet81

eh?? ‘Contamination’?

😂😂😂😂

Ask all the kids in advance what they want then cook a roast and shove a pizza in too.
minimise the drama. it's only one meal. Good luck! x
ps keep sis out the kitchen with a cocktail and extra love!

All the way from Australia, haven't seen them in 18 months and you begrudge your autistic nephew a pizza in your oven. Get a grip..

I lit a candle in Church this morning, for OPs Yorkshire Puddings … thoughts and prayers

...lest they be compromised.

The pizza touching other food.

Pizza for the children. Ban anyone from the kitchen until you are ready to serve. Have a big of glass of wine with your meal. Make them sort out the washing up and putting dishes away. Put your feet up!

A bit off-topic, but this reminds me of a coach trip holiday I went on with my mum about 3 years ago to Italy...
On this trip was an older couple and their grandson, who was also about 12.
It turned out he didn't like pizza, or pasta. I'm sorry? Why on earth did you bring him to Italy then?!
We ended up having most of our meals as a big group, and watching this old couple attempt to negotiate foreign menus, stony-faced Italian waiters, paying extra because he'd have to eat off-menu, combined with their sullen-faced pre-teen, was really irritating. Fairly quickly the group ended up splitting off into smaller groups anyway, so my mum and I just made sure we weren't in their group. ;)
He seemed to spend most of the week just eating bread.

The pointless hostility to the OP is really mumsnet at its worst.

Why can’t you do a roast for the adults and chuck a couple of pizzas in for all the kids? The kids get to have pizza with their cousin and you get to make a roast dinner for your sister. It’s not like this is every weekend, I presume it’s a couple of times a year if that.