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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

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pizzaHeart · 31/08/2025 20:39

I think if you won’t be able to park your cars on the drive the answer is simple : no I’m wfh that day and our car will be on the drive.

ConnieHeart · 31/08/2025 20:41

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

She sounds like a CF of the first order for everything you've listed. And she's already being a coward for asking your OH. I would have said yes if it wasn't inconveniencing you at all but it is, so I'd refuse

jonthebatiste · 31/08/2025 20:43

She asked your DH because she didn’t want to ask you. But she still wants a favor from you/DH.

For that alone I would make myself unavailable for any requests. If she does manage to ask I would tell her you’ll speak to DH and keep saying that until the day of the party. If someone does park there on the day I’d be going round there during the party and asking for the car to be moved because I need to go out. But I’m at a stage where I both don’t give a shit what anyone thinks of me but also won’t allow people to come into my life with shit. I would make no effort to repair the relationship she damaged because I wouldn’t need to and my previous decency was thrown back in my face. I’m not an idiot.

intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 20:53

If it doesn't inconvenience you, I woukd say yes. Be the bigger person and don't add fuel to the fire. Hopefully some kind acts will receive the tension

TitaniasAss · 31/08/2025 20:56

I can't be doing with petty shit so I would just let her use it, if she asks.

itsgettingweird · 31/08/2025 20:58

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

If it means you taking your cars off the drive that surely defeats the point?

I thought she was wanting to use spare space.

Her guests can just park where you would have if you moved!

the5thgoldengirl · 31/08/2025 21:10

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Robin67 · 31/08/2025 21:12

YANBU and I would not allow this because of her behaviour and the cheek of going behind my back to my husband

Robin67 · 31/08/2025 21:14

Elbowpatch · 31/08/2025 18:02

Don’t move to the village I live in. You would probably be ducked in the pond and then burnt at the stake.

For the Greater Good.

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the5thgoldengirl · 31/08/2025 21:16

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Tistheseason17 · 31/08/2025 21:19

I don't do favours for people who are continually rude to me.

Also, something will go wrong and you'd regret saying yes if you did! She'd prob tell people to park on it again!

Moral high ground can also be to say no and move on. I don't hang out with my neighbours.

Glittertwins · 31/08/2025 21:28

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

You’ve answered your own question. Definitely do not put her convenience before yours either.

TwistedWonder · 31/08/2025 21:32

No way would I agree. It could be a straight no - j don’t owe her an explanation or a discussion.

youalright · 31/08/2025 21:32

If you do decide to say no park in a way that makes others not able to park on your drive otherwise they will just do it anyway

Seismicshift · 31/08/2025 21:41

Where is she expecting you to park while it's going on and where will her visitors park, if not on your drive?

We might need a diagram....

Shinyandnew1 · 31/08/2025 22:07

Why did her disagreement with another neighbour mean she stopped talking to you?

I wouldn't let anyone who wasn't talking to me park on my driveway, no.

Has she actually asked you?

Talkingfrog · 31/08/2025 22:19

First she has to summon up the nerve/courage/brass neck ( pick whichever you think is more appropriate) to ask you yo your face. If she doesn't it becomes a non issue.
If she does, and you feel it would inconvenience you then say no, because xxx. Giving a valid reason means you are not saying no out of spite.
If she moans to others that you said no, and anyone mentions if you can ask if she also told them why.
Things to consider for me would be

  • how long will they be staying ( are you likely to need go out, or have someone park when neighbour's guest is there ).
-is there any chance the person could drink any alcohol at the party - if so you could be stuck with them nit being able to drive the car or staying overnight.
  • will neighbour take advantage of you say yes, and expect to use it at other times.
Friendlygingercat · 31/08/2025 22:24

Im on the "Ill be using the drive for my own car that day" team. Ive never kowtowed to neighbours. But then I am vindictive that way with CF people.

I have a drive which fits two cars and lockable gates at the bottom. I dont drive or own a car and I keep the gates locked for security reasons. One of my neighbours (opposite on a corner so not immediate) asked it she could park one of her vehicles on my drive. They didnt have room for them all and shed noticed mine was available.

So why the hell buy cars you dont have room for? No its not bloody available.

I told her that "I never thought of hiring out my drive. I will consider it and give you a price if my insurer clarifies who would be responsible for the vehicle and the legal position if it or my drive were to be damaged. But it will be near commercial rate so not a cheap option." I knew she had no intention of paying and watched her face freeze and the swift intake of breath. I helpfully suggested she ask the women next door who has moved in with her daughter and the house is empty. "They might appreciate having a vehicle on their drive to make the house look occupied and let you do it for free."

JustSawJohnny · 31/08/2025 22:51

I'd let her so you look like the bigger person to the other neighbours but I'd also point out how poorly she's treated you recently and then still comes asking you for a favour.

Let her know that if she ever pulls that shit on you again that she needn't bother asking.

Maddy70 · 31/08/2025 23:00

Say yes of course. Hope she has a lovely party.
This is how to move forward nicely

Coconutter24 · 31/08/2025 23:04

If she does ask I’d say no given her behaviour. I would also park my car on the edge of my drive and blocking access for any of her guests incase she just tells them to park on your drive

Ratafia · 31/08/2025 23:23

I think I'd be prepared to say Yes this much with a view to repairing the relationship. It's always useful to be on good terms with your neighbours. Then ask about the FB group. If she's not prepared to meet you half way, make a note never to do her a favour again.

Dippythedino · 31/08/2025 23:31

JSMill · 31/08/2025 18:01

If she asks you, I would bring up the fact she has ignored you and excluded you from the Facebook group. I wonder if she will actually ask you. Make sure you park on your driveway that day if you don’t hear from her before then.

Maybe tell her to ask the neighbours that she's already befriended on the fb/WhatsApp pages as she already has a connection with them.

TheSaltedCaramelPath · 31/08/2025 23:31

If you do agree, get her to specify exact times.
”yes, 2 pm till 4.30 pm could work for me on that day, but not otherwise if it’s outside those times”
(So she knows there is a clear time limitation, and it’s not a permanent free for all - given that she has been stirring things up)

ZenNudist · 31/08/2025 23:55

ScaryM0nster · 31/08/2025 17:50

If it’s no skin off your nose, yes you’re being unreasonable.

If it’ll cause you issues, explain.

This. FGS its not a big ask unless it somehow inconveniences you, then you can't do it.