Couple having sex in front of window

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My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

Send them a note saying politely as possibly they may not be aware but their sex shows are the talk of the steamie so could they possibly shut the curtains. They may absolutely not be aware they are being seen at night. Keep a record of what've you've sent. Or go and talk to them. If they ignore it then phone the police and ask for advice.
I think it is their problem people seeing it- its the same as flashing and from previous threads on here- the police will go and talk to them.

My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.

I bet your creepy husband did, dirty bugger. 🤣

How about, if you like seeing sunsets and stars, look at the sky, not your neighbours’ window.

I thiink it is potentially breaking the law - indecent exposure that is potentially upsetting children. I suspect though that the police wouldn't be interested but I might be wrong.

You could try a letter but I suspect that might backfire because they sound like exhibitionists but they might not be.

Probably the best thing to do is take measures to prevent your children from seeing them.

It's about the children seeing it. No problem about them knowing about sex but you do not want their first introduction to be from seeing exhibitionists doing it - and maybe doing things that you might wish your children to learn about more gradually and when old enough to understand.

It is all very well to say pull the curtains - that is an adult choice - but does not solve the problem. A child cannot say: "Oh look what is happening there; I should not be looking at this/seeing this, so I must close the curtains!"

The parents cannot be running around checking what is going on over the road all the time, so as to be able to close the curtains at the appropriate moment.

I would contact them in whichever way you choose to tell them that you have a problem with this and wish them to turn off the light or get curtains. If they do not respond, I would tak with the local police.

Or maybe the neighbours could just stop having sex in a place where they clearly know they can be seen from neighbouring properties?

This is not the OP's problem to fix. It is inappropriate and probably something the neighbours get off on. A letter is the way to go, nothing hugely formal, just a casual note telling them that just for their information their bedroom windows are clearly visible from the upper floors of No 76 or whatever. If they carry on, then yes, I think this is something worth reporting.

Your neighbour clearly knew what she was doing when she installed floor the ceiling windows and no curtains in a room she gets fucked in.

I’d do everything I can to protect your children from this.

I'd speak to the police and ask them where you stand legally, if it's illegal hopefully the police will have a word. If it's not a police matter I'd drop them a note and appeal to their better nature, even if they like the idea of adults seeing them surely they wouldn't want small children to see

Sell tickets.

It’s quite obvious that it’s indecent exposure. Tell the police. I can guarantee they won’t laugh, as…it’s not even remotely funny. It’s abusive.

I'd speak to the police and ask them where you stand legally,

for the best view ?

Oh, stop mucking about at the back.

It's really inappropriate of them and there are some dickish (oh so predictable) replies on this thread from posters falling over themselves to point out what a prude you are (you're not) and how cool they are (they're not.) It's indecent and disrespectful of your neighbours. I'd definitely try the letter but I'd expect it will be ignored, so perhaps then look at partial film on the windows so the sky etc can still be seen, whilst blocking out these self indulgent show offs.

If a man was stood wanking at the window while kids are outside, people would rightly be in uproar. But a couple having sex with lights on and blinds open where kids could see, and everyone thinks they have the right to do what they want in their own house? Madness.

I live in a terraced house and the gardens are so close together that when you're out in the back you can see into neighbours' houses, which is why I keep my blinds down, but not everyone does and I saw a live performance on the floor of nextdoor's conservatory when I was hanging out my washing complete with sound effects "Yes Andy don't stop Andy". Terrible! They left the lights on at night when they were at it.

The police came and removed a man who used to live near us who was stood naked in his window.
He used to do this when it was time for the local bus at tea time and as soon as it was reported to the police they came almost immediately. (this was only a couple of years ago so they do take it seriously).

Weird how many people on here think indecent exposure/outraging public decency is funny/reasonable/the fault of the “creepy” person who is exposed to it (by people who will be well aware of what they are doing and appear to have no qualms about the possibility of kids seeing them).

For goodness sake why should OP have to??

OP put an anonymous letter through to start with (post it if you don't want to go to their house) saying something like:

Whislt we're all very happy for you that you clearly have a thriving sex life, please invest in some blinds so my children don't also have to be privvy to it.

I'm a police officer. Just because something is technically occurring inside a private dwelling doesn't automatically mean no offence has taken place. I had to go and give strong words of advice to a young ish bloke wandering around his flat completely stark bollock naked and people were keeping their kids indoors because of it. He was mortified tbf. Hopefully your neighbours will be the same when you send the letter.

Or turn the bloody light off.

Can’t believe some people think this is fine.

Looking it up it may be your DH' offence for looking!

In the UK, it is generally not illegal to have sex in your own home with the curtains open, as long as you are in a private residence and there is no child present who is harmed by the act. However, it can become a criminal offense under the Sexual Offences Act 2003 if you are observing another person's private sexual act for sexual gratification without their consent, which could apply in a situation where your neighbor is exposed and looking.

Don't be ridiculous. There is no "sex show". Some people who live in a house some distance away are living their lives. Anyone who doesn't like it may buy their own blinds or curtains.

OP, if your husband saw a lot of detail, he must have spent a lot of time watching.

I would not care about seeming to be a prude. I would write a letter to them. It won't do any harm.

I don't know if doing it in front of the window with no curtains and the light on would count as indecent exposure.

There is a thread somewhere on here where a lady had an elderly man completely nude in either his garden or his doorway and the police would not intervene as he was doing nothing wrong. Then he started masturbating and the police did have the authority to intervene. They told him off essentially but didn't charge him, just warned him, and it stopped. I would not expect them to be in genuine trouble for this. However, the embarrassment might cause them to invest in curtains.

And would they comment, that the women were watching with binoculars and wanking to it?

How far away are they? You've not said.

If they are over the road(ish) then I think you should drop them a note from a 'concerned neighbour' pointing out they can be seen.

If they are 1/4 mile away and only visible by standing at your window and 'searching' for them as you've heard they do this.

The distance is the key to this but even if YOU are too far away to complain are their other houses closer?

There is a public decency law so maybe think of that?

Nooo absolutely not. Excruciating. Just write a polite respectful anonymous letter letting them know they can be seen by children. They’re probably not aware.