Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

[cheeryi]

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

Is there room for only one car (yours) on the drive? If so, does she expect you to park it somewhere else for the duration of the party?

This. Simply: "It doesn't work for me"

Gossips about you, causes tension, excludes you and now you should do something nice for her to repair the relationship / be the bigger person / be nice?
Fuck that shit.
I would say no for no other reason than I dont reward people who treat me like shit.

Firm no, she can park on the road like everyone else. Agree with pp, she will start using your drive regularly, without your permission - and make YOU out to be the bad person if you then speak to her about it. It’s how people like this operate.

It costs you nothing and might make her think twice about her position / opinion of you. On that basis I'd say yes to the request

If it didn't affect me I would let her after years of fighting with a neighbour it is not worth it and I would do anything to not end up in that situation again

Maintain the moral highground and agree.

What a CF. Say no sorry her guests her probs.

Have to admit I came home last night and not my direct neighbours but their friends a few doors down were having a party. I live on a private road. Their guests were all parked on the private road me and my 2 neighbours pay to maintain rather than park on the actual.road where there is ample space to park. I had no where to park. I ended up boxing one of their visitors cars in. Complete AHs some people!

Aye for 50 quid.

How well would someone burn after being dunked in the pond ?
(Askin' for a friend who has a Matthew Hopkins project going on )

They’d steam to death?

Likely make her think op is a door mat who is beneath her most likely!

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

So has she actually asked you then? If not, there's nothing to decide.

I’d call NDN out

So, you’ve been actively ignoring me for ages, didn’t include me on street FB page and now you want to use my drive - do you not see how I might have an issue with that?

If she apologised I’d allow it, but be mindful that she’ll use your drive then go back to ignoring you.

I think say yes this time @cheeryi and make a point it’s a favour as it’s a special circumstance. You could request to join the FB group before you reply about the space 🤨

In all seriousness, I think it is worth extending the olive branch here for the sake of peaceful coexistence. You could ask her to leave keys in case you need to go out/swap cars about?

You could have some fun with this “oh, some other neighbours mentioned you asking about driveways on some what’s app group? Shame I don’t appear to be on it or I could have also agreed. However i have arranged for a friend to come over that day so they’ll be using the space”

Even if she hasn’t asked his what’s app it’ll her know you know.

Or

you could just say that you are WFH and as long as they park quietly and leave driveway straight away you’ll allow it.

Depends how much you want to build bridges vs getting even!!!!

I'd ask her why you should allow her to park on your driveway after the way she's treated you.

I'd say no. Her visitors can park elsewhere. I once had a neighbour park their second car on our drive when they had visitors. We told her her to get it moved.

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

🤣 Love that film.

I wouldn’t want to be blocked in. I also wouldn’t want to have to go park on the street just so someone else could use my drive. It really doesn’t matter how good of a relationship I have with the neighbors.

my opinion is definitely influenced by living in the middle of nowhere and being completely car dependent.

Then rather obviously no! She’s a very cf to ask given her recent behaviour/exclusion.

Its your land so you can say what you like but if it were me and i had the space id consider whether a short term slight or long term quasi good footing was better for me

Ok , as it's a couple of weeks till the party then wait a while .
Did she just ignore you the once ? Or has she blanked you each time you;ve said hello ?
Surely everyone can have an episode when they're thinking about 1001 things and seeing someone doesn't register ?

In a week or so she'll either ask you or not . But if you do this for her guests where would you park ? Do the guests have mobility issues that mean they need to be near ? (In which case they should park on her drive )

It sounds like you;ve decided "No" which is absolutely your right to do .

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