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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

212 replies

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

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Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 10:18

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

Let her do it. It's only one day. If you say no she might make life mire difficult. Not worth the hassle. If she then makes trouble in future tell her to eff off and cut contact completely

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 01/09/2025 10:21

It would be a hard NO from me op

awkwardasfuck · 01/09/2025 10:25

Please can we have a diagram of the parking spaces 🤣🙏🏼

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:38

PigletSanders · 01/09/2025 09:59

Are you always such a mug? 🤣

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If that’s what you want to call it, yes!

I’d describe it a choosing my battles, and unnecessary battles with neighbours are pointless and self-defeating.

nomas · 01/09/2025 10:47

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Fuck being the bigger person!

Tell her no, the silly twat.

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:38

If that’s what you want to call it, yes!

I’d describe it a choosing my battles, and unnecessary battles with neighbours are pointless and self-defeating.

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The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 10:54

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

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Being a so called yes person does not necessarily mean doormat. Some ppl just pick their battles wisely.

LesCigaresVolants · 01/09/2025 10:55

I wouldn't let her park on my drive. Not out of petty grievance, but because she has form for bad faith actions. I would not trust her to tell her friends to move the cars in a timely manner after the party (a pp's point about alcohol consumption is a good one). There's a chance your husband will return home and be unable to park on his own drive. I also wouldn't trust her and her friends not to come up with a story about her car being damaged whilst on your drive.

I also don't think she will ask you, but she may just direct her friends to park there anyway and claim your husband gave his permission. I would be parking
my own car in such a way that no other cars can be driven onto your drive.

Don't say anything to her about it, and if she does ask you, just politely say no, it's not possible. You don't owe her any further explanation.

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:57

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

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It takes two to have a battle. There is no battle. The OP just doesn’t like her neighbour, and of course that’s fine. No need to turn it into something bigger than that.
You still have to live beside each other.

Harrysmummy246 · 01/09/2025 10:58

Generally, if people ask, we say yes (e.g. can I nip across this bit of your garden to get to the industrial units or can we put a banner on your fence to advertise to passing traffic) but if it happens without asking, remove/stop/no

I've always offered our driveway for people to pop over/ walk dogs from/ run trails from.

But then my nearest neighbours are 1/4 mile away. Yes, our house/ location is a bit unique....

Isobel201 · 01/09/2025 11:00

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Following this information, I'd say no and make sure no visitors can get on your driveway. If she was being friendly then that'll be different, but clearly since she can't even get over a small misunderstanding, then I wouldn't even entertain her requests.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 11:02

How big is your drive

you if they park on it , you won’t be able to park on it

so Where does she expect you to park ?

but see if she asks the first

C8H10N4O2 · 01/09/2025 11:11

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

So both your cars will be at home and that fills the drive? So all the drama is unnecessary and academic, there is no space. Why can you or DH simply not say there is no space?

FWIW if I had the space available I would generally say “yes” in this scenario for such a small favour to a neighbour.

Original poster
cheeryi · 01/09/2025 11:36

The party is for her child’s birthday, it will be from 11am - 4pm but she will be having family stay over.

OH is at work until 6pm, so in theory there would only be enough space for one extra car until 6pm
The drive can only accommodate 2 cars.

I was always friendly and nice to her and she chose to side with another neighbour whom at the time she was close too (they have now fallen out) over a misunderstanding that was cleared up last week.

This other neighbour advised me to be careful of her.

When we first moved in she would have her visitors park here, our house wasn’t empty, she would direct her neighbours to park on our driveway until I told her to stop doing it.

I think I am just best staying clear of her, a simple hello if she talks but to leave it at that.

If she asks I will tell her it’s not convenient and leave it at that.

In not going to go out of my way to be nasty to her and confront her about excluding me from the Facebook group ignoring me, but I won’t be helping her or doing her any favours.

Being neighbourly works both ways.

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SuPollardsPolkaDotFrock · 01/09/2025 11:36

anon12345anon · 31/08/2025 18:09

Wtf!! Shock
She ignores you, shit stirs, and deliberately didn't invite you into a neighborhood WhatsApp group - would I fuck let her park on your drive!!!

Absolutely not!!

This is exactly how I would feel. Why is everyone ignoring the way this neighbour has behaved toward OP, and now only because she wants something suddenly starts talking to not her - but her husband asking for favours? Fuck right off love.

Billybagpuss · 01/09/2025 11:40

She’s not going to ask, she knows she’s been a twat and is too embarrassed

rainbowstardrops · 01/09/2025 12:19

So she’s a cheeky fucker anyway and there would only be space for one of her guest’s cars anyway, so I’d tell her that you’re working from home and will be using the driveway for your car. What happens if her guest hangs around and is still there at 6pm when your DH comes home and needs the space?
Tell her the guests will have to park on the road like other people have to do.
I’d add that if she hadn’t been cheeky and nasty in the past then I’d let her squeeze a car on next to yours but not with her previous behaviour!

Owly11 · 01/09/2025 12:36

She won’t ask you. But if she does you need to say no, because she has poor boundaries and will start using your drive again without asking.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:02

If she asks I would say yes you don’t mind this one time

but only till 4 as then you need to pop out but will be returning and dh will be back from work soon after that

7372RR · 01/09/2025 13:23

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:02

If she asks I would say yes you don’t mind this one time

but only till 4 as then you need to pop out but will be returning and dh will be back from work soon after that

Why would she say that she doesn't mind to someone who has blatantly ignored her, doesnt have the backbone to ask her directly, and set up a whatsapp group not including her? Stop encouraging women to be people pleasers.

OP isn't a rug to be walked over

MyLimeGuide · 01/09/2025 13:43

PoshDuckQuarkQuark · 31/08/2025 17:54

If it's not convenient then say no.

If it wouldn't cause any bother then it would be a nice gesture.

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face...

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face...
Love this saying! 😆❤😂

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/09/2025 13:51

Those telling OP to do it, would you park elsewhere just so a neighbour's guest could park on your drive? Really?

Redburnett · 01/09/2025 13:55

Just say no it is not convenient. Once you agree to this on one occasion it is likely that she will start telling guests on other occasions that it is fine. Set a precedent now by simply saying no.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:57

7372RR · 01/09/2025 13:23

Why would she say that she doesn't mind to someone who has blatantly ignored her, doesnt have the backbone to ask her directly, and set up a whatsapp group not including her? Stop encouraging women to be people pleasers.

OP isn't a rug to be walked over

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As it’s no biggie to her

there will be room for a car

I agree with other replies

don’t cut your nose off to spite face

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:58

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/09/2025 13:51

Those telling OP to do it, would you park elsewhere just so a neighbour's guest could park on your drive? Really?

Op doesn’t have to

she has 2 spaces.

Her dh is at work til early evening