My DP is going through some stressful life events at the moment. His child’s mother has decided to move abroad and DSD is with us. She’s obviously upset but she loves being here and we love her being here too.
DP is woeful with money. He regularly spends all his wages on hobbies, takeaways etc. recently I’ve had to pay the mortgage alone. He just wastes it.
Anyway, he’s not been paid in full for July as he took unpaid leave. He got about £1000 and I didn’t see a penny of it. Spent on shit.
I’ve paid for food, DSD nursery, bills, mortgage, dinners out for us, days out for DSD, a weekend away (already booked before all this) with DP and DSD. I’ve spent thousands in July. This was with the understanding that August pay would be back to normal for him.
He told me he’d get his pay check in full today.
He received £350 only.
I said what are we going to do this month? He said, well the same as last month.
I am furious. I will now have to use my savings, and pay for everything again.
DP has said I’ve “got an attitude”, and that my tone was “kicking him when he’s down” when everything’s going on for him.
He said I need to “pick my moments to bring it up”, as it’s pulled him right back down into depression.
He said he doesn’t have time to do his hobby now as he’s struggling financially. He said he thought I didn’t care about money - I don’t, but I’m not a bank?
He is stressed, I get it. But some forethought would help!