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The man I’m dating doesn’t wash his hands after using the toilet

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michaelsnores · 01/09/2025 08:55

The man I've been seeing for the past few months has started staying at my house more often lately. My house isn't big, and the bathroom is right next to my bedroom, so you can hear the tap running. He was over this weekend, and I noticed a few times that he didn't wash his hands after using the toilet. I brought it up to him, thinking he just didn't realise, but he insisted he didn't need to and that it's different for men. I told him, "You're still touching the toilet seat etc," and even showed him a screenshot from Google.

He was pretty firm about not needing to wash his hands, so I just said, "Please do it while you're at my house since you're touching me and my stuff afterwards," and he agreed to that. I know he won’t be doing it whilst he’s at home or out and about though.

I’m not sure if it’s dump worthy, but it is a little grim, yes? He genuinely doesn’t think he needs to.

OP posts:
TheLastOfTheMohicans · 07/09/2025 09:18

JHound · 01/09/2025 09:50

He did not even wipe his arse?

There is always the curtain

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/09/2025 09:45

So you dumped him @michaelsnores?

arggggg · 07/09/2025 10:33

My husband developed skin issues and put it down to washing products. After trying lots of different ones, none helped / were OK. Now he does not wash his hands. Gives me the ick. Not sure what to do….

CalzoneOnLegs · 07/09/2025 20:30

arggggg · 07/09/2025 10:33

My husband developed skin issues and put it down to washing products. After trying lots of different ones, none helped / were OK. Now he does not wash his hands. Gives me the ick. Not sure what to do….

E45 have a handwash perhaps he could try that

BigBoxOfBees · 08/09/2025 20:06

Feral.

Maybe show him this thread, he’ll either be massively embarrassed and amend his behaviour or you know it’s time to move on.

Salyexley · 30/12/2025 12:25

In UK once you start having relations it's no longer dating, learn what dating is. If you are having sex it's a relationship

The13thFairy · 30/12/2025 14:12

whoboo · 07/09/2025 07:20

That is a bit over and above tbf

Edited

I don't shake hands any more. Enough people are mucky to make it not worth the risk.

taxguru · 30/12/2025 15:34

The13thFairy · 30/12/2025 14:12

I don't shake hands any more. Enough people are mucky to make it not worth the risk.

Ditto. I don't "hug" anyone other than closest family either. So many people are grim with really poor personal hygiene etc.

YourDearCat · 30/12/2025 17:38

No excuse. Give him the boot.

Woodfiresareamazing · 16/01/2026 17:32

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 01/09/2025 10:15

I've just Googled "temple garments".
The mind boggles.

Now I've got to!

Woodfiresareamazing · 16/01/2026 17:34

michaelsnores · 01/09/2025 08:55

The man I've been seeing for the past few months has started staying at my house more often lately. My house isn't big, and the bathroom is right next to my bedroom, so you can hear the tap running. He was over this weekend, and I noticed a few times that he didn't wash his hands after using the toilet. I brought it up to him, thinking he just didn't realise, but he insisted he didn't need to and that it's different for men. I told him, "You're still touching the toilet seat etc," and even showed him a screenshot from Google.

He was pretty firm about not needing to wash his hands, so I just said, "Please do it while you're at my house since you're touching me and my stuff afterwards," and he agreed to that. I know he won’t be doing it whilst he’s at home or out and about though.

I’m not sure if it’s dump worthy, but it is a little grim, yes? He genuinely doesn’t think he needs to.

What Google screenshot did you show him?!

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