Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

If she asks tell her to get lost and move your car into the middle of the drive to insure no sneaky parking

Double post

You read how the NDD has treated the op and you would still let them park on your drive? The NDD ignored the OP two weeks ago when she said hello - she would have know 2 weeks ago she was having a party and could have Been polite then but she wasn’t

Tye NDN has cut her own nose off by being a CF and now she needs a favour she’s lost any goodwill.

Play stupid games win stupid prizes as she’s finding out .

I’d probably park my car diagonally across my drive just because I can

Put bollards up 😂

She definitely won't ask you. But I'd make a point of parking on the road across my driveway until 6pm when DH is home just so she cant be so cheeky as to direct someone there without asking.

I wasn’t there to see the interaction. Maybe the neighbour didn’t hear the OP, maybe the neighbour didn’t think the OP would be interested in a FB street group (I would rather stick pins in my eyes and I like my neighbours).

If I wanted to be part of a street group I would ask to join, like an adult. I asked to join my street whatsapp group because its useful. I have no interest in FB/IG groups. I didn’t sit and post to MN feeling slighted at the lack of a personal invitation.

And this is all irrelevant as the OP doesn’t have the space on her drive so a simple “soz, won’t have the space that day” would suffice.

Honestly they are just neighbours. Like colleagues and in-laws you just need a cordial working relationship with them, if anything more arises over time then its a bonus.

If she wants to use your driveway charge her rent money to do so. Money received can contribute to the maintenance of your driveway. Your neighbour is the cheekiest cheeky fucker! Don’t be a doormat!

I just wouldn't give her an answer. If pushed, I'd say no and I would tell her why I was saying no!

"The drive can only accommodate 2 cars."
When your OH goes to work, park your car in such a way that nothing else can get onto your drive anyway - just in case. You can move it back for 6pm for your husband to park.

Doesn't matter if is a big or small request. It is the NDN who is now learning you cant treat people like shite and expect them to be thrilled when you deign to ask something of them.

It is her own nose she has cut off, not OP's

Arf, say yes and be done with it.

Plus if she says bad stuff about you after that…people won’t rally.

Why should OP be a doormat? Especially to someone who has snubbed her? 😵‍💫😵‍💫

Because that is way too much caring for that snobber. If she falls down to the snobber level, what good is it bringing her?

I would understand the strong desire to snub back for something a little bit bigger that she spoke wrong of her. These things happen, let it go and move to higher ground. The air smell less shitty 💩💩💩

I would say “you have blanked me all this time and now you want to use my driveway?’

So room for one car until 6pm? Assume side by side so won't block you in?

To be honest I'd wait for her to ask me directly (important!) then probably say yes, because it may be one day you need a favour from her. It also makes you the bigger person. Ignore everything else.

If you really believe in karma do you think by being petty you will get good karma or bad?

OP life is short. I always aim to be the better person.

I agree with this. Look her dead in the eye and say you’re asking me for a favour, really?’

I can’t believe how many people think rolling over like a doormat = being the bigger person.

Nope - treat people the way they treat you. That’s not petty it’s matching energy.

Neighbour doesn't sound the sort to create a peaceful existence regardless. I'm in and out all day working from home and would not want to/or have the time to be moving other people's cars. Neighbour is a bully. If the OP doesn't want to share her drive she just says no.

OP doesn't need to "move" to any ground, she just needs to maintain the bar she has set for herself.

Which is not to be a walkover.

The op will decide and not you I believe ;)

Have a good day!

These things happen, let it go and move to higher ground.

Says you - who told her to do this

Let’s hope she doesn’t choose your option .. you can be a doormat in your life - don’t expect everyone else to be too. I suspect you’re the neighbour 😉

Just to point out the obvious .. where irl do neighbours visitors actually park on other peoples drives?? They park on the street, around corners .. anywhere - but not on other peoples drives 🤷‍♀️ So why does OP’s neighbour need a drive space for visitors? 😵‍💫

As the OP said this on 01/09 appears she’s already made her decision - the correct one imo

If she asks I will tell her it's not convenient and leave it at that.
In not going to go out of my way to be nasty to her and confront her about excluding me from the Facebook group ignoring me, but I won't be helping her or doing her any favours.
Being neighbourly works both ways.