To ask, politely, and seriously, if you are in your 50s, what do you look like naked?

[Dontfuckingsaycheese]

Hi.
I’ll cut to the chase. I’m 55 and single (happily for the last 15 years or so).
This year, following a rather exciting reboot, I decided to try online dating and I have been having a lot of fun. Met a few nice men. No nasty ones 🙂 I have also fallen in love with my body again and have lost over 3 stone so now just over 9.5 stone.
I am amazed at how good this 55 year-old body looks, FROM SOME ANGLES AND IN SOME POSITIONS. I’ve been making a few videos and stills and I can look damn 🔥
However, I am alarmed how I look, mainly from the front, if I lean forward. Everything prunes, falls and elongates, and it’s scary!! I have met a man online who I am absolutely obsessed by. For a few reasons, it’s been a few months and we haven’t met yet. We’re due to meet up next month. He’s seen some pics and videos of me and loved them, but of course, I’ve been able to carefully curate them. I don’t want him to be disappointed in how bits of me look. I feel like I should warn him in some way. I know it shouldn’t matter, and he should like me as a person, but things have been tres flirty and I’m very keen to make it physical 😉 I feel like just explaining I’m aware there’s parts of me that are a bit time-ravaged. He’s a little older than me, so wondering if it’s the same for him… So he’ll understand I mean, and not run for the hills. I’m thinking of explaining this in terms of wanting to feel confident in bed, so it may be that, at times maybe I may wish to wear a top or something…
I’m wondering how others feel, any pearls of wisdom, advice, reassurance, amusing anecdotes to make me feel better… 🤔

I’m 58 and 2 stone heavier than you with a cs scar and a bit of overhang. No stretch marks though - by luck. I would describe myself as what seemed to be the epitome of beauty in the 17th century - a Rubens nude…

What really annoys me is the bit of crepey skin in my cleavage as I lean forward. DH either hasn’t noticed or isn’t bothered by it.

I don’t think he’s married. I have never felt a flicker of a concern here.
I hear what you’re saying, but I am not going to chance another 15 years in the vain hope I meet someone IRL…
I’m going for it now. There is a man I fancy and want to get to know him a bit more and do nice things with his body. What’s the harm in that?

But not too tame for sextortion?

I have a disfiguring skin condition-am a size 10 and nicely proportioned but when I undress, it’s so obvious and I think it’s ugly. My dh who I met at 48 thinks I’m beautiful-and when we first had sex, I honestly didn’t care too much about my skin-if he didn’t like me, I’d be better off. But the chemistry was great-if he fancies you he fancies you and you don’t have to contort yourself into ‘attractive angles’ in order to make him like you. Truly you don’t-he’s probably doing to meet you and see you in real life-it’s chemistry! And we still have it after 15 years-he still tells me how beautiful I am-even though my condition has worsened and will never go away. Good luck with your date!

If he's in his 50s, then he'll be seeing you in soft focus anyway, unless he's having sex with his reading glasses on.

If he's having sex with his reading glasses on, then you have a whole other issue.

You sound very silly for a woman in her 50s - sorry to be patronising but honestly! You’re sending videos and photos to some bloke you’ve never met. For him to wank over.

you are the porn.

And you’re obsessed with him. With what exactly? You’ve never clapped eyes on him in reality. You sound like an old time poster who’ wasn’t quite rooted in reality but I can’t quite recall her name ..

Your post made me smile. Yep. I acknowledged I’m not one for the wisest of decisions. 🙄
I have posted on here over the years over many topics, from evangelising about baby car-seats to offering fantastic tips when the fuel crisis loomed…Nothing overly noteworthy.
Tbh I like it that my pictures turn him on like that. We’re all different I guess, and I’m doing me. And hopefully him before too long.

I'm 50 next month, considerably overweight and probably look like the Pilsbury doughboy naked.

Didn't stop me resurrecting my sex life 8 years post divorce last year and all has been well.

Good luck!

What do I look like naked? Like a sort of gnarly, brown twig.

Obviously you missed the threads from distressed women whose photos and videos have been circulated, and from those who had to contact police due to being blackmailed...

Shag him if/when you meet him but don't give him 'evidence' of it.

Get some great undies, lovely supportive sexy bra and nice crotchless knickers - there are plenty that are not skimpy, I know from experience. I say crotchless because then you don't have to take them off if you get carried away in the moment, unless you want to.

Never allow full light, like never - diffused light from a crack in the curtains will do fine.

This is precisely what I did the first time I knew we were going to have sex 😅 was having the same fears as you, I'd been married before and nobody had seen me naked except my ex and time and kids had done their worst, as everything is to say the least rather melted looking. But underwear exists for a reason 😅

He absolutely loved it, btw, so much so that we had a mad steamy passionate courtship, got married and are still happily married and having lots of sex in our late 50s, with my wobbly tummy and all my other wobbly bits. And when I feel a bit more risque I still whip out the sexy undies.

The good thing is that men of a certain age weren't raised on plastic boobed pornbots, and are generally a lot more grateful for us just turning up and showing an interest in sex at all than the young men of today seem to be.

Sorry for laughing. At least twig means you're not fat like me, I am more like a semi melted marshmallow.

This. My bloke thinks I’m beautiful. It’s perfectly obvious that objectively I’m not but I’m not going to argue with him.

Yep, echoing pp, my partner thinks I'm gorgeous apparently - we didn't meet until I was 40, and I was even more overweight then than I am now. Fifteen years later and my tits have sagged a bit, my stomach is fat and squishy, and I've added a couple of chins to the mix.

The thing is, it's all about the chemistry, isn't it? You won't know until you meet, but I seriously doubt that you have anything to worry about.

Yes, I thought exactly this. Also, as a fifty something woman, I'm surprised at you blowing your own trumpet and describing yourself as damn hot. If you are so sure, where's all this angst come from? Who gives a shit what some man thinks?

Well I’m ‘only’ 48 but skin is hanging. My face and boobs are terribly saggy and I think my arse is beginning to head south. But I’m slim and lean with plenty of muscle. I don’t like to see myself naked but OH still seems pretty keen.

Wow. So much anger at another woman’s genuine and heartfelt question.

I was wondering more or less the same. The body may be in its fifties but ...

It's funny I've noticed that as I age, whilst I still remain 'trim' in size, now I'm in my 60s there's droopy bits here and there. I'm not too worried about it and maybe I might devote some time to gym exercise to get some tone again once I can take my foot off the pedal.

I think playing and working hard and keeping my ass off a seat for the majority of my working life has paid out on the fitness front for me although my 'face is a mess'.

In fact how about a crotchless full-body, Spanx-like, skin-coloured kind of wetsuit thing?

You can DTD without worrying one iota.

You know the old saying about after a certain age its either your bum or your face.

You sound so fixated on the physical to the exclusion of other aspects.

58 here ..married a life time ...look like a melted candle when naked .husband still fancies me though

Well those other aspects would come under the getting to know him a bit more. Well a lot more. I want to know everything but don’t want to get all Jeremy Paxman on him too soon!

Granddaughter! Op is 55, not 65.How many women do you know, that has a teenage/adult granddaughter at 55!?