Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

[theoneortwo]

And I know they say ‘people come along when you least expect it’ but I never ever thought this would happen to me.

im 29, British, recently I came out of a long term relationship and I am currently on holiday with my family.

I’ve met a lovely Turkish man whilst here. Completely unexpectedly, he was working on one of the tours we went on 4 days ago.

I know it sounds silly and cliche, but as soon as I saw him it’s like I just knew I needed to get to know him. We didn’t speak much on the trip itself since he was obviously busy working - but after when he was showing us the photos he’d taken, we swapped numbers and have been chatting ever since.

He has asked to take me for dinner tomorrow evening (locally in the resort town we are staying in) my mum is saying go for it, but my dad seems to have reservations and is telling me not to be so stupid and naive..

This man hasn’t shown me any red flags or given me reason to distrust him.

Im kind of in the mindset that I’m here on holiday, it’s probably not going to progress.. so let’s see what happens?

has anybody else ever been in this situation, meeting a guy abroad / getting to know somebody from a different country?

I know there are huge complex loopholes and issues IF we did get to know each other more and develop a relationship - due to distance etc.

would love to know thoughts please, as I’m really in two minds.

Thank you ☺️

or this?

Go for dinner , but don't give him your address in the UK or give him money or listen to him if he tells you that you are the one .
My Dad can't be trusted but most Dad's know exactly what this man is up to.

Exactly - it’s wild how the toys are thrown out and I’m called smug now because it actually worked out!

I can confirm my organs are still in my body ( 😳) passport is in tact, and I am happier than ever!

It's not. But if he is the sort to actually believe you should ask, then you should respect the answer.

This with bells on 😂

I think to be honest people don’t like being caught out with their small, narrow minded views. Exactly the point I was trying to prove.

and I am happier than ever!

Yes, someone truly happy and fulfilled with their life would typically spend a large proportion of two days in a row arguing online with complete strangers and insisting over and over again that they are so darned happy wouldn't they?

so this really does check out. 😂🫢

You think he's never done this before?

My friend met a bus driver in Cyprus.Love of her life bla bla bla. She used to go out there and ride the bus with him for 8 hours a day. Then a different type of ride then he had to go back and 'care for his sick mother'. He was actually married with 4 children who she discovered when she went out to surprise him on a Christmas visit.

Mind you the same woman got engaged on line to a guy living in Dubai who she'd never met. She was shocked when he turned out to be gay.

Why did you feel the need to do this? Was it to expose racism and prejudice?
An AMA might have been quite interesting, did you consider that?

Obviously not.
All just attention seeking.

I really don't think you can say it has worked out at this point. You've moved very quickly and don't seem to understand the terms of his visa.
Obviously I hope it does all work out. I've been married to my foreigner (though we didn't meet on holiday) for 12 years now. But you still need to be sensible and cautious. 2 years in the same country isn't long at all really and I don't think you've protected yourself and kids well enough at all. I'd say that wherever he was from.

Listen to your father he sounds like a sensible man.

This wasn’t about attention.

Ok, but let's be fair. We all know about holiday romance scammers, it's not uncommon. You did seem a bit naive. Instead of just slating people, maybe just reflect on that, a little.

@theoneortwo I can't stand untruthful posts, so I won't waste too much time on this one. Thankfully I decided against sharing my stories of being engaged to an American (couldn't make the money and visas work for marriage) and an Egyptian (living in the UK, but cultural differences) last night as you were just here goading and insincere.

All I hear is you have young children and a husband who isn't around for long periods of time because he needs to work in a foreign country, you need to live over two countries. I don't buy your smug little gotcha honestly, that scenario is HARD. I suspect you were and are a troll all along.

And it's telling that even now these posters are using their "experience" and "wisdom" to tell you it'll still never work out and you're still too stupid to realise that (as if marriages between white British people are so reliable).

And LOL at the idea that you've abused a site designed to help struggling women. AIBU is not and has never been that place - it's primarily about batshit bunfights and being catty. The racism has proliferated here of late.

Huge round of applause for exposing them!

I met a couple on holiday in Turkey in July - they were in their late 50/60’s. He was Turkish and they live in the UK and had been married for 40 years. She met him on holiday in Turkey

OP I worry he has done some weird Kurdish voodoo to you and you're being delusional here, please go see a British doctor and get a British MRI

All those pesky olive skinned forrins can do weird juju stuff to steal your organs and your passport, google it if you don't believe me

Oh hang on, Amazon just delivered my spray paint, I'm off 😊😊😊

What a strange attention seeking post.

OP, this post sadly confirms that MN has indeed become a far right site with really unpleasant racist views.
I’m so pleased everything has worked out for you and your family x

For us, it was love at first sight

You’re missing the point OP.

Most people don’t care (obviously some do) where he’s from, what race or culture he is.
They aren’t actually judging him.

They are judging you because you claim to have fallen in love at first sight.

It was 4 days and you were already head over heels and not thinking it straight.

If an OP came on here and said she’d met a waiter last weekend in her home town we’d all be saying by all means go to dinner but calm down and stop acting so silly, talking about her friends meeting waiters and getting married and having kids with them etc.

OP you have to see how it looks.
It’s not even about his culture (although some men and women do pretend to fall in love for a visa).
It’s about how desperate you acted. You were meant to be on holiday with your parents and you ditched them for a man you’d known for 4 days and it was ‘love at first sight’.

I don’t understand how you can’t see how ridiculous that sounds. It’s like a teenager.
Of course your relationship worked because you had to make it work because else you’d end up being another statistic.

I am not having a go and I 100% believe in love and that can be with any race or culture or country etc.

But you have to acknowledge how ridiculous your story is and how you acted easy and desperate (like many women do on holiday) and that this isn’t normal behaviour and not something you would ever do back at home.

This post is either:
True
A journo looking for some juicy stories to follow up
It’s near the end of school holidays; lots of bored young ones about

This whole thread is just the biggest cringe 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

Here is proof of how impossible it is to get through someone’s self delusion.

Go and polish the writing badge you got when you were 12 and convince yourself you’ve just started what will become a really, really amazing novel with a ‘plot twist’.

🤣