Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

[cheeryi]

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

Don’t cause unnecessary problems with your neighbours. It never ends well.

This.

And it shows if you say yes to it. She will try to turn it into them parking on your drive any time.

Is it not the NDN who is creating unnecessary problems here?

By ignoring the OP who says hello for example.
Or the FB stuff
Or just using the driveway wo asking.

What a lot of nerve.... Suddenly talks when she wants something. Tell her to go piss up a rope.

I’d have a frank conversation with her. “Hi neighbour. I hear that you asked my DH if your guests could use our driveway. However it seems a bit of a strange ask, as you don’t seem to be talking to me lately. I said hello to you the other day and you ignored me. So I’m not sure why you would ask us for a favour? Also I’m aware you have created a group for the road and not invited us. It’s fine if you don’t want to speak to me or include us in the group, but I’m not sure why you would then ask us to be neighbourly”

The Cheeky Fucker is playing games, treating you like an idiot and then creeping up to your DH when she wants a favour. Fuck that shit. Park at an angle or invite a friend over with a car so there is no room for anyone else to park on your driveway.

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive

In that case - at least for me - it would have to be a no, unless you want it to spread and get an "Oooo I thought you didn't mind" if you say anything

If you want to take the sting out of it you could always say you're going to need the drive that day for visitors of your own ...

Not saying hello could simply be that her mind was elsewhere and she didn’t even realise OP was there. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once. But even if she NEVER says hello to her, so what?

Facebook, Schmacebook. Who the hell cares?

And the parking in her drive was when the OP first moved in - presumably this had started when the house was empty, and stopped once it was clear a new family had arrived.

A skewed/distorted narrative is very easy to create as it’s always from a single perspective and will cause nothing but drama.
If you want a calm, happy life, don’t antagonise neighbours (regardless of how you feel about them). You have to live side by side, so have to make the best of it.

Install a retractable bollard / parking security post on your driveway.

It’s also a no from me. I don’t believe in the “be the bigger person” shite. If you say yes to your neighbour, she will mistake your kindness for weakness and take advantage of you and your drive in the future.

If it was me, I'd get your husband to tell her no (she won't talk to you so why should you have to tell her?)
And then, if possible, park your car(s) so that they definitely can't get on to your drive.
But then, I can be really petty 😀
More than that though, I hate typocrites and users - she won't talk to you and then wants a favour? Cheeky cow.

If you do let her park then you must absolutely call her out on her behaviour. Even if you passively aggressively say something like, oh I thought you weren't talking to me... Etc she is incredibly rude and outright cheeky. I wouldn't go out of your way to help her. If she apologised for her rudeness then I would help but she hasn't...

So where are you supposed to put your cars and why can't her guests put their cars wherever you're expected to put yours?

It's a big fat no from me

It's a no from me. She's a cheeky bitch

What @anon12345anon said.

And I would hope that your DP would have your back and tell her to get lost too!

Love this. Brilliant response.

Just say yes. It's so much hassle having a feud with a neighbour. If you do her a favour, you'll be in a position to ask her a favour later. It'll make your life easier in the long run.

Why wouldn't you?
It is a perfectly nice neighbourly thing to do.

And she has given you adequate warning.

It means that you, too, can ask to do the same if you need to hold a wake at your place etc.

I love that too - I’m gonna have to steal for future use

Are you always such a mug? 🤣

Is there room for all your cars plus one/two?
If so, I'd be generous and say 'We are going to be in and out a lot that day, so it would only be convenient for one/two cars to stay all day. If you put yours in first then we can still come and go while you have your party'

Definitely don’t let her.
Remind her that once people learn how to drive that doesn’t make them allergic to walking.
They are perfectly capable of parking further away and walking to her front door.

No. Absolutely not. The floodgates will then be opened and visitors will park there in future unannounced. I would also do something to prevent them from parking on your driveway for this party, as I have a feeling they’ll park there anyway even if you say no 🤷‍♀️

I would message her saying something like: “I understand you’d like to use our drive, I’m finding it a bit odd you’d ask us for a favour as the other day you ignored me and haven’t included me in your Facebook group. However, if you’re looking to move on from that in a friendly way I’d like to make the effort too and say yes.”