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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

212 replies

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

OP posts:
4forksache · 01/09/2025 00:01

She won’t ask you. I doubt she expected your dh to say what he did.

DiscoBeat · 01/09/2025 00:03

LilacRos · 31/08/2025 17:56

It would be a good way to repair relations.

I agree

InterestedDad37 · 01/09/2025 00:04

Clear the air, bury the hatchet (not in her head, obvs), give each other a hug and say "yes of course". Life's too short for petty little arguments over nothing important👍
This is your 'go to' answer 👍

EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/09/2025 00:09

Well you don't actually know which neighbour is the shit stirrer as you're trusting the one that originally ignored you.
I'd keep a friendly distance from both of them.
Let her park on this occasion for the sake of it.

HerecomesMargo · 01/09/2025 00:38

ThejoyofNC · 31/08/2025 17:52

If she's going out of her way to ignore/exclude you then she's got a cheek to ask for favours. Just say no.

Agree. The double cheek of going to your dh too! She probably won’t ask you, but if she did I would well prepare to have a friend visit or have something to say No to.

HerecomesMargo · 01/09/2025 00:40

IdaGlossop · 31/08/2025 18:31

Maintain the moral highground and agree.

What a naive Nancy you are. People like her don’t have an epiphany and sudden change of heart. They use you and ignore you once they get what they want. Moral high ground to WHO 🤣🤣

mondaytosunday · 01/09/2025 00:46

I would. Life’s too short to be petty. Take the high road and show you can be a good neighbour, even if she can’t.

Mum2twoandacockapoo · 01/09/2025 00:47

Can see the people pleasers on this post …

No chance , she would just ignore you again afterwards . And this is why people get away with using others coz they get enough ppl offering to bow down to them .

YANBU to say no .

TellMeMaMeMa · 01/09/2025 01:42

The CF expected your husband to say yes. She won't ask you. But even if she did, the answer is no.

It's never as simple as some reasonable person using your space for a few hours: you'll end up with a pissed up party-goer's vehicle overnight, or a driveway covered in oil, or they'll reverse over your plants/fence/cat or some other bullshit.

Also, if you have to move your cars, find another way of blocking your drive that day. Otherwise you'll find the CF's guests parking there anyway.

Don't engage. You'll get no thanks. Who cares if you look petty or whatever. Save yourself the headache. And don't forget - as I see so often on MN - no good deed goes unpunished.

AardvarkaKedavra · 01/09/2025 03:58

I'd say you'll be home that day, and therefore your own cars will be on your drive. Definitely wouldn't put myself out to make things easier for her.

pinkbackground · 01/09/2025 05:46

It’s just say yes as it’s only a one off.

Truetoself · 01/09/2025 06:18

if she does actually ask you then that’s your chance to heal the rift that has appeared for whatever reason

HelpMeGetThrough · 01/09/2025 06:20

Fairyforest · 31/08/2025 17:58

I am a firm believer in karma and what goes around, comes around. It would be a no from me, but I have no interest in being friendly with neighbours anyway.

You would be my perfect neighbour.

HelplessSoul · 01/09/2025 06:59

Maddy70 · 31/08/2025 23:00

Say yes of course. Hope she has a lovely party.
This is how to move forward nicely

Christ.

This sums up why the world is so messed up. 🤦‍♂️

Words fail me.

Coconutter24 · 01/09/2025 07:13

ZenNudist · 31/08/2025 23:55

This. FGS its not a big ask unless it somehow inconveniences you, then you can't do it.

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It’s also not a big ask to respond with hello when someone says hello to you, it’s not a big ask to add one extra neighbour to a group chat whilst you’re adding other neighbours

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:16

sounds like a petty fall out. Be the bigger person OP

Whyherewego · 01/09/2025 07:18

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Well if there's no space on the drive for your cars and her visitor's cars then that's very simple isn't it.
The answer is no. Your DH was being pathetic by not answering no straight away because if he knew you were at home that day then he knew darn well your car would be there too.
"Sorry Anne, I will be home and using the car that day so I will need access to my drive"

Simple as that.

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 07:19

Mum2twoandacockapoo · 01/09/2025 00:47

Can see the people pleasers on this post …

No chance , she would just ignore you again afterwards . And this is why people get away with using others coz they get enough ppl offering to bow down to them .

YANBU to say no .

Absolutely agree. She’s not interested in ‘healing the rift’ theses types only want it uk work one way.

I would guarantee she’ll go back to being a twat afterwards with the added knowledge she sees the OP as a doormat if she says yes.

And I agree she thought the DH would say yes without having to engage with the OP.

GAJLY · 01/09/2025 07:22

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

In that case I'd be inclined to say no. I'd only allow it as a one off if we were on friendly terms.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 01/09/2025 07:22

Kill her with kindness, better to not let her think she’s rattled you. Maybe ensure there re some boundaries so ask what time the car will be leaving just to remind her it’s a favour, but be all smiles.

SatsumaDog · 01/09/2025 07:36

It would be a straight no from me. You can’t be an asshole towards someone and then expect a favour. If she asks why, tell her straight.

Billybagpuss · 01/09/2025 07:45

Do you think she’ll actually have the guts to ask you? She went to do rather than you.

EponeeRae · 01/09/2025 07:45

ScaryM0nster · 31/08/2025 17:50

If it’s no skin off your nose, yes you’re being unreasonable.

If it’ll cause you issues, explain.

Exactly. Everything else is immaterial.

PigletSanders · 01/09/2025 07:47

Tell her no if she asks. And if she doesn’t, make sure you’ve got a load of things blocking your drive on the day. Have fun with it. 😈

Mirandawrongs · 01/09/2025 07:50

She won’t ask you.

she’s asked your husband because you are too unreasonable and she’s hoping he agrees.
luckily your husband knows this only affects you and, unlike many husbands on here, has told her to check with you. She won’t.
you will be of course slagged off in the neighbours group but hey ho.