Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

I doubt she will want to ask you - your DH was wise to say she should ask you. I'd let her stew over approaching you.

@Friendlygingercat I like the cut of your jib.

Tell her to ask on her FB group, it won't kill her guests to have a short walk.

I dont understand where your cars will be if you let them use your drive?

Id also not hold my breath that she will actually ask you. She's already avoided doing so by asking your DH.

Is this a joke post? If not - absolutely the biggest wtaf ever

No! no and thrice no! The problem with agreeing to things like this is she will instantly become the CF and then any visitors she has will be directed to your drive. Seriously, they will take the mickey, especially as she has seen fit to ignore you

Why on earth would you say yes if she's ignoring you? Mad.

Let her.

It’s never good to fall out with neighbours whoever’s fault it was.

At the very least it should help the ndn relationship between you, even if it is just on a cordial basis.

My advice would be to always be polite and friendly but keep neutral, and don’t ever be in each other’s pockets.

That doesn't make sense if you need your drive, tell her no

She ignores you then has the cheek to ask a favour? I’m afraid it’d be a ‘no’ from me, she’s using you. Say yes and there’s every chance she’ll be back to snubbing you after the party.

"When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive."

That makes it an absolute 'no' from me. The ignoring and FB shit just reinforces it.

I'd say yes as if you dont it'd probably build hostility forevermore which I don't think id want to live with. Be the bigger person.
She is CF though!

I wouldn't. She is the type to use you as a doormat and complain you're not flat enough.

Besides, she's not speaking to you for no reason whatever (verified reason that is) so she won't be able to ask. And if she did, I'd say: "Let me see. You've treated me like shit on your shoe for no reason whatsoever, specifically excluded me from your FB group, ignored me when I politely speak to you. Why on earth would I do you a favour now?"

If she hasn't asked you yet then just ignore and make sure your driveway is not accessible.

The rest of it all sounds petty and childish - I'd be keeping myself to myself

Just be aware it is the tip of the iceberg. You'll be asked to give up your drive a lot in the future, and your neighbor may get angry if you refuse.

Eh? If it would mean you couldnt park in your own drive then obviously don't say yes!

I genuinely don’t get the ‘be the bigger person’ comments thinking that being mugged off by a piece of work is a virtue - it’s not it’s showing you’re a doormat who is happy being trampled on.

As is often said on here ‘when someone shows you who they are believe them’ - she’s shown you she’s a twat, any answer other than flat no will make her think you’re a weak mug.

She thought she'd blindside DH and is probably shocked he didn’t roll over

Why should OP inconvenience herself for the CF though?

Just say no its not convenient. expect someone to park across your drive though.

Several times I have said yes (or offered) my parking for neighbours' events but that is because we are on good terms. But I have also had trouble with one (not next door) neighbour who has thankfully now moved. It would have been a hard no to them if they had asked.

@ShodAndShadySenators I love this
"She is the type to use you as a doormat and complain you're not flat enough."

it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Well in that case it doesn't make sense does it? Just say, no because my car will be on the drive and please don't block me in, I will need to come and go.

I would also make a point of moving your car to the edge of the drive so that no-one can come in behind you . Also maybe put some boxes or something on your dropped kerb so they can't block you in.

No. She’s a weasel. She can’t even muster the respect to ask you! Pathetic. Also I agree that she would absolutely take the piss out of this favour.

Has she done YOU any favours? You don’t describe them.

I wouldn't mind tbh. I would say it was ok as a one off. The concern is though that because you've agreed once she will feel it's ok to do it again. And unless you're ok with that, it could cause further tension if you say no next time.

Second thoughts - I think it's more sensible to say no!😂

I doubt she will have the backbone to ask you directly, that's why she went to your H.

If she actually does, then I would say " No, due to the fact you are only bothering to speak to me because you want something".

Ignore the "take the higher ground" people - they are usually the first to tell OTHERS to #bekind and never the first to follow that advice