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Sacked because of a spoon - aibu?

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SackedByaSpoon · 03/09/2025 11:09

I have been working as a private Housekeeper for several years now for an elderly lady with two sons.

Part of that role was driving her to her medical appointments. She had one early yesterday morning and because the timing was tight, I took my breakfast with me to eat while she was in her appointment. When I got to the house, I realised I'd left my spoon at home and asked her if I could borrow one. She was fine with me taking one to use.

I totally forgot about it in my lunch box and realised last night when I got home and took it out to wash. Popped the spoon through the dishwasher too, and put it in my handbag to return today.

The youngest son was in the house when I got there today and immediately accused me of hiding his mum's watch to see if anyone noticed. (Which is worth a lot of money.) She'd worn it to her appointment and back home so I knew it was somewhere, and found it quite quickly in her bedroom on the floor between her bed and bedside table. (Son has in the past "joked" about me using up his inheritance by working there)

I just want to be absolutely clear here - I have never taken a single thing from this house that wasn't given directly to me like small gifts for birthday and Christmas. I could probably have made hundreds in the time I've been there by taking random "lost" coins and small notes but I always put them into the tray, with notes going under a magnet on the fridge. I've worked in other houses too, some of UHNW, and never once been accused of taking something. My references are impeccable.

With the watch found, I went to start my normal jobs - I always take my rings off and put them in my purse. Went to do that and realised the spoon was in my bag so went to put it back (it was in a food bag, not swimming around in my handbag naked)

Son went absolutely mental, to the point he frightened me, screaming and shouting about how I'm trying to steal stuff and I can't be trusted. Eileen (not her real name) was frightened too, and crying and I was doing my best to calm the situation because I was quite honest properly scared. He's a big man and the house is on its own in acres of grounds.

He told me to get out, that he doesn't want to see me again and that I'm a nasty scrounger trying to rob his mum. I left over an hour ago and I'm still incredibly shaken by the entire thing... I've never been spoken to like that before, not once, and I keep thinking about him storming towards me and being so angry.

I have no idea what to do next... I don't know if I should go back tomorrow or what to do.

OP posts:
WaitWhatWhatWait · 20/09/2025 14:23

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 13:04

I like how mumsnet cancel my post for admonishing a foul mouthed rant by a stranger, but leave the foul mouthed rant online.
Nice one, NOT!

It's not your fucking job to fucking admonish anyone on here @Suecee15. It's not against fucking guidelines to swear, it is to think you're judge and jury of a thread.

(I know I'm being foul mouthed, so apologies to all for that - being slightly facetious. But I'm not ranting).

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 14:56

You're showing your biggot

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 14:56

You're showing your biggot

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/09/2025 14:59

She's really not. What has bigotry got to do with anything?

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 15:00

It wasnt as putrid as your reply.
I dint stoop so low to strangers, and never to people I know!
All the best and may all your posts blow in the ether

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/09/2025 15:04

What was putrid? I am really baffled as to how explaining what an acronym means is either foul mouthed or putrid (or bigoted for that matter).

I do agree it's probably a good idea if you step away from the internet for a while. Best of luck to you.

WaitWhatWhatWait · 20/09/2025 15:55

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 14:56

You're showing your biggot

Who owns the bigot? And what are they showing them?

ParmaVioletTea · 20/09/2025 18:15

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 13:04

I like how mumsnet cancel my post for admonishing a foul mouthed rant by a stranger, but leave the foul mouthed rant online.
Nice one, NOT!

We’re allowed to swear here and in AIBU it’s almost fucking compulsory.

ParmaVioletTea · 20/09/2025 18:18

I wish we still had the laughing reaction button Grin

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/09/2025 19:07

Me too, so very fucking much!

Eddielizzard · 21/09/2025 07:57

That took a weird turn

MinnieMountain · 21/09/2025 09:18

We say cunt on here as well @Suecee15 . I always thought the F in RTFT stands for “fucking”.

Ratafia · 21/09/2025 09:23

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 13:04

I like how mumsnet cancel my post for admonishing a foul mouthed rant by a stranger, but leave the foul mouthed rant online.
Nice one, NOT!

I love how a perfectly polite post with one single "fucking" in it becomes a"foul-mouthed rant". Pure tabloidese.

ParmaVioletTea · 21/09/2025 11:37

Ooooo I’m going to report your Post @Ratafia so obscene

EdnaBeveridge · 21/09/2025 12:19

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 14:56

You're showing your biggot

What the fuckity fuck does that mean?

Bathingforest · 21/09/2025 14:43

Glad my old pal in destiny has got the good son's help and moved over ...you op did great

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