How much would you expect to spend weekly if your DH earned this?

[Righan]

DH earns around 170k.

I gave up work (well paid also, around 80k) to look after dc. I was used to spending what I wanted when I was working.

i have access to the money, that’s not the issue.

I spend around 250 a week for me a one dc for our activities, getting my hair done (not every week for that but an example), nails, lunch, soft play, farms, zoo, or whatever. Our other expenses like food and petrol are on top of this. We do online shop.

DH can’t understand how I get through this and wants me to rein it in. I think it’s hugely stingy given his income. We are comfortable. AIBU? We only really see him at weekends and part of me feels he should have no say in what we do to get through the week!!

I think that is a lot, you could easily spend £100 less a week and still have a great time.

I just want to know what jobs all the commenters do to be earning these salaries.

No not excessive at all!!! Sorry you needed to make this post for clarification sweetie. If DH has an issue, suggest him paying for nursery fees as the alternative. What world the rest of the commenters live in I would like to know. Softplay with lunch is already £30 dependent on location. If you live in London, you can’t step over your threshold without spending £50 in a day. You made a financial sacrifice and I’m sure it was discussed prior to starting a family. Continue as you were x

No, it is not that much and when I think about how much your husband pay in taxes is nothing. I would regret paying so much in taxes and not being able to enjoy life.

I'm still reeling at how someone manages to keep an £80k a year job when they can't even understand how tax and NI works 😂 probably 35% of his £170K will be wiped out. By the way, I raised my son for 5 years and paid a £400-600 a month mortgage on what you spend on hair, nails and days out. Wind your neck in, Spendzilla.

Yes but if your child was at nursery, you would ne worming

What is your mortgage? Council tax? What is being paid into both your pensions? Really hard to give an answer without knowing this.

If he were to pay for nursery, OP would be able to work and bring in a wage too. And presumably OP would be paying towards the nursery costs and the household bills.

Of course it’s easy to spend £1000 a month if you’re blowing money doing expensive things every day. I think that things that used to be a weekly or monthly treat for children (like soft play or the zoo) are now seen by some as daily run-of-the-mill activities. They believe that children must be doing something exciting every day, like a permanent holiday.

Presumably, you only see him at weekends because he is working hard to bring in that wage?!! Can't have it both ways sorry either he is 'absent' and earns the high wage for you all to enjoy the lifestyle or he works less and you rein it in.

Law, private medicine, dentistry, sales, marketing, IT, consultancy, accountancy, banking, HR, business owners. There are loads of well paid fields.

Of course he should have a say?! It’s family money if nothing else.

you don’t need to do multiple days out a week with a pre schooler. They enjoy so much stuff that doesn’t cost much.

suppose it depends how old your DK are and what other debt or spending there is. Mortgages have gone up a lot in the last few years. If you feel you’ve lost control you could always get a job? Either way the OP wanting to spend £13k a year is OTT.