Woman shouted because Dd wee’d in the car park

[Hetoldherthatmagicdoesntexist]

Dd, 6 and I were at the supermarket today
We were in a rush, had walked all the way back to car, I was struggling with three large bags, putting them in the boot.
Dd was moaning and difficult most of the day, she said she was desperate for the toilet. I said to just wait a moment as I had to put the bags in etc and we’d go back. She started getting upset saying she was really desperate and about to wee and could she wee by our car quickly. I let her.
As I was fastening her car seat, an older woman walked past and shouted’There are loos inside you know!’ in not a very nice way. I shouted back ‘Excuse me?’ She said she was just saying there were loos inside that can be used (again, it wasn’t said in a nice way’ I said to her ‘She’s 6 years and was desperate and couldn’t hold it in, she’s 6!’ She pulled a face and got in her car.
Dd was upset and asked if she’d done something wrong and felt scared of the mean lady.

It really pissed me off, was I out of order??

My favourite posts!!

op: am I the prick here?
majority: yes
op: yea but no but

🤣🤣🤣

Hilarious! Can't say I've noticed many dog walkers carrying around bottles of water to wash away their dog wee from garden fences, brick walls, and car park floors.

Who cares about your circumstances?
it’s a public place and you don’t expect people to be pissing there.

It's an awkward situation, I admit to taking DS to the far corner of a car park and telling him to point it down the drain, at a similar age. We were in the middle of a long drive and the plan was to stop at the next Little Chef which we knew was not to much further, but he was getting distressed about not being able to hold it, so needs must.

So I have some empathy with the situation, but not that you let her do it in the actual parking spaces. Someone is going to tread in it.

As others have said, if it's a regular occurrence then it needs dealing with. Either take her to the Dr or encourage her to use a loo regularly when you are out. Long term, I think this is counterproductive, if you keep going regularly then you never build up the ability to hold it. But as six she should be able to hold for a reasonable length of time.

My ds had an irritable bladder and was medicated for it but we were often caught short even just after using a toilet. I would always shield him with a coat and we would always try to get to a toilet or behind a bush.

A complete non issue for me. Kids gets caught out - big deal.

Well I think the woman was wrong to say something to you because she couldn’t have known if your child had additional needs etc (my Ds has complex needs and was in nappies until 5/6) but I think if your child doesn’t have additional needs then really they should be able to hold a wee at 6 until they get to a toilet, especially in a shopping centre type place where there are lots.

But then I think people are generally quite squeamish about incontinence in general - which I’ve found since having it myself after being diagnosed with a severe bladder issue. People make all kinds of assumptions and have utter disgust for anyone who uses pads / can’t always make the toilet in time etc etc. It makes life very difficult for people like me.

Sadly this happened to a girl at my school! She weed herself in her seat. Sometimes you just can't hold it in!

She's 6, not a newly potty trained toddler. She is too old to just pee wherever.

Raise your standards @Hetoldherthatmagicdoesntexist

Yabu to be annoyed that someone informed you that there is a toilet in the store when they saw your child pissing in the car park.

Why did you not go to the toilets in the shop before going to the car park? I wouldn't let a six year old wee in public.

At 6 she must have just gone into yr 2. That’s far too old for this sort of thing unless there is some kind of medical reason why she can’t wait. By this age she’s been in school long enough to learn to wait a little while. Maybe she needs to learn to tell you sooner that she needs a wee so it doesn’t become so urgent. If she genuinely cannot wait and it comes on all of a sudden, I’d consider seeing a doctor. This isn’t really normal for a 6 year old. This is the kind of thing potty training toddlers do.

YABU - you gave her permission to wee in a car park! I wouldn't say anything but I'd be thinking the same thing. I find it inappropriate and grim for all.
I have a 5 yr old and would expect to wait a couple minutes to run back and use the loo. Of course accidents can happen but I wouldn't be telling him to basically pull his pants down and do it in public.

There were toilets available. In the shopping centre. But the op couldn’t be arsed to go back.

You were under pressure and so I think you understandly did what you had to do to get through that moment and I don't think it's nice to shout at or embarrass a child.

But equally I don't want to walk through human wee. Imagine parking up next to your car two seconds later and getting out in potentially some nice new shoes! I would have less of an issue with it in a bush 😂

Gross. No excuse. There was literally a toilet in the supermarket.

Imagine school friend had seen her!

Yes dd dod do wrong and it was your fault

You made it 'her business' when you allowed your six year old to wee in public.

Disgusting. 6 is old enough to know better. Walk back in and use the toilets ffs. And it doesn’t sound like the woman was mean- people just don’t think they should ever be held to account for anything.

She'll need to go back in pull ups while you're out if you parent like this. Medical issues, which I suspect there aren't, notwithstanding.

Wow I am shocked to read the reaction of so many of you on here. The child is 6yrs of age she has been made feel wrong and you are slating OP like she is the worst mother in the world for letting her daughter per in a carpark when she was busting to go. How many dogs, cats, foxes etc. a lot of grown men sorry to stereotype but usually is have pissed all over the place and no one says anything but a child pees in a carpark and it’s the most disgusting thing as we all have to now walk in it, do you all honestly think you are not walking around on the footpaths all day or in the parks and are not walking in some piss. With all that is happening day in day out with children this Mum is been made feel like she is terrible cause her child needed a wee in a carpark honestly get a grasp and get worked up about the more serious going ons in life.

Well clearly this isn’t the case and not relevant to the OP.

This thread does not disappoint - peak mumsnet 😂

You should have taken her to the damn bathroom. 🙄

Is it a full moon or something?